Why me?

Men always want attention and always say women are too stupid to understand them, don't pay attention. But the thing is we are not interested in a lot of stuff they are talking about, never ending talking about and it's useless to explain to them why we are not interested. So they keep us out of our sleep or whatever we do (but we should not dare to do the same thing to them) and they say we are in a bad mood, probably have our period, or get it, or just had it and find it normal to insult us time after time. It's useless to explain since they are not interested and also not able to understand that we think different and that their blablabla is far of interesting. So if you want to keep the silence just agree and nodd and say aha. If you want to make him extremely happy show interest by asking stupid questions and give him the opportunity to explain it to you, look interested and tell him how great and smart he is, and if you are tired of this all and want to sleep tell him to shut up and call his best friend to tell his never ending stories to and don't care about what he is calling you. Just ignore him and wish him good night.

Sometimes when man say things, they just say it automatically. They would even sound like angry, but they are not. I would usually ask my husband when he says things in a tone like he is angry. I would ask him "are you angry?". And he would laugh too. It means that he's not. And he would tickle me! He is not just the type of person who have a happy face. So, i would always tell him " you will grow to be a grumpy old man " and he doesn't like that, so he changes into a happy tone. Sometimes, its up to us women to tell our husband how they are when they say things. That way, they can correct themselves. But sometimes we couldn't help ourselves from getting annoyed at them.

I believe we tend to hurt those we claim to love the most. My husband has admitted to me that he intentionally says mean things when we argue. I, on the other hand, tend to realize the words can't be taken back once spoken. Thus I try to only say things that won't tend to hurt our relationship.

I am not married yet, but as a trainer I could tell you that understanding and communication (listen to each other included) are very important. You both are two different individuals that have to stay together, so it is important to understand each other by doing communication. Perhaps the stuff your husband were talking about was boring or out of your liking, but only by hearing him it would give him a feeling of acceptance, that you were truly the only person he could share. Well it could happen to you, too. If you find stuff which is annoying, well just explain it to your husband and find the way out.

Yes, I have with my ex. I remember throwing all my tissue in his face because he was so mean and he threw them right back at me.

This is universally true - husband feeling he is not listened to properly and wife feeling yes in the same way. After a lapse of few year while affection grows the respect or desire to accept others views probably comes down. a study should be done on this in different parts of the world. interesting. have a nice day.