how we want to be when we die
@SIMPLYD (90721)
Philippines
November 8, 2011 8:11pm CST
At this early, my husband and I had already in mind what we want when we die. It sound morbid , but we talk of it casually, because we know that we will be experiencing that someday. We talked about it one time, as we were watching a TV show on how their dead love ones were buried.
We both would like to be cremated. We don’t like to be put in a coffin , to be looked on by the relatives and friends who would visit our wake. We want our ashes to be in an urn, beside our pictures when we were still living. That way, we would be remembered in that state by our relatives and friends, not dead , embalmed and lying in a coffin. 
Share your views too guys.
Share your views too guys.1 person likes this
10 responses
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
hmm..
probably i'll just go whatever my parents want.
if they want to be buried then i would want to be buried beside them.
but cremation sounds good! since my body could be placed in one corner of the room and always remembered. there would be lesser hassle when my relatives would pay visit. there is lesser tidying done.
hmm.. i'll take that to consideration.
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
9 Nov 11
I was very young when my burial plot was picked out and I made the decision as to where my final resting place will be when I die. It does seem a bit morbid, but, in my case, I made the decision because I had to bury a son and decided right then that when I die, I want to be buried next to him.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
Oh you did mention this in one of my discussion, being cremated is what you want..well i also would want it too if i will die.. and would be put in those urn or like what you mentioned be put in those necklaces, like that one you mentioned 
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
11 Nov 11
One thing though jazel, is if our loved ones be willing to wear those necklaces. Some may find it creepy.
Nevertheless, it's still my wish.
Nevertheless, it's still my wish. 
@lisa0502 (1724)
• Canada
9 Nov 11
I think it is normal to think about what will happen when you die. I have thought about it on many occasions. I also would like to be creamated. But I would like my ashes to spread in the mountains. Where I can go back to nature. It was a big part of my life going to the mountains when I was a child. I have thought about getting a locket or something with my piture in it for all of my kids.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
And have you seen that TV show, where the ashes of the cremated love ones where put in a small cylinder like stones and made into bracelets and necklace. That gave me the idea of how i will be after my cremation.
But i am sure, my daughter will not wear them. She will surely just keep it locked.
On one thought, i think that i like my ashes to be just spread into the sea . That way, every all Souls' day, wherever our daughter is she can offer us maesses and light candles. She doesn't have to endure going to the cemetery, where many people flock.
@heaven_sent64 (206)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
I don't want to be cremated. It hurts, lol. I want to be in a coffin for some time and be seen by those who want to pay me their last respects. I haven't chosen a good make-up artist to do my face, if ever there will be one, he or she has to make it sure that I'd look beautiful.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
9 Nov 11
You are young for talking of such things. In my view people who are above 70 or critically ill should only talk on these lines. Regarding cremation or burial you can always tell your near ones.
the best option now is not to remember about such things. 
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
14 Nov 11
It is good to be always prepared at all times, bounce.
My parents and parents -in-law already have their burial plots and have some extra plots for the members of the family.
But i think , if ever me and my husband will be cremated, our child will not bury us there but spread us in a sea , so that she can pray for us wherever she is . What is important is she get to offer us masses and prayers anytime she would remember us.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
11 Nov 11
I like to have my organs donated too. That is if in case i die, they are still good for donation .
@andy4pinoy (298)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
The same with your views, I like to be cremated and my ashes shall be placed in a bronze urn. Mourning will be shorter and relatives and friends can pay respect to my body before the cremation.
I know, people close to me will always remember me. The legacy I've built with my family will always brings back my memory and I'll always be remembered.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
14 Nov 11
Yes, we want to be remembered for good things we did in life. So, as early as now, we should start doing good, so people will always remember us by them, when we die.
@MRconrad01 (148)
• United States
9 Nov 11
I also want to be cremated when I die. I'm not religious and burials always sounded dark to me for some reason, especially if the wake is an open-casket ceremony. That just disturbs me.
