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It is Nov 11th,2011(2011.11.11),which is so-called "Singles' Day",a Chinese pop culture holiday for those who are still single.Yet it has also become a trend for people to get married in order to show that they are going to end their single life. 2011.11.11 with six ones is viewed as the ultimate World Single Day. Unfortunately but luckily, i have a boyfriend,and now he is on the way to Hangzhou to see me. We live in different cities,he works in shanghai and i study for master degree in Hangzhou. We have been in love for more than three years.We were classmates in the middle school. But recently,we often quarrel with each other partly because of living in totally different environments,which makes us feel exhausted and upset.I even began to doubt this affection ,and i have never had such idea before.I am confused: am i wrong? or is he wrong? He always makes me feel that he is disciplining me like my parents. I know he wants to help me ,but the way he adopts is unacceptable for me sometimes.For example,When i want to try something that is timewasting and useless in his opinion, such as joining a student association, he will be disappointed and blame me if i do it,which makes me feel repressed. I want to experience something,and there is something you cann't really understand if you don't expereince it yourself. Besides,his thoughts are not alwayuseful at least in my eyes,and he can support me. Sometimes i don't konw how to continue this affection of 3 years . I confess that i have my faults,but he also has. Unluckily,hes right,let alone,his thoughts about something he did not experience.After all,he is only one year older than me,and his experience is not that rich,though he is more mature than most of his peers. I want to do something meaningful and useful at least in my eyes and he can support me. I confess that i have my own faults,but he also has. Luckily,he thinks that the main problem is on me ,i am childish ,naive,rebelious...Indeed,there are many things i can do ,less quarrels and compaints ,more concern and understanding.But i hope he knows his problems.Anyway,at first,i need to do what i should do,then i have the right to blame him.Endless quarrels is not the key to problems.Easier said than done and i am sharing with those have the same puzzles as an encouragement. There is no righr or wrong in the affection.If you can tolerate and understand each other ,you'll be fine.Maybe you have to change a little or a lot for your lover.You konw,finding a proper lover is so diffcult that you have to cherish one you have though he or she has many shotcomings. All shall be well,Jack shall have Jill.May you have a lover who you love and love you.