I just LOVE Her so MUCH..

dear tamris, a mother can not distinguish between the love she is offering to her kids.in her eyes,all her kids are at one level and she loves them all equally. sometimes she bestows more love on one of her kids if she feels he/she needs it more then others.as you said she feels that you are strong and your younger brother needs more attention according to your mother,so her behavior is imaginable. don't compare yourself with your sibling.there was a time when even i felt that my mother cares more about my brother and prefers him over me,but no i was wrong.i hold equally important place in her heart and same holds good for you. you will realize it soon too. till then be happy my dear

Just continue loving her. Don't be jealous of your brother. I'm sure she loves you too, you can't feel it.. and maybe she just really sees that your brother is weaker than you. Maybe he is younger or sickly that is why she feels responsible giving all care and attention to him. The fact that she even told you that you are strong means she is confident that you can make it and will survive. It's something you should be proud of already. you might not know she was talking to her friends about you being her only daughter that can stand on your own.

For me yes that's the reason why the family have favoritism so weird that all but my parents want to be fair at all it is so nice to think but in that case it is hard to deal but if you find your self independent you can overcome in that situation.

Parents normally like all children alike excepting in cases where the boy or girl has odd behavior. Do not compare mother's love for you and your brother--after all he is your own brother and if your mother likes him more it is fine. It is true parents show more attention on a child which requires guidance. avoid comparison and accept mother's behavior as it is and you will feel very happy.

You should love your mother no matter what. You just have to understand everything okay.

Just do something that will catch her attention to you just like buying her a gift, but not often.maybe during mother's day, her bday, xmass, etc. There are a lot of ways for you to be not ignored.

love of a mother to her child can never be replaced by money, because the mother's love is sincere, although it was never said. love alone mother to child can be seen from the sacrifice when she gave birth, I could just feel the love and sacrifice of a mother when I saw my wife gave birth to my first child, I just imagine what my mother used to sacrifice his son gave birth to the present time he is able to live independently .

Explain to your mom whats going on, express your feelings. I have gone through this with y mom. She favors my younger brother because he is the baby and he isn't the brightest person either. Your mom has just grown closer to him because she is helping him out. It's exactlly how you gain feelings for a person when you are around them along. For example how best friends can fall in love. Just tell her how you feel, even if you both cry. You will end up tearing that wall down and you will gain more love for eachother. She will be more fare with you. It will make her think late at night about how she has treated you differently and you will see a more loving mother. I proise just tell her how you feel.

I am also a mother. I agree and admit that attention given to children is not fair (sometimes) One reason is your mom's reason. If she sees your brother needs more care than you, try to understand the situation. I always tried to give my kids fair love and attention...but still one of them is too jealous and always wants better and more attention. It's not easy to become a parent and I am sure you will surely understand it fully once you will become a parent yourself. have a good day and keep loving your mom

Sometimes open favoritism could really hurt. In your case, you were told by your mother , that she's like that to your brother because unlike you, that is strong she needs guidance. But that should stop, once your brother reaches maturity and now with a family already. It would be best that you have a heart to heart talk with her and tell her you are also her child. You also need to see some loving gestures from her to see that she loves you also. Pray for your mother, so she will finally be aware that you need her love too.

I understand your mother because I am a mother too.I have my one and only son in which whenever he goes out of the house to go somewhere meet his friends, I always have fear. He is so immature at the age of 18, he is aggressive, impulsive, so restless, easily convinced without weighing the offers or the situations. In your case, your mom trusts you so much that you can carry yourself with utmost care. She knows that she can rely on you in a way that you will not give her or cause her any trouble. Do not get jealous because she defines herself as you yourself. She sees herself confidently in you. In giving attention between a boy and a girl, we feel the need to focus ourselves more to the boy because of the peer pressure that they get to involve themselves with. The girl takes care of themselves more securely while the boys expose themselves more often to danger.

Just tell your mum how you feel and that u need more from her. Im from a family of 9 and I know my mum loves us all and yes she has her favorites. Shes there for me when I need her. Time is going fast so tell her before its to late.

That happens a lot if the other siblings became rebellious or need some attentions from his parent. Your mother knows that she raise you well and knows that you've been doing well in your life. So maybe in her depression of raising your brother became suddenly a not so good person, she want to correct that and keeps on guiding your brother more often than you. But I am not telling that you should also do what your brother is doing just to get the attention of your mother. Why not join your mom in guiding your brother.

Maybe you can try telling your mother that. I think she both loves you equally but maybe your brother just really needs her guidance. Don't think that she loves you less. Your brother really needs much guidance as you've mentioned, so I guess you can just try to understand the situation.

How can a parent love one child more, sweetie? Anyway, i think it is time you and your mom have a serious talk about this. You are her daughter, she cannot do this to you. No excuses at all.

It happened to a friend of mine she is jealous of her brother because his father never was nice with her and never show her the same love that he showed to her brother, I think it was bcause he is his only son, and he sees himself reflected on his son.

hello dear you mother is right it is because you always do everything with prefection but your brother don`t.... and he will do with perfection if he will get some affection fro mher elders you must help your brother in doing work and also this is mother`s love don`t be jealous about it... it is universal to all its child.......... ok don`t be jealous and share your mother`s love with your brother