Stop calling me, I am not going to use the money.
By loidee
@loidee (175)
Philippines
November 12, 2011 9:14pm CST
My guy bestfriend left the country to work abroad as a nurse. Before he did, he asked if I could be the one to follow-up and get his last pay check and I said yes. He also told his mom about it. I haven't gotten around to getting it because I have been busy with a lot of things lately. His mom is constantly calling me 24/7 pestering me about the check. I told her that I would go to the office and get it yesterday but I wasn't able to go because I had a lot of meet-ups that day and there were a few glitches. It was already dark when I finished with the meet-ups. From then on, she's been calling me nonstop and I just don't want to talk to them because I already told them that I would deposit the check to her son's account as soon as I get the check. And besides, I can not even cash it out since it's not in my name. Her constant calls make me feel like they think I'm going to use the money. And I really hate that. I really just want to smash my phone so that they couldn't call me anymore. But I have to face my demons. I'll call the office and inquire about the check so that they'll have answers.
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18 responses
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
I know it's annoying and if I were you I'd be mightily pissed as well. However, the thing that would make me feel less stressed about it is 1. She's old. 2. She probably needs the money badly.
You know how when old people do annoying things we just go and say "Let her be, she's old. (Same goes for kids "Let 'em be, they're young.)
Then just assume that she needs the money badly for an emergency, thus justifying her actions. While it may not be true, the thought can help make you feel better.
I hope you'll get around to doing the task so you won;t have to be pestered anymore. It's for your best friend anyway, and I'm sure you're willing to help in spite of the hassle.
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@loidee (175)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
hahaha that's nice. i can't make myself think that since I know his mom. and she's 40-ish and she doesn't need the money. she has an allowance and i am going to deposit the money on my bestfriend's account anyway, which she can't touch. haha she 's already receiving money monthly from her mom and son, she doesn't need it. some people are just too crazy about money. :( yes, that's why i agreed since he's my bff.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
So I guess in that case the best thing to do is just do the task you agreed to as soon as possible to avoid any further hassles. If I were you I'd not have the guts to say I'm busy right now, I can't do it yet. I'm gonna have to do it soon in spite of my own busy schedule. And of course I'm gonna be royally pissed but will keep quiet about it and rant somewhere else, haha.
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@loidee (175)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
that's why Im ranting here because somehow talking about it to my family is not working because they just keep quiet. haha I'm doing it the soonest possible! I can not take this if i do it a little longer. haha Now, I'm still thinking of an alibi why I'm not answering her calls. :D
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
13 Nov 11
Did your Friend give you any indication He'd need the money in his account urgently once you got his cheque? Has his Mother said anything to that effect?
I can't figure why He didn't get Her to pick up his Cheque,though..
So how long has it been since He left,how long has it taken so far for you not to get it,and how many days has She been phoning?
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
13 Nov 11
Wow..It's taken them from July to November and they still haven't authorised his last Pay Cheque? No wonder His Mom's concerned.. I was thinking at most it might take a couple of weeks!
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@loidee (175)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
no. he just said to get the money when I'm free. and he said to ignore his mother because she's receiving allowance from him and his grandparents and never to tell her how much the check is. his mother is in another province which is a 4-hour boat ride from the city and they don't really know the way around here. he left last july and the check is not yet confirmed to be released. he just told me about it a couple of weeks ago when I was about to leave for the province for the holiday. :D
@shrijsr (574)
• Bangalore, India
13 Nov 11
How mean people are! Its not like you asked them yourself to collect the cheque. They only insisted you on doing it. After asking you to help they can't annoy you so much on that. I don't understand why people don't understand that others also will have their own work to take care off. They are asking an help and on top of that they are pestering you to do it as soon as you can. Seriously mean! 
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
14 Nov 11
I wouldn't put up with her very long... I'd just tell her to get it herself. Is she supposed to even have access to it? It's your best friend's account right? not his mother's.
@mariahhh (1328)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Nov 11
Oh my goodness, why is she being so paranoid? Maybe she needs the money that is why she is pestering you? Her son was just asking you a favor, she should not act like that. Maybe you can tell her that you will not do it anymore, do it herself if she's being mistrustful lol. How are you and your best friend? I hope your friendship is not affected because of this. 
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Maybe your best friend can tell his mom to stop bothering you. 
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
13 Nov 11
i think your friend's mother doesnt have shame feeling.
you have try the best for to do what you have promise, but the condition is impossible to do that.
i think you are not wrong.
just your friend's mother is too hurry.
she cant be patient for a while.
too greedy i think.
if i were your friend, i will not do that.
im thankful that you have agree to help me, i will try to be patient.
not to be like your friend's mother.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
13 Nov 11
It sounds to me that it could be that, or it could be that he needs the money and just doesn't want to admit it? Either way they shouldn't hound you like that. Though you do have a responsibility to get it since you said you would. I won't and can't take sides here. Just get it done and get it out of your way and them out of your hair.
