What Age Do Think It is Too Old to Have A Child

Thanks God you are such a wonderful child even after the problem you encountered. It good that the problem that you faced didn't affect you. Your mum was not so late to me, I think what exaggerated the situation is the problems that you faced.

I would go for mid 20s upto late 30s when we still have that energy we need for the children.

As long as a couple is reproductive and they wish to have a child its nobody's business but the couples. Im sure they would have weighted out everything involved. Abortion is murder so if a child has been concieved it must be born. Most couples when they have children weather they are young or old have arrangments in place for in case something happens to them. As for being too old to walk them to school thats just ludichrist. Ive seen 80 yr old sking so if they are healthy enough for that then im sure they would be able to walk a child to school. Not that 80 yr olds are reproductive. I believe you are very young and have not a real concept being old.

Do you mean as long as your reproductive it is ok or what? What about the special needs of children. What the need of having a child yet you cannot even be able to walk her to a hospital or school because your are so old? What the need of having a child to just give him or her to foster family? This is simply a form of torture and neglect.

That true. Though even younger parents pretend to be so busy and end up with little time to share with their children. Old here is relevant, simply can be applied to anyone who don't really take care well for his or her child.

hi, i think the limit to have a child is the age of 40++.

That seems better to me too but not 50s.

Thank you. Iam much concerned that the man may not be able to handle well the child especially considering the influence of media nowadays. It can rather be hard to cope up with current generation.

Thank you for posting this though - now at least I have the idea about proper parenting or something. I grew up without a father though - so - I know how it feels.

I also have never had a father, so I know how that is, but mine was just a deadbeat! He wanted to do the deed without taking responsibility for the consequences of his actions! What a turd! That's the other thing. If you can't be responsible for your actions, you shouldn't do them!

With exemption of any medical condition or any other problem that can deter someone from having a baby.

Not really. Iam just concerned because some men even have other bigger children and end up marrying a young girl just to have children. Most of the time I just pity the young wife and the child knowing that his father or husband may not be able to see her or him due to his old age.

good one :D but don't be pesimistic

That seems abit late for me. I would prefer in mid 20s and 30s and for men latest 45s.

It is true that we age differently but the life cyle still and we cannot hold it back.

That right. At a younger age we are able do attend to your children demands with no much problem.

I agree with a lot that you said, but my grandparents had children during the depression which meant no money. 1.00 back then was like 10.00 today. During the depression if you were blessed with work, you were lucky to make 1.00 a day. So imagine having that many children. But my grandparents were from the simple time when children were not thrown to others or foster care. Even in the 1950's after I was born when my grandparents went to their church the minister did not expect money to be put in the offering plate as is the rule today. sometimes he was lucky if he got a pound of homemade butter, or a loaf of fresh baked bread, or sometimes some fresh hen eggs. When you go back in history, there has never been a time of cheap for any family in any culture or generation. But they managed. I know for a fact there sure was not food stamps. I guess Grandma was the food stamp person by canning everything she could get her hands on to feed her children. I honestly do not know how they put shoes on all their childrens feet but I do know that they were a very close knit family because they were all dependent on each other. Life can be simple like them but everyone has gone by the way of the machine and electronics and bigger houses and go to the store. I was watching a TV show that stated some people are trying to teach our children today that food does not come from the grocery store. I just wish people could think of the next 18 years before having that child. Regardless of what age its a commitment. I see so many grandparents raising children second time around. My husband was one of those people and his story is not pretty as far as what happened to him for making the commitment. Good discussion. Thanks for sharing.

Having a baby is a wonderful thing but at the same time, God wants us to have children that we know we can be able to take care of fully. I don't think God will be happy if you just have a child then she is given to foster families just because the mother or the father was too old to take care of. A child to grow properly is not only material things that matter most, it is also the psychological and emotional needs which are also part of growth. Your grandparents were blessed with many children which I agree becomes a blessings at long last, especially if the kids are all grownup but the year was few decades ago when life was simple, no pollution, life was cheap and many good things happened during that time unlike today when the economy keeps on shifting from one corner to the other and ofcourse lifestyle related problems which make impossible to have many children or even live longer to see those children.

That sound good if it could be possible unfortunately most women are much settled by late twenties, which is quite good also.

I would say maybe until 40s but not later than that.

It is true that teenager pregnancies is a major problem in the modern world but on the other hand we should consider that a teenager is also still young and capable of been productive which simply means if they can realize later, some turns to be better mother in future. This is opposite when we come to old people because it is not material needs that is important in bringing up the child but also psychological support. The parents presence and support that they can give to a child is not comparable to anyone and if you are too old, you may never be able to attend to the needs of your child. For that matter, both teenager and too old pregnancies should be avoided as much as possible. Let opt for the most productive age when we can offer our serves fully which is 20s to 40s or latest 50 for men.

Late 30s is the one considered a risk factor. I think if you are below 35 years and above 22 years then it is alright. My concern is more on above 40s.

That is true. We need to consider alot of thing before getting a child at late ages. It is not only what you want but what is good for the child too.

At 31 and 32 that is just in the age bracket for healthy pregnancies, in your case it just happened that the defect was not related to age rather than medical condition. That is what I think. For a 40 years woman with a health baby, it happens anyway but it is just too risky I think. Most gyn also acknowledges the risk involved and in most case, they is nothing much they can do about it apart from giving you that par care to try and make pregnancy health and to term. Otherwise, it is still risky.

That good age. You will still have that energy to take care of your children with no problem.

I would prefer early adulthood to middle adulthood to minimize the risk that are involved. Earlier than that is not realistic. It is simply teenage pregnancy.

I think when it comes to teenager, having a baby before finishing the college and having a job is unrealistic. Most teenager are not really aware of responsibilities that comes along with having a baby and end up miserable. I also think the same thing that beyond 40 is quite a risk for both child and the mother.

Thank you for that compliment. I like giving challenging topics sometimes. It helps people to think about something and adds to the taste of the discussion. As far as Iam concerned, your age is fine for me. I would be concerned for those who are in their 40s and men in 50s. That seems to be late for me. Take care of your little angel. Babies are adorable anyway when brought in the world in the right place, right time.