Do we really need friends?

Of course we do. People around us reminds us that we are still alive. And we all know that being alive is full of mess, full of problems. In your statements i don't think you're considering your family, your husband and even your kids are supposed to be your nice friends. I really have a feeling that "friend" for you is just like someone that is being used by other people for their own interest. If ever you really don't have a nice friend to consider, try to look first to your kids. I know, for sure, you will be dreaming of becoming your kids' BEST FRIEND.

Most people say that having at least one friend is good enough. In my opinion, that is true because most friends you would have might not actually be your friends, because of the lacking qualities you may want to find in a friend. The qualities I want to find in a friend are loyalty, generosity and intelligence concerning their choices. They would have to be loyal so that they would not talk behind my back and spread rumors about me. Generosity would be one quality so that they would be kind to others and to me.

Definitely, we do need friends. Because we are social animals. Without friends and connections with others, we are not real human beings. You feel upset about your "friends", because it seems that they only want something from you. To tell the truth, i don't think they are real friends. Actually, so many people are abusing the friendship for their ends. True friends are those who are happy for your happiness, and sad for your sadness, and give your advice and suggestions when you are at lost. I admit sometimes our friends do need help from us in money. If i have the ability to help them, i will be glad to do that, but true friends won't just ask money from us. And when they do this, they will give back the money to us as soon as possible. Because they are afraid of losing our friendship. If not, they are just take advantages of "friendship".

oh yeah, some of my friend do that to me, i think maybe i no need them, but they need me.need to help how to change their mind. well, some of them refuse it, leave me, and they hate me.

Recently i just moved to another country and i'm here with my husband he has many friends but i don't, because people here don't like me too much, because i'm compltly different than they are, i want to do different things and i'm thinking different. the one thing of this sittuation is that nobody is useing me just to get something, but from the other site i would like to have someone to share my good and bad things

As we age and have our own family, most of the friends we have eventually turns to be someone that just comes and goes whenever they want to. If I have friends like yours, I will decide not to keep them anymore. I will listen to them but will have second thoughts about money matters. Fortunately I don't have so many friends that does such thing to me. I avoided to have so much of them because I have a problem distinguishing who're real and who's fake.

I guess the ones you described are really not friends at all. Well, at least they're not "close" friends. I guess they have their own lives to tend to that's why they haven't been in touch for a while. At least they turned to you in times of need. Maybe in the future they'll be of some great help so you never know.

Hi,a very good post.In my opinion friends are the best thing after family,we need them as they need us and that relationship make us to be very good friends.

i think we do. we were never meant to be alone and friends are in a different class than family is. sometimes we appreciate our friends more than our families. i know my teenaged daughter sure does!

My Sister has one of these little quote plaques up on Her kitchen wall...it reads "Friends are the family we get to choose for ourselves".. It works for Me..

Hi natnickeep, Yes, we do need friends, but the kind of people you speak of are not real friends. A real friend is someone who is there to help you through thick or thin, and will never take advantage of you. I agree you sure don't need those people in your life, a true friend will love you for who you are and not for what they can get from you. Blessings.

A friend in need is a friend indeed - so goes a popular saying. And there do exist friends loyal and faithful who will stand by you through thick and thin. However, one should be on guard against turncoats and fair-weather friends. It is unfortunate that you have come across the pestering variety alone. This bitter experience should not have made you call everyone a false friend. We do need friends and there will be occasions in life to prove this.

hi, yes,i do believe that we need friends in our life but we make sure that friend is/are truly trusted,especially when we are heart broken or having problems in life,sometimes we need them to endure those problems and obstacles in life.

Hi Natnickeep, I don't think those are really friends, which you described. I call those people who only talk to you when they need you for something to be 'fair weather friends' not real friends. I would say.. no ... I don't need them in my life. However, I don't really have any real friends anymore in my offline life. I do still have them as friends, of course, but I don't get to see them and they never call me. I occasionally hear from them on Facebook... and that is about all. All of my real friends are actually online... and yes I do listen to their troubles, because they need to vent. They don't ask me for money, and if they did.. well, I couldn't help them, most likely... so they won't come to me. I can't think of anyone that has actually asked me for money on my online friends. I did have a friend in real life (years ago) ask me for $150 and she said she would give it back when her husband got paid... it was like pulling teeth to get it back. I finally did get it back, but I made a vow to myself then that I would never give money away that I couldn't afford to lose.

I think you need one or two good friends, then its enough to share your life problems with. Too many is a crowd as they listen and tell out spread all over the neighbourhood. Maybe you should find friends in the neighbourhood. They talk and you talk as normal nothing more than borrowing money anymore. Just say hi to them, its enough.

I guess in a way we all need friends other wise life would be very lonely...it took me years to select the friends I wanted to have, today I only have a hand full of friends but they are worth like gold!...now those so " called friends" that only call you when they need something? they will drag you down into their misery...and at the end no matter what you do they will never be ok any way...I know I have tried again and again and spent hundreds of dollars trying to help but you know what? years later they are still the same they haven't got any further they still have the same story" society is not fair to them"

My answer is more than yes. of course, all of us always needs friends, as they always say, no man is an island and we cannot live without other people in our life. We cannot just life our life just to eat food alone, we need others to fulfill our social needs and personally. Our life is like a puzzle, that we are searching for those pieces which make us our whole personality. Friendship is someone who cannot leave us no matter what happens, they will always be there in times of problems and troubles.

Of course wee need friends, everybody need a friend no matter. But this kind of friend that you have mentioned, I'd rather dump her and be alone. I mean there's a lot of people out there that who will care for, value me, and recognize m presence. Someone who will not use me, and not to call me whenever they just need me. This is kind of attitude is unacceptable for me.

Those aren't friends you are referring to but opportunists. Friends would never do that. They would think for you before themselves. I do for my friends and I know they do too.

Of course, we really need to have friends. Because there are your friends in case you have a problem, they can help you as long as they can. and true friends can understand you and there for you! :)