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
I know how rotten it feels to be treated like you're going to steal something. I hate that feeling. Some people are just so distrustful that they make you feel so low. I hate people who have no trust in others. Why did that friend of yours ask you to get his check if he did not trust you in the first place? It seems like you are now the one who owes them an explanation. You do not owe them anything. In fact, they are the ones asking you a favor.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
How sad that you are suffering from 'ringing in the ears' (LOL) because of this request of your friend. I can just think that maybe they really need the money that your friend left that's why his mother wanted to check if you have gotten it already. If there is still that persistent call, why not tell them that they will just be the one get it since you are busy and their calls are already a bother to you. In that way, you maintain your cool and still be friends with them. I'm afraid that you'll end up as enemies because of this.
Try to spend a few minutes call to his mother and tell them that you will appreciate much if they will just get the check themselves. Good luck.
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@loidee (175)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
My bestfriend already sent an authorization letter that has mt name on it. actually she doesn't need the money since she's receiving money from her parents from the states. Maybe she needs it to buy new things. anyway, her son's not even going to give her his full paycheck. he's just giving her a few bucks. :D it get really annoying. i have my phone on silent now. :D
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@lmpalco (89)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
Its not your responsibility. They're really mean. If they don't trust you on that they shouldn't ask you to do it, They should claim it themselves. But since your being a friend you will help them get the cheque. But they shouldn't force you, instead consider you have things to do other that claiming what is not yours. They should just be thankful they have a helpful friend like you.
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@loidee (175)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
I couldn't say it any better! you took the words out of my mouth. I'm hoping that she'd be considerate. but i think if that's her personality, i can't argue anymore. haha but you know, i'm not tooting my own horn. And I really should get that money asap because I can not stand the calls anymore. :D thank you!
@princelove141 (100)
• India
13 Nov 11
My freind may be your freind may be in need thats why he is asking for money and secondly might it be that she just calling you constantly because she don`t want you to forget the money thats it nothing more than that my freind......
@loidee (175)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
my friend doesn't need the money. :D he's been receiving his salary since july and this paycheck is from the last job he had last april and it's not even confirmed that his check i available for release just yet. and she's actually doing a great job on not making me forget since she pesters me 24/7... haaaaay
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
Well, isn't she paranoid?
Maybe you should have turned down to do that task your boyfriend gave you, since you are really busy. I think it's partly your fault, because you told them you would do this task this day but failed to do it on time. Naturally, they become suspicious.
Anyway, if you could get someone else in your boyfriends family to do that task instead, maybe they'd stop pestering you. Just saying. Let his mother do it, if she had all that time to call you, it must she had plenty of time in her hands to do that task.
I hope they stop calling and annoying you.
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@Queen_11 (307)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
Be cool :) You don't need to smash your phone because of that. If you do it, you'll just oblige yourself to buy another one, hehe. May be a better approach is to inform your guy friend about your situation and advise his mother not to call you too frequently.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Nov 11
hi loidee and all this because your guy best friend did not do that for himself.my G he should have asked his ex employer to mail him
the check at his address abroad
or better yet just went to his old employer and asked for his last paycheck.that way he would not involve you a busy person in his personal details.also unless his
mom is a dodo why not let her go to the ex boss get the check and send it to her son. He was using you and you should have said no
you know that little two letter word" n o."
or better yet just went to his old employer and asked for his last paycheck.that way he would not involve you a busy person in his personal details.also unless his
mom is a dodo why not let her go to the ex boss get the check and send it to her son. He was using you and you should have said no
you know that little two letter word" n o."
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
This is really annoying and how insensitive those people are.
Do they realize that you are also working and have your own issues and activities? (duh)
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
14 Nov 11
I'd be ticked off too. Though, I think I would tell the mom to get it instead of you and to leave you alone. Let her get it. I know they are probably needing the money really bad... so it might be a good idea to go ahead and make a point to get it and deposit it since you said you would..It would get her out of your hair.... but I would hate that responsibility too because it clearly looks like they don't trust you.. like almost accusing you of stealing it. Heck.. I'd let that mother go get it and be done with it.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
14 Nov 11
hi loidee, I am sure when you agreeded to do this favor for
your friend it was sincere and excellent gesture. However you
also have a life...perhaps if its that annoying getting it done
you can have the office of your friend mail the check directly
to his mother since he felt it necessary to advised her of your
plans to pick up his check...if they mail it to her then she can
deposit it and everything can be peachy..you won't have to smash
your phone at least....think about it!!!!!!!
