My friend is getting married, but...

If your friend has already been rejected, and that is final, he is going to have to make a relationship with someone at some point. When you say courted, was there ever a relationship more than friends between he and the other girl? Many people have feeling for another, but for whatever reason they know this will not work, so they move on. Some people let this be known, (as your friend did) but some harbor the secret forever. As long as he is not "settling" for this other woman, things may be fine. If he is wedding this other woman just to placate his true needs; if he is doing this as he thinks it will help him get over the other person, then it probably will not work. Are they compatible in other ways? Do they have similar views on what they want out of life? Do they get along well? There are many aspects to any relationship, so it's hard to tell initially if the marriage will work or not.

For me if she true of what she said why not go for it be it so that things would be better in them after all you know what you would done in it.

I have learnt it hard way to no to give advice on such a situations.Just stay away.Help them only if they want.Let them take their own decision so they wont blame you if it goes wrong.

Your friend made a decision and I am sure he thought over himself if this is the right thing to do or not. And he also knows about his feelings, what he felt for your friend, the one who rejected him and what he feels for the new one. It might look early to you but he is the only one who can decide that. I think he deserves happiness just like any other one in the world. He will start a new life with someone new, left the hoping and waiting for nothing behind him. This is a big step and it takes courage. It doesn't matter in what grade he loves the new one, if you can measure love at all since it's never the same. What counts is that he is willing to give it a try and he knows about the feelings he had and still have. Only people like you, keep talking about what has been, about what he missed, never got, about the fact he been rejected, people who ask if it's the right thing to do or not too early are in the way. They already make problems if they are not there. No matter if you had a relationship before or a broken heart you will always have to deal with feelings left over from the period. Those feelings will always be there and pop up now or then. It sounds to me you don't want him to be happy if that would be the case you would congratulate him and give him the trust and respect he deserves knowing he is able to live his life the way he likes and want with the one of his choice in the best way he can make out of it. The way you say it sounds as if nobody who ever been rejected, was blindly in love or with a broken relationship has the right to start all over again. It's an illusion to think that you will forget your hurt in time, it will always be there, it will make you a different person (this is what we call life experiences) and you have to give it a place in your life.

Your bestfriend rejected him which would mean she don't have any special feelings for him. This is something that the future wife should understand. And your guy friend should forget about your bestfriend, there is no future for them if only one of them is giving love for the other. We cannot say that maybe he is making a wrong decision. Maybe once he was married, he would learn to forget your bestfriend.

i think if your friend still show signs that he cares for your best friend in a more than a friend way, the two must not see each other for a while..for him to settle what he really feels..because if i'm your friend, it's hard to say "i've moved on" if after being rejected for a year of courtship, i still see the person i courted and caused me a heartache more often..and pretend that everything's ok..your friend's fiance will suffer if that won't be resolved..because marriage isn't a trial and error thing..

You friend needs to think twice,thrice before getting into a lifetime commitment. This is also to be fair with the girl he is marrying for. Your friends should be fair...not to marry this second girl only to fill the emptiness from his past. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and not a game.

helo dude , just be in your limits and advice your friend the same thing. It's his own life be at herd to it and live the life at the fullest because it is short.