As love continues

Don't you think it would be better for both of you to get married? Normally, couples, once they got married or live together will come to that stage where they won't be like how they used to be before. I have this friend who says the same thing to me. She wanted to break up with him. But I don't think it would be fair for the guy. What if that is his personality, you should talk to him about it. And you can also surprise him by doing sweet things a guy should do, like treat him out and have a date with him. Or surprise him with special things you think he would appreciate. Sometimes we girls should take over their part too. It is normal for us to be frustrated because we got used to the things they treat us like a baby before.

Dear jazzyrae, the relationship changes all the time, at first it all seems wonderful because both people want to please the other, to show them how much they care.But as they say, the hunt in more exciting than the pray, it's all about the game, once they have each other, they stop all that attention,the compliments.So if they don't have a similar character, or similar tastes, it's not very easy in time, they get bored, there is nothing left to discuss. Don't make this a great deal, it will not help you feel better, or him be nicer to you. Men like their freedom, they remain children, they like to play.I have never heard of a man who kept on beeing romantic and thoughtfull for more then a few months, they surprise you once in a while but, let's face it, none of the romance movies are really true.

Hi! I was in a similar situation as you. It always start like a fairytale where two people can't wait to see and talk to one another and butterflies in the stomach. We can go on and on talking and nothing else seemed to really matter at that moment. But as time flies, things begin to simmer down and the sparks stop going off like fireworks. I dealt with the situation by understanding that we all need out own space and personal time. Especially when a couple start living together, time apart and time together gets mixed together. Try to set a certain amount of time each day where you both do your own things separately. Then set a certain amount of time for couple time and use this time to talk and do things together. Communicating is a crucial and important part of making a relationship work. Talk about how your day went at work and other things. There will be disagreements but try to come to an agreement that during that couples time, feelings shared cannot be criticized and only to be listened. Arguments can occur at other times of the day but during couples time, no judgement are said aloud and only supportive things are said during that particular time. Also a date night should be scheduled once a week. It may be difficult due to work schedules and other things but definitely try to find an day, afternoon, or evening where you get out of the house together. It does not need to be fancy but more for seeing each other out of the house whether its dinner, dessert, movies, a stroll in the park/scenic areas, local events, etc. Anyways good luck with your situation!

No relationship will stay the same. It will always change and improve. As soon as we know someone better we will start doing our own stuff as well. Keeping a relationship alive is something you have to work for. If you take it for granted it will all be gone or dull before you know. So ask yourself if you are still the same person as you were 2 years ago.

I guess that's what really happens to most relationships. At first during the courtship stage, the guy will be very sweet. He would always call you and do sweet stuffs for you but later on, it will slowly change. I don't know. Maybe you both just got too comfortable with each other.

i also feel that way..i also hate it when the sweetness fades as the relationship gets longer..the feeling of too comfortable is always there..that's why there many stuffs that both of you used to do slowly disappears.. but for me, even though we've together with my partner, for example, 50 years, i still want to remain as sweet as possible..and we'll have a different kind of sweetness to share..just to keep the love so alive..

I think that you need to sit down with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. A very important part of relationships is communication. Without it, imo the relationship will not last. I believe most people get comfortable with each other and feel that once your together there is no work involved. Its quite the opposite. I am 32, and my wife is 30. We have been married 12 years. We have date night once a week, I still send her flowers and cards, or write her love letters (no matter how bad they can be), and will dish up her plate up so she can stay comfortable. In return, she leaves me "I love you" messages around the house so I can find them. She'll slip pictures (pictures of us, her, or our fur babies) or a message in my briefcase. These are just a few things we do. We have traditions that we did while we dated that we still do. Every Friday the 13th, and Halloween, we watch horror movies until early the next day. Everyday when I leave for work, I tell my wife I love her and to have a good day. When I get to work, I text her I love her and that I made it to work with no problems. Even if we're mad at each other, we still make sure that the other one knows that we love each other. I'm not saying our marriage is perfect, but we have a great one. We are each others best friends and lovers. We can talk about anything. While it is important to have time together, it is also important to have "me" time. Otherwise someone could feel smothered or overwhelmed. I hope this helps.

For me told him in that case just ask him what was happened said him that you don't like about his doing heart to heart talked it is must.

Hi buddy..Tell him to sit with you and talk to you for a while.In that situation,just express him that how much you love and the feelings about him when you are alone.I hope this will work out well.

I'm so sorry but all guys are the same (Believe me I know because I am). It somehow gets boring after a while I guess and a guy wants to go to all his Guy things like video games and sports. If it is from the guys part, I mean if he was attracted to you and tried very hard to get you it may last longer. Try playing a little Hard-to-get or disinterested to arouse his primal instincts and male ego and see how it works out.