Do you regret a decision about a past relationship?

I agree, there is nothing to regret from past. It is to give us lesson and will make us a better person as well. Congrats, you've found the right man

I'm glad that you are friends with your ex. I think it does make a difference how we view those that we had a relationship with. A lot of the time relationships don't end so pretty. But if your friends I'm glad for you all. And it is a wonderful thing that you have a husband who you love dearly.

I understand where you're coming from. It is quite demanding sometimes. And as far as me and my husband goes, we'll never get back together. He and I are on two different paths in life and I'm choosing to travel mine versus mine and his. But I've grown to accept it.. and with God's help get over it. I do sometimes miss him... there will always be things that I miss about him.. that I won't find in anyone else. But sometimes... in life... people make decisions for you before you are even able to consider it for yourself. When that happens, you either contest it (which most of the brings more drama and stress) or you can accept it and move on with your life as best you know how. But when the negatives outweigh the positives, you have to consider what is best for YOU versus what is best for US.

Yeah I agree with you that marriage can take it's toll. I know me and my husband have really had some hard times. We have been married for four years. I don't know what will happen in the future honestly. It seems as if we are going in two different directions in life. I sometimes wonder if I have the strength to keep going. He is so mellow about the whole situation and I don't think he would really care what happened unless somehow his feelings would change when we are apart. So I imagine where you are coming from. I'm sorry that your most current relationship ended. Perhaps something will happen that will help you both to be together.

I agree with you that at times we make hasty decisions when it comes to relationships. I think that we as women like to feel loved and wanted. And when we aren't in a relationship we get depressed. We see so many others in a relationship and assume that they are happy. I feel a lot of us are weak at those times when we aren't able to make the right decisions when it comes to starting a new relationship. It does take time for us to get ourselves together before we jump into another relationship but we aren't always willing to wait.

I'm glad that you stood up for what you wanted. Sometimes they don't listen to us and are mad about some decisions we make. But they are our decisions to make and if they love us they will respect us for them. I'm glad that you have a good relationship going on. I hope that things work out good for the both of you and that you are able to get married.

I'm so happy for you both. That is so awesome that your first boyfriend is the person you married. That is absolutely great. That is funny that he married you in a hurry.How long have the two of you been married now? I'm glad that you don't focus on past wrongs or mistakes. Sometimes if we overly think about things to much it can be detrimental to our health.

@darkstar I'm happy that you are doing better. A lot of the time when we aren't in a certain relationship or our current relationship ends it can be very hard to cope and successfully deal with. So I'm glad that you are in a better and happier relationship.

@syc I know what you mean. It can be very difficult when a person doesn't know what they want. Especially when a person is unclear about this they should wait longer before they get married. It's sad to say though that some individuals who marry young end up changing their thoughts and views on matters and that greatly affects the relationship. A couple then starts to head in different directions in their life. I agree that it is important not to have children when a relationship is like this. Some people think that having a child will make things better but that is not the case. A lot of the time it only adds to the problems and differing viewpoints. I'm sorry that you and your husband lost love for each other. That can be very hard because when a couple first are together the love can be so strong and it doesn't cross our minds what hard situations our relationship can end up in.

I'm happy that you have been able to make it through those hard times. Relationships are difficult. And breaking up can be very hard on us. We can learn a lot about ourselves and the type of person we want to be with during those times. So hopefully like you mentioned it has helped you to be prepared for other opportunities that come up in your life.

@weasel81 yeah sometimes it takes us a while to see how things really are. And not to mention the fact that being with someone for a long time does affect us. We get use to being with that person. Perhaps living under the same roof, spliting the bills, etc. So when a relationship ends it takes a toll on more than our emotions. I hope that you and your son are developing a good relationship despite your separation. Spliting up is really hard on children. I wish it weren't but unfortunately it is. There are so many children who are affected by this.

I agree that relationships do give us ideas of what we need to avoid. We learn from ourselves and can start to see what we really want out of a relationship. We become more mature in our life desires and what's really important.

Yeah I do agree with you on that. When we decide to leave someone there's usually a good reason. And we are right a lot of the time for the decision we have made to leave. I'm glad that I haven't experienced to much of this. That I didn't have to have a lot of relationships in order to figure out the type of person I wanted to be with.