Do you have the guts to say no?
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
24 responses
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
5 Nov 11
I would never ever ever ever call off my own wedding. Never.
unfortunatly, my girlfriend can't say the same.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
Then she isn't the One. If you Need to marry then the right woman will Need to marry you Just as much as you need to marry her. If she isn't into it, don't force her.
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
6 Nov 11
Well, I agree with you there, and that's the thing - I wouldn't want to marry anyone that doesn't want to marry me. But when we first got together, we were going to get married and we seemed so right for aech other, even my my mom said you need to find a house before you get married. And that's what we did, and I'm not saying I'm not happy, most of the time she is the One, or it seems like that. Anyway, have the house, even if I could, I really wouldn't want to leave because I know she would be devestated and I have always thought I would worry about her, even if she left.(though no matter what, if she did leave, I would never let her back) So I do have someone, I'm just never going to have a wedding.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
Then what is the problem? You both love each other , need each other . Why marry? I am so against marriage for myself I would never , Ever push for Anyone to marry. I thought you Wanted to marry and she didn't. As long as you agree , it is ok. Be Happy.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Nov 11
Honestly I would not call off the wedding. I would not have the guts to do it! I might be one of those brides who is a no show at the wedding,though! That I could see myself doing! I would have the guts to do that but not call it off! At least I don't have to worry about that because I will never get married!
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@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
6 Nov 11
Why are you guys saying that? You never know who might come along. That's what my girlfriend said about me. The door was almost closed to having another relationship because she was divorced twice and they were both not cood men, the second one was actually pretty bad. But then she said but if the right man drops out of the sky, who knows? She opened the door because she said she didn't know there were guys like me around. We've been together for ten years.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
Marty you are confusing love with marriage. I have love . I have found the One and I will Never marry him! Why? Because I know for me it is a choice , either I can marry Or have love. I can't have both. I am not man bashing when I say I will never marry. I'm saying I love men and that is why I will never marry one.In fact if my guy asked me I would say no!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
11 Nov 11
I'm glad you had the wedding you wanted, When you wanted.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
11 Nov 11
Thanks. I said no to kids at age 7 and a Hell No to marriage by age 13. Nothing has changed. I was thinking of Kim Kardashian when I wrote this post.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Nov 11
Hi behen
No. I am into a promise that I have made with myself that I will never be the one to initiate the Call Off thing. I love her more than she does me and I know that my life would be meaningless without her. reason is simple - I owe her all that I have now... dreams, aspirations and even in a sense the health. So I cannot even think of leaving her anytime
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
Bhai, Bahu loves you Just as much as you love her. I Know this! I wasn't talking about you two. I meant what if you Didn't feel the love you suppose to have to marry. What if you fell out of love , would you Still marry?
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
You got that right. So maybe I was Indian in my previous life and it was a loveless marriage. why? I Never thought love and marriage would go together for me , Ever!
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Nov 11
Oh. I got that wrong...
Okay, here, I will wait for some more time and maybe re-evaluate the situation. If it is not the love between us, Marrying would not be a better idea. Yes, many would say(indian mentality or anything) - once you marry, love will happen... but what if not? That would be quite scary... So definitely, if it is not love, marrying is unwise - I consider it that way.
hope I got this right this time
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
5 Nov 11
Well now, if that were me I would have no trouble saying no. No is my middle name. LOL. So what if there were millions invested in that marriage, if they did not want to go through with it, they should have just stopped where they were. Now they both look stupid.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
He looks more stupid than she. He married one of the most beautiful women and he did something and now she is gone.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Nov 11
Would I call of a dream wedding, I don't think may people call of any weddings even if its a dream wedding or not. Its better to call of the wedding if you know its not going to work out and only doing it to please the other person and not yourself and them as well. If I knew that my marriage isn't going to work out I would call of the wedding for sure.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
8 Nov 11
You know me. Any marriage would be disastrous for me.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Nov 11
I can't say yes and I can't say no to that one.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
5 Nov 11
I would never have married someone if I thought it was only going to last 72 days, this is just ridiculous and a publicity stunt, the more stunts the more money she makes
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
No. Kim wanted the fairy take wedding and she had it but... the marriage wasn't going to last. She saw the writing on the wall and left him.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
8 Nov 11
I would pray for rain. In fact I would hope it would be snowed out!
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
I have heard about that - Kim getting a divorce..mannn..one of those persons who desecrates the value of marriage.
