Depression and dealing with it

Philippines
November 9, 2011 2:57pm CST
For the longest time I have been depressed. I recently watched "The Beaver" starring Mel Gibson and was surprised at the many similarities his depression had with mine. Thank god I am conscious enough to know I was going down a dark spiral and made a decision to change my situation. My depression was caused by the very thing I loved to do. Work. I have always worked ever since I could remember. I was always thinking about how to earn money even at a young age. Games were things I did not indulge in unless I knew there was something I could get out of it. Tys were just little trophies I bought to reward myself for all the "hard work" I did. And yet I wanted more. I could not put a name on it then. Now I can. It is freedom. Freedom to do what I want to do. Freedom to express myself. I was happy earning money as a manager but not as happy as when I was playing in my band for free. Or earning pennies from writing. I have come to realize that I dealt with my depression in the only way I could before. Work and move past it. I never addressed it. After leaving my job as a manager and working as a Networker and having a lot more freedom, I can now say I am slowly taking back what I had lost working as an employee for a very long time. Freedom.
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@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
I envy you. I'd like to also diss my job (which I hate very much) and do something I really love, but, I just can't. Not yet, not right now. Too many things to consider. But, I know how you felt then. Feels like you're trapped and you just can't breathe. I'm happy you have gotten out.
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• United States
10 Nov 11
I've given up on a lot of my writing.. I just don't have it in me anymore. Depression has taken over. I can write some things that I really love.. but I still have to be in the mood for it.
@00fear (3216)
• United States
9 Nov 11
Yea, I hate depression, it is an annoying feeling people can get. I used to feel depress but I think I am like that. When people said about how people go through the times in their life when growing up (when being maybe 12/13), they feel awkward, a feeling they don't know. I felt depressed about it. The depression had left on its own at least til when I was 20. My dog had puppies that my brother asked me to take care of them (but we were going to sell them, not keep them) and since I never really did anything to take care of them, they fell in the pool and I had regret it for a bit. The following day, I didn't think about the past anymore but suddenly when I was watching TV, without even thinking about the puppies, it came back. I had this strange feeling that I even wanted to will...let's just say...leave my life. I felt like my mom wasn't my mom, I felt funny, like soon, everyone I love will pass away sooner, until like 4/5 month, thank god it went away. I don't know when the next is coming but I feel, due to the one it came unexpectedly when I was 20, it might come again later. I hope not though.
• Malaysia
10 Nov 11
OOh I truly understand the point you are saying that you hope your family passed away sooner so that you got freedom at what you are doing. So it passed now, you begin for new life and please eat medicine to control that. Did you do that? I mean taking medicine. I take medicine and I am quite well now.
@00fear (3216)
• United States
10 Nov 11
Actually no. When it was getting worse those 4 month after, my parents did consider in taking pills. My mom told me in the past that taking pills are not good to take because I might get addicted to them. But since it was getting worse, they told me to take them. It feels like my feelings heard what they told me haha because when they told me the depression went away.
@GemmaR (8517)
10 Nov 11
I think that work can be a cause of depression in a lot of our lives if we don't have a job that we enjoy doing. I had this when I was working in an office, and I always knew that I would be much happier if I was working from home doing writing, which is something that I seriously enjoy doing with my time. I also enjoy being free to set my own time limits for when I want to do work, and of course that is something that you're going to be able to achieve if you're working from home like I chose to do a couple of years ago.
• Vietnam
10 Nov 11
Firstly, I want to say thanks to all of you. After reading your stories I feel as be shared. I am young and I have a perfect family with love of my parents and several close friends who always stand by me although what happens. Beside, compare with many young people in my country - they grow up and obey their parents' guide without aware of theirs passion, I have chance to pursue my dream becoming a doctor. I am true a lucky person. But in the past rarely did I feel content with everything I done. I always looked for perfection and never can I did it, so I begin become sad, after, everything more bad, I usually got into temper, I shouted at my friend, my parents, I am impatiently... And everything happened to followed domino effect, I failed, I am depressed and wanted to give up. One day, when I was walking in street and saw kids was playing with together I recognized they are unaffected by any thing around them and I wonder do this way help them to avoid being depressed like adults who think and worry so much. Since I made a decision that I am going to come back childhood with thinking less, limiting ambition, decreasing time of work and increasing time for family, friends.... You see, I learn my lesson like that, and now I entirely feel freedom in my mind, nothing can impact on my mind. I always happy in spite of what happens. I completely change ;)
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
For me don't gave up as long as you live in this time you have many reason to survive just worship the only true God Jehovah so that things would be best in you.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
10 Nov 11
Depression is something different from what you descripe. What you had is caused by something clear, your job and that is something you can change. The depressions I know are caused by what can't be changed, since it's there, inside, sometimes deep, sometimes just under the surface. It doesn't need a reason to show.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
9 Nov 11
I think we all suffer from depression at times, I feel myself getting a little depressed at times and the only thing I can do is first try and talk myself out of it and if that doesn't work I either go visit a happy friend or go shopping...
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
this is one thing that we can not control, depression. even we do everything to buzz it off in our minds the time you need to lay down before you sleep it will creep inside your brain again. i guess giving self time is one of s good idea on dealing with depression. time to be depress and time to think on how to get away with this depression. you can not just analyze it or psych your self on not being depress at once all of this needs time. good for you now that you found the reason to shake the stress off and good for you that you found your freedom.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
10 Nov 11
I am sorry to hear you depressed because of busy working. I, on the other part depressed because I lovesick and studies pressure. So I am glad you back on track again. Hopefully this time you will make it through. Friends stick through thin and thick!
@celticeagle (165966)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Nov 11
Part of the problem for some many people with this problem is realizing they are depressed. I think that people forget the old standby 'Everything in moderation' and try to do too much until it consumes them. I have been diagnosed with severe depression with panic attacks. I can't work. Luckily I am retired and I don't need to. I am glad to hear you have found what is most important to you. Freedom is something to fight for and to be happy you have.
• United States
10 Nov 11
I have major depression disorder. I used to be treated with medication... but my doc wanted me to see a psychiatrist for some issues that I was having. I went once and the visits were $90 each that I couldn't afford to go. The psychiatrist won't release me so I can go back to my regular doctor. She can't treat me until he does, so I am in a catch 22. I've just been doing without. For the most part I was doing okay.. but now that I am in constant pain, the depression has come back much more. I still have ups and downs.. but I am never really happy anymore.
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
This is the part of our life every people have a problem but this problem makes you stronger!