should women be on par with men ?
By Oldgold2u
@Oldgold2u (16)
United Arab Emirates
November 6, 2011 2:31am CST
I love women. From my beloved mother to my sweet n cute daughters, I love them. And, I like and love all the women on the Earth. Past, present and Future, as well. I have nothing against, any of, them. But the point here is different, though !!
Almighty God Created every species, with some difference, from each other; and earmarked differing but particular functions for each sect. This difference is not mere physical; but in their functioning, in their roles etc. I do not view women any less or lower than men, in their abilities, capabilities, efficiency, mental strength, tolerance, understanding, intelligence etc. Above all, their beauty. many a time, their qualities and abilities outshine those of men. Throughout History. I admit.
But God has Provided them, women, all these abilities and qualities, to be used for the deeds and fronts that He Earmarked for them. Buy what we observe around us is that women's body, women's face, women's beauty, women's clothing (and even without clothing), women's qualities n abilities are tarnished, exploited and are misused in the name of commercialism and equality !!. See, it is even told: Behind every war, there is a woman. If we assume, women were created, only with physical variation ( all other roles kept equal to those of men ), for the sake of reproduction and continuity of Human Race, it is wrong. If that was the case, God Would Have Created 'hermaphrodites', which could have been much easier to grow, sustain or control births. So, the role of women are far different from those of men; and not to compete or enter the fields of men. Don't we observe it it in the nature around us, among animals and even with plants ?
Now, can we imagine driving a car with two steering used by two drivers at a time ? or two drivers handling the the same steering at a time ? Or, just think; can two objects be placed at the same place, at the same time? NO. It is the law of nature. Does not it apply to humans and their activities as well ? In their run for competing with men anywhere and everywhere, how much love, affection, consideration and time they give the children whom they gave birth ? Worse than all that, how much love, affection, understanding and respect, the children will to the mothers who run, even without clothes, to be equal with men and conquer his domains !!
No wonder, the present and future generation grow in an unsatisfied manner, without any affection or attachment to fellow humans; and often turn to rough and tough paths. How can they be loving and caring in society, when they do not have and even denied all such noble experiences at home? No one is born a thief, a criminal, a thug, a wizard etc. All are born as cute, little innocent babies. It is circumstances, and the way they are brought up, that turn them to different paths. in most cases, they are helpless and victims of negligence.
Now, just imagine: If all our women remained home; and with their knowledge, abilities, capabilities and efficiency, brought up their children with love, affection, care and wisdom, how far better would have been the present and future generation? How better would have been the family atmosphere at home? How beautiful, colorful, lovely, attractive and peaceful this world and the life here? It would have helped, a lot, even with the exploding unemployment issue.
Now, you might brand me as nut, crazy, lunatic, chauvinist, anti-women, fossil etc etc. But my friend, fact is a fact, however we try to deny or cover it.
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@Galena (9110)
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6 Nov 11
I disagree.
I am not cut out to be housewife and mother. I am not interested in babies, or in having them. if I had one, I would not consider it automatic that I should be the one to raise them while my husband works. he's probably more cut out for that than I am, as he's far more patient with children than I am.
I would agree that in an ideal world, it would be nice if only one parent works while the other is there for them at all times, but I don't agree that a persons gender is what marks them out as being the one most suited to doing that role.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Nov 11
I absolutely agree with this! There is no such thing as a 'housewife' so I'm not sure why people still use the term. As far as I'm aware, you are only allowed to marry another person, it cannot be an inanimate object, therefore someone can only be a wife to a person.
For the original poster of this discussion - for discussion's sake, this poster, Galena, and myself - we are BOTH WOMEN. Same gender. However... she just told you she is not interested in babies, having babies, being home, raising them, etc etc.
I on the other hand, AM. I AM a full time parent who also does other things such as work. I don't report to an employer but trust me, I WORK. My primary focus though is my FAMILY. Not my HOUSE. My husband and my children. I am fairly sure if I were born as a guy I would still feel the same way. I have several friends whose husbands actually are the full time caregivers of children and they do 90% of the child care, they also cook more and do a bigger percentage of taking care of the house. I don't see people calling them 'househusbands' or expecting it out of them, so people ought to stop putting that expectation on women. The women who are parts of these families typically work full time, some MORE than full time, and are the primary breadwinners and bring home the income that supports the family. They are GREAT at what they do. I have no problem with it. However, it was THEIR CHOICE to do that. That's what makes it right, in my opinion.