Will, if i speak in terms of where i am now, i would say no.. we were living together for 7 years without the sanctity of marriage, it was tough, 100% tough.. it was hard, gruesome even lol.. i was on the verge of giving up, i was on the verge of quitting my friend.. but i never had the guts to say no because i know i have the guts to stay in that relationship, i have the guts to go through it all.. we've been through third parties..to financial woes..but we both have the guts to stay in this relationship and work it out and i am glad it did work out and i know that whatever will come, we will go through it hard or easy.
Well as for Kim maybe it just happen that she is one rich lady who just met that guy and never really get to know him..oh whatever - maybe its all for the money. just for the heck of it. so sad the value of marriage is taken for granted..but they should not have married in the first place.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
From what I saw on the rare occasions I watched their t.v. show , they both loved each other but.. he thought they would live one way and Kim thought they would live another. They just assumed the other would change. It wasn't for the money. Kim has Plenty of money. I'm glad you and your love have made it through the bad times. I don;t think a reality star has tarnished the idea of marriage. Many will marry and many will divorce.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
9 Nov 11
It seems like an awful waste of time to call something off after 72 days.
If it's not meant to be, then I would definitely call it off. I'm sure that even if it's hard to call it off before the wedding, it would definitely be even harder after.
But I think that's just me. I think these things don't apply to people like Kim Kardashian.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Nov 11
They do apply to her but like everything else , what she does is followed abs critiqued so much. I think she would have gotten even More flake if she stopped the wedding.
@anusha2128 (886)
• India
5 Nov 11
hey buddy, if the situation demands to call off wedding, that time I never think of seeing foregoing things.Definitely , i will call off the wedding.Moreover, it's my life , ishould act accordingly, which gives happiness to me.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
7 Nov 11
I am bashing nobody. People make mistakes and it's better to recognize them early and to find the courage to admit as to go on and make everybody's life a misery.
I don't think engagement is still hot here. You get married or you get not and it's fine with everyone. Engagement is not something much people will celebrate anymore.
I would call of the wedding if I was not sure, no matter what others think or say, but I do think that if I would do so those who know me wouldn't care at all and understand.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
7 Nov 11
I Think Kim did the right thing. She followed her heart in marrying because For her she Has to be in love to marry . And she did the right thing once she realized that it wasn't going to work out.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
It is possible to know someone in 6 months.I knew my guy in 6 months. In our 6 months I knew he was the love of my life but I never will marry period.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
Of course if you do not think you want to spend your life with the person or if he has done something that i know i wont be able to accept... Then i call it off. People will talk no matter what anyway and thex will eventually stop. So what the heck. I still do and will be firm on the decision if i have to.
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@mjcookie (2271)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
I'd only call off my wedding if I found out that he's cheating on me or if I realized that I'm not ready for it. If the situation really calls for it. But if it's for some petty reason, then of course not. But then, I won't even plan about getting married if I'm not sure about it at the first place.
@changjiangzhibin89 (16789)
• China
6 Nov 11
I know nothing about the details of Kim Kardashian's divorce after 72 days .I just feel that they somewhat regarded the marridge as a trifling matter.Maybe I jump to a conclusion,because every why has its wherefore.As for me,I have never thought calling off our wedding. We have stayed together for more than 30 years.Although,sometimes we have a quarrel with each other but we clear the atmosphere soon."There is no rose without a thorn."
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
I see true love as the rose and marriage itself the thorn. And like a good florist I pluck the thorns before I give out a rose.
@changjiangzhibin89 (16789)
• China
7 Nov 11
As to marriage ,different people, different views.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
5 Nov 11
Since, as you know, I don't follow celebrities and have never even heard of this person, I have no idea what the situation was, but assume it was the usual need for publicity or some desire to have a wedding. Myself, I almost did call off my wedding. I began to get cold feet and think I wasn't ready to get married. Turned out I was right. Although I'm glad now I didn't call it off, there were many years when I wondered if I'd made the right decision. I went ahead with it because my (now) husband made me feel really bad for trying to break it off, telling me I should have thought about that before we got engaged, etc. I think many people get cold feet right before they tie the knot.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
It isn't my feet that would be cold , but All of me. I agree with Hubby. If you think marriage isn't your thing , then say no and don't even get engaged! Everyone is saying it was a publicity stunt . But if it was Only that , she would remain married , had a new show with Hubby and lie by saying she is happy. But she called it off.Now there is backlash.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Nov 11
I'm prying. So how long did it take you to become a good wife?
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
I would call it off if there is something really bad he did, other than that, a small misunderstanding will not make me call the wedding off.
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