How to let go of the Past
By nerein
@nerein (283)
United States
November 8, 2011 5:45pm CST
In every ones life there is something in the past they need to let go of.
It could be a bad relationship, it could be something you did wrong in the
past. It could even be losing a really good friend. So how do we let go
of the past.
Well one thing that we can do is not dwell on the past. If you dwell on the
past you will never be able to go to the future. Another thing that you need
to know is that you can not change the past, you can only learn how to deal
with the future. Now it is okay to wish things in the past would be different,
but you can not change the past.
Another thing that you can do to let go of the past is look for a new future.
Like if you lost a friend then look for a new one. Or if you are trying to get
away from negative influences, then you need to go and look for a whole new crowd
of friends to hang out with and get to know. If this is your situation then you
need to make sure that your new friends are positive and don't want to use you.
Yet another thing that you can do to let go of the past is too stay away from
people and situations that make you remember the past. Now it does not mean that
you have to throw stuff away all it means is that you need to avoid people and
situations that remind you of the past.
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11 responses
@kaeirole (668)
• Philippines
8 Nov 11
you have a point there..
actually, for me, letting go is always a choice..it is our choice we want or if we are ready to let go of our past..if we want to see it as something to be learned, or something to be regretted..if we know want we want and stay focused in it, then we will know from our hearts what to do with it..
it's just so sad that many dwell on their pasts..the even think that they cannot move on or their future is ruined because of it..it is just a matter of how we accept it and do something about it..
@wengroel (39)
• Canada
9 Nov 11
hello for me about let go for past in your life
you can remember the past and you can let go about that and honestly have had the wound in your heart for about the relationship but you can think about bad ralationship or good before is that the experience in our life those people they had a past in our life and those can let go in our choice always and think good always god can help us always pray to god
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
10 Nov 11
I think that the best way to let go of the past is try to worry about the present. When considering everything, for a lot of us, you'd find that there is going to plenty to distract you from the past in the present. There are all kind of worries to say the very least. Kind of makes it a bit absurd to be too hung up in the past, worrying about what ever happened. Granted, I think that there are many things that we wish had occurred a bit differently.
Still what is done is done. There is really no going back. We take what happened in the past, learn from it but move on, for an entire new time of challenges right in the present and indeed in the future as well. The past has happened and it might not be good, but it's not something to dwell on. Not when we can use the present time of today to shape a better future. We have to sometimes coax ourselves away from the past. Hopefully better choices can be made and the mistakes are not repeated.
@lisa0502 (1724)
• Canada
9 Nov 11
I am one to dwell on the past. I have not yet been able to deal with it as I should. There are many days when it is like it does not exist because I am too into the moment. But there are many times that it is brought up in different situations. It is hard to accept that the my father is who he is. You can't ignore or avoid discussions when he is a big part of my brothers lives. As far as most of my bad relationships with people I can generally let go.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
Very well said.. and I think a lot of people can learn from it. It is really difficult to let go of the past, especially if it caused so much pain. While most of the people said TIME can only make you not look back on the past. Cos sometimes even if we try so hard not to dwell in the past, there will always be one event or scenario that will make us go to the past and remember the pain. Sometimes music can make us remember those things. Usually our mind reacts and gives pain to the heart once more, maybe if we tell our hearts and mind that we aren't affected of the past anymore, it becomes a good indication that we are ready to face a new world and move on.
@andy4pinoy (298)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
This is a very good question. I have been suffering this of not letting go of my past.
According to some respondent, It is by choice. Well, it is right letting go of the past is a choice that you have to make in order for you to move on and be productive.However, looking at the past can be a good learning tool of not making bad mistake and correct it by chance onward to a better life.
Past is past, we cannot do anything about this, We have to survive from it and move forward to be more productive.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
8 Nov 11
I read somewhere that dwelling on the past is like an addiction to stop doing it you have to replace it with something else, something that will take you into another direction, and I guess to forgive yourself for everything in your past.
@greenline (14838)
• Canada
9 Nov 11
Well, let bygone be bygone, as the saying says. I would let those things of the past, which would not be of any merit to my present time or future, just go. But, things which are to be taken as good experience and beneficial, I do remember them, not to repeat the mistakes.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
9 Nov 11
Sometimes, it is very hard to let go of something from the past, however; I have found that if you look for the lesson that the experience provides, learn from it, and move on, it helps to let go.
I look at it this way, everything we do and experience in life happens to teach us something and until we learn the lesson and move forward, we will continue to relive that experience. It is okay to remember the past, but it is not okay to allow yourself to stay stuck in the past. In order to learn and grow, you must look at the situation and then use the knowledge you gain to help you while you move forward and continue to live. Those who forget their past and refuse to learn from it are doomed to repeat it.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
I don't actually think that people should forget their past. It happened so I don't believe that you should just ignore it and think that nothing happened. You should be challenged by it or be inspired by it. You should aim to be better that who you are at the past.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
9 Nov 11
Honestly,i'm a girl who always thinks of the past and that always make me sad.Anyway,those memories has been gone and there are also bright future ahead of me.What i should do is to cherish what i have and then be optimistic about tommorrow.Those we cherished should be put in our heart anyway.Have a nice day.