What I don't like is seeing a power couple - both people being go-getter ladder climbing corporate execs AND have kids... and ignore the kids. That's not fair - not to both of them, not to each of them, and not to the kids, who didn't get the choice to pick parents who were going to be around for them.
@Oldgold2u (16)
• United Arab Emirates
9 Nov 11
If our parents, or grandparents too were not interested in having babies!!
It is said that moulding a nation should begin from the 'family'. So, when women are so sure they are more intelligent and efficient, why don't they help in the nation, instead of trying to put the cart in front of the horse?
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
7 Nov 11
You can't use gender to determine who is better at anything. Everybody, regardless of gender is an individual. Period. This means that some men are better at some things, some women are better at some things, but people should NOT be using gender as a way to assume or expect one or the other to outshine.
Obviously men cannot HAVE babies but men certainly help MAKE babies. That is the one biological functional difference between men and women. In GENERAL, men tend to be LARGER. Physically this translates into men who take on more physical tasks or roles, more men tend to work in construction, on roads, they excel in sports such as football, basketball, etc.
As far as mental capacity? Men and women are completely EVEN. There has never been any reason for ANYBODY to EVER assume that men are smarter or capable of more than women, OR that women are smarter or capable of more than men. The very idea is ridiculous and anybody who thinks this way obviously does not understand life. Now if MEN are educated widely and WOMEN are DENIED EDUCATION or OPPORTUNITIES, therein lies the reason why someone might actually think men are smarter.
I do not think that women should be FORCED to be equal to men if that is not their choice, ie being full time in the work force, being on the front lines in the military, etc etc, yet if that is what a woman WANTS TO DO, by all means she should have every opportunity and support in doing that or being that. If a woman would rather be a wife and mother and be home with her children or maybe not even have children but just be home instead of in the work force, she should also have every opportunity and support. I really hate how people think they can go around and impose the roles THEY ENVISION on everybody. Everybody is different. You will have career women who want nothing but to work and eventually own a company. You will have women who want nothing to do with a career and would prefer to just love their husband or their kids. You will have men who reside in both categories too. This is life. It is not boxed up by gender and no such expectations ought to be made by gender, only by preferences of individuals.
Men and women DO think differently, their thought processes are not the same. They also communicate differently, so care needs to be taken because whatever you'd say to your girlfriends is not going to come across the same way to your boyfriend or husband lol.
I won't call you a nut or a lunatic but I don't think you understand that you cannot box people up or categorize anybody based on gender. That is not fair, it's not accurate, and it doesn't make any sense. Also, opinion is not fact, no matter how much you wish it was. I disagree with many people here because they try to disguise their opinion as fact or pass off their opinion as fact. Opinions are not facts. Some people even try to bring up evidence to prove their opinion is fact, and again, it doesn't matter. Even if you find info to support your opinion, it is still just your opinion. Opinions are not right or wrong, they are right for you if they are yours, and probably wrong for you if they are someone else's. Bottom line though, they are not actually right nor wrong and are NOT factual. They are just what you believe and think.
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@Oldgold2u (16)
• United Arab Emirates
9 Nov 11
Properly and perfectly said ! 100% right. One shall not try to get into the shoe of the other. Amen...
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
Women as are unique as men but it does not mean they should be at par with men. As you have mentioned, they have their qualities that only pertain to them., They can have qualities that men possess which can be equal with men but it is also a fact that women are not as strong as men when it comes to physical strength.
Women were given the qualities that are uniquely theirs to compliment men's inadequacy. Complimentariness is the way it should be. We are all created to help one another and not to overpower or subject the other to one's commands. We have equal rights, duties and responsibilities that pertain to each one of us and that should be treated with full respect regardless of culture or creed.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
It is so sad, if men volunteering to help women would be viewed as weakness.When in fact, it is simply sharing in the chores where couples should rake responsible of fairly. I think its more of agreeing until where and when are the limits to avoid abuses and to maintain respect for one another. Women occupying positions where men dominate is just acknowledging that they can do what men can do but not to be at par with them. What is important is the respect for one another so the can work in harmony and not in competition.
@Oldgold2u (16)
• United Arab Emirates
9 Nov 11
You are right. men and women have their own, separate, abilities, capabilities, interests, intelligence and so on. There is no sense in comparing and competing; and no room for any thought of superior, inferior, equal etc. The problem comes only when one tries to get into the shoe of the other. Men never want to be in ant position or role of a woman. It is always women who insist we want this too, we want to be there too etc. If men volunteer to help women, it is taken as weakness; and the next moment, more are demanded.
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