Bad child!

Hi Ayvanee and welcome to Mylot! I don't think you should worry about this a bit. I think ALL kids do things that upset parents and worry them...make them wonder if they are raising them right etc. As a kid, yes...I did things and I upset them and worried them. I also said things that I didn't mean and I'm sure they didn't mean all that they said to me out of anger and frustration. As a teen, I'm sure they would tell you that I put them through hll and I would tell you that I wasn't nearly as bad as half my friends. And then... I grew up and became a parent myself. All of my girls have done all sorts of things that have stressed me out, caused me to pause and question my parenting and at times made me so so frustrated. They grow up and things calm down and in reflection, I miss those days. I will say that most of the things they pulled that upset me so are things that I can now look back on and laugh. The ones that held no humour...well, I can still see in looking at them now...I worried needlessly. The one daughter that I would say was the most rebellious and got in the most trouble and created sleepless nights and gray hairs etc is now 25 with a son of her own. She sometimes expresses feelings of guilt at how she acted. It hurts me that she feels that way. It's life...she was learning and I learned a lot as well. Parents don't hold onto those things. It's part of growing up. I don't want my kids to feel guilty or bad .I'll bet your parents don't feel as bad at all about these things as you do. I'll bet they don't even think about them.

I remember how my mom cried when my boyfriend,now husband, decided to marry a year after our graduation.I know i hurt her a lot that day,she did not even bother to go to my wedding day. :-) and i cried more..

Yes, I consider myself as a bad child. I feel like I have done lots of things to make them mad or sad because of me. I am not the kind of person that will smoke, stay out late, or have bad friends. But even if I am not like that, I still feel that I hurt my parents because of the way I talk to them and the way I treat them. I want to change for their sake, but it's not that simple. Just because I noticed that I'm like that, doesn't mean that it;s going to be easy to change.

Not at all. I have always been that soft, favorite type of kid. It is good that you have realized you weakness. Hope you are no longer the same. Sometimes we do things only because we don't understand how we were hurting others.

I've done it once. But she yelled at me and all for not a very reasonable "reason". She's mad about something that she shouldn't have. But its over now, I just hugged her and said sorry. And were okay. Like nothing happened.

I can honestly say I was never a bad child. Yes, I did the nornal teenage things like talk back and roll my eyes but that was about it. I only snuck out once and that landed me in a heap of trouble even though my mother didn't find out until later. Now my sister on the other hand. Whew! was she bad! I can remember her and my mother would have knock down, drag out fights. My sister was so hard headed and wasn't going to listen to a thing my mother said. I remember she wouldn't get ready one day to go to the Yamboree festival so we left her at the house and she threw her boot through the window because she was so pissed at mom. Well, you know what they say, what goes around comes around. She has 2 girls now and her youngest who is only 9 is giving her all kinds of hell LOL Poor thing! She's the spitting image of her mother..and her mothers stubborness.

I think that most of us have been horrible to our parents at one time or another. I strongly believe that the only time that we truly realise just how much we hurt our parents is when we have children of our own and are able to see things from the perspective of a parent for the first time in our lives. You shouldn't look at the past now though, you should look to the future and think about the things that you could do differently in order to make the relationship between yourself and your parents more positive.

I guess a lot of us had in one way or another had done a few things that disappointed or made our parents feel bad. I think it's just part of growing up. What's important though is we realized that we had done something that saddened our parents and that we made every effort to let them know how sorry we are that we did those things and try our very best not to do it again :)

Most kids at one point in their time disappoints their mom or dad. Had an argument too. It is sad to hurt them and make them cry but for sure everything will be fine.