How Does One Cope

Do things you want to do in life and do not let yourself be absorbed in depressing issues. I am 24 and I do get myself on those situations and I cry a lot just thinking about my problems. But crying and being lonely does not help, it just makes one more depressing. What you have to do is be more social, and acquire more friends and like what I've read on your replies below, I'm glad that you're starting to enjoy being here in Mylot! :) When I feel sad, I sketch and paint or cook and bake because these are the things that I enjoy doing. Have a nice day and happy mylotting! :) Take care!

I have friends in the Dallas area... I have two siblings, but my brother is the one who lives in town and I like his girl friend and his ex-girlfriend better than I like him... I "play nice" because I know its what Mom would've wanted, but I often feel like an outsider too. However, because I have friends with the same sorts of interests that I do, I don't feel lost and lonely. I have a friend in Plano who works from home who is busy with her church. Another who is an SF (science fiction) fan friend... not quite sure where she's living in the DFW area right now. I have another friend and her mom, who is also a friend, they live out in Quinlan area. Maybe you need to investigate online "clubs" for things of your interests. I found a new church because I joined a Lilian Jackson Braun online group...

People do cope, by their spiritual life, and by the charities they support or volunteer at. Since you are interested in children could you volunteer at a school or a preschool? They will have to do a background check, but usually are glad to have help. How about becoming a "Big Sister?" You can volunteer with the elderly as well. Look for those who are also needing someone to care for. It will help you make some connections.

I would say thatyou have to reach out to your community. I know that there are programs out there depending on where you live. I myself go to a coffee group one day a week. We all sit around and have guest speakers or activities to do. If you do not have this in your community maybe you should start something like this? There are many people out there like you. I am the youngest in my group and I have found that it does not matter about age. There are people who need other people to talk to.

You will find some nice and helpful friends online here and they will help you some. But maybe doing some volunteer work at a place with children will help you if you want kids around. You don´t have to volunteer for a lot of time: take it easy and as long as you can handle it. Talk to your husband about your problems: maybe you can work some of them out together. Any kind of group activity (if there are not too many people) might help you. Maybe even a ligh gym that will help your arthritis instead of making it worse. Take care!

You can find something interesting when you are at home, like learning something new or find a hobby. This will help you to avoid feeling bored and it will keep you active and creative. According to your personal interests you could start knitting, painting, doing puzzles, writing or gardening etc. Once you start getting better with your hobby it will be more fun and you can feel satisfied with yourself. A perfect company for me when I am feeling lonely is my little dog. If you love pets, you could adopt a puppy but you need to have time to take care of it, as pets need constant attention and care. Going for walks with your pet would also be a good opportunity to meet new people. Joining online forums could be a good solution to socialise as well.