so...what am i looking for?

Sounds as if you are missing passion in your life. You have to have something that makes you feel alive and look forward to tomorrow for. Hard to describe. I'm sure that your children and husband give you that to an extent but it has to be more than that....something that would keep you going even if they were not around...something for YOU whether it be a hobby, a sport, a goal etc. Only you can decide what that passion is but it will be what drives you and makes you look forward to getting out of bed each day.

wow..it means you are so rich when you admit that you had car, motorcycle and so on...

Well I will say life is never perfect...nothing is perfect every thing has it's flaws, love, family, friends if we expect perfection then we are expecting the impossible and we are bound to disappointment! maybe there is something in your life that is missing think about it...a childhood dream, a long time wish, and when you find what it is your life may not still be perfect but at least you will be content!

You're lucky, to have all the things I do not have. You have a house, car, motorcycle, materials, etc.. I do not have it all, and I also feel empty, and also feel alone. You are more fortunate than me.

Something tells me you need some time out sweetie. Alone time to find yourself again. Been there, done that, not easy at all. Just make sure you take this time out, okay

If you already have everything you want and everything you need in life but you still feel lonely, then maybe it's because you don't truly value what they mean in your life. You have to imbibe the feeling of happiness because happiness can only mean in its real definition when you feel contented of what you have in all aspects. Nobody is happy all of the time, but some people are definitely more fulfilled than others. You belong to this group. Be thankful with all that you have in life. People with strong sense of gratitude, love and appreciation don't necessarily have more than others, they simply recognize and see more beauty in their lives. If you feel that what you have in life is not "enough," then try practicing an attitude of thankfulness. You might realize how good you have them after all. God bless!

Hi,how to say, it seems that you have clear understanding about what you owned and feel appreciate about what you owned, well, that is the first step to be satisfied and happy. Because there are lots of people who have not even realized what they owned and feel appreciation