What a mother feels...

Philippines
November 8, 2011 8:09am CST
At the age of 38, I already have teenage sons in college. As normal teenagers, it's undeniable that close friendships happen with a tendency to become lovers in the end. Being so close to my children, and even treated each of them as my darling kids despite their being teenagers, I still could not accept the fact that they already have girlfriends. Lol...to think that I too passed this stage before I got married to their father...but, really, it felt different. One time, my eldest asked my permission that he would bring his girl in our house so they could make their project together. Guess what my answer was? A big NO with emphasis to the exclamation point! I told him 'No, not this time yet my child. Mother couldn't take it and couldn't afford to see my baby with his girl...maybe sometime later.' So good that my son understood and he hugged me saying, 'Ok..ok..no problem." I can't explain my feeling. Maybe this is how it feels to be a mother. Was I right with my reaction? Do you think I acted fairly?
2 responses
cookietattchat
@cookietattchat (4)
• United States
8 Nov 11
I definitely understand your feelings because I have only one son and he is my pride and joy!!! He will be a teenager in a couple years and I have thought about what my feelings will be when he start dating or wanting to bring female friends over to the house. I love my son dearly but I don't think I would deny him bring over a female if he's in college. I would not say you acted unfairly yet, however if he gets married this will be something totally different. I think it would be wrong to deny visits with his wife. Never come between your child and their wife/husband.....it will be so much easier to just get along with them. You would never want to make your son chose between his wife and mother. By your post, it seems like you love your children a lot and I bet they love you just as much!!!!!
bhimbhim
@bhimbhim (13)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
You're right in there cookie. I do agree with you that we should never come in between our child and their partner once they're already married.That's the time that they should be on their own, with our guidance of course. And maybe I will start to learn accepting the fact that my children won't be with me forever....like what I did to my parents too. Also,maybe I can learn accepting my son's girl when the right time comes...when he's at the right age... Thank you for your comment cookie!
rmendoza123
@rmendoza123 (637)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
Your son really got into your nerves ha? Well, I am pretty sure that your son understands you. The mere fact that hugged you and said okay, I think that is understood. But, mind you everyone needs inspiration and everyone needs to be love sometimes. As long as you are there to support him your son will be responsible enough in his decisions. Or you could talk to the girl about the situation so that they will understand. I guess it is everyone's goal to have a better family. Well, good luck and I hope your son will be responsible enough while he is growing.