in love with a lesbian.

That is not true sometimes is not only your life.But yes you have the right to do anything if you can`t convince them you are doing a good thing

Yes it is true. It is your life. If you are not willing to invest in the one you love then it's no love at all. If you find your family and parents more important you are an idiot. Parents have their own lives and they should raise you to have one of your own as well. Not claim you. Their goal should be to see you happy not to make your life more miserable. They should tell you to give it a try and not blackmail you with not allowed to come home anymore. They should accept and recept you the way you are. If they can't do that their is no need to have them as a family. BTW hell only exists in the mind of some people, the ones who make it themselves. Just like you can make your own paradise or heaven if you are willing to go for it.

I love your word Kitty, true.. hell only exists in people's mind. Why would someone have a heart that loves his/her own gender? Because that's what was meant to be, it's given to us so that we can choose to love someone our hearts loves.

hi kaeirole.. i maybe 20, but i've gone through a lot. i've experienced a lot of pain, i've been through that for many times. i'm a single mom, with a 2-year old child. don't get me wrong. i'm single coz i dumped the father.I'm the one who dumped him and not the other way around. in some point, you're right. my family is still my family. but that's it. they're not open with the kind of relationship i'm into right now. my mother knows about it, and strongly opposes it.she even threatened me to tell my father and my grandma that i'm already leaving them to live with my partner and there's no turning back. she tells me she'll do that if i don't stop seeing my partner. my father used to threaten me the same way with my past relationship a year ago. i know that if she tells grandma about it, my grandma might die of a heart attack because she'll be really shocked. my parents knew about us. we don't talk often. i live together with grandma, my uncle and my siblings.my parents live far from us, separate from each other. here in our home, they don't know about my relationship with her. they've seen her a few times, but that's it. i can't tell them about her because they're very strict.we can't even see each other often. it's hard to hide.i want to be with her. my partner already wants to live a life with me, but restrains herself from taking me because she respects me and she knows my stand when it comes to my grandma.she's willing to wait,and i don't want her to wait that long. i'm happy with our relationship, and i've never been this happy all my life. i plan to be independent, and when that happens, i'll prove to my family that they were wrong. they were wrong judging a person whom they didn't even gave a chance for them to know.

ok..i got your point..but it doesn't mean that when you've been through a lot of pain, you're mature enough to handle things..and i also understand that you've never felt happy like that before..but, have you thought about your child? now that you mentioned you have 1, i'm more concern about your kid.. but back to your concern..you have a complicated family..since you're not living with your parents, but with your grandma..but whatever it is between you and your family, please..don't rush things..lesbians always wants to be with the girl they love..and you're lucky enough to have one who's willing to wait..just take each step slowly..so that when you and your partner lives together with your kid, you'll be ready enough to face the challenges..and that, you can prove to them that they're wrong in judging your partner..

Just want to add it is amazing what love can do. One thing about families is they can be against something, go against something or maybe not understand what is going on but after a while they will make adjustments. A family will always be a family even if they do not see eye to eye or stay apart. I am sure where ever your heart goes you will want to follow it and will always find the time for the ones you truly love. To me this is all that really is important anyway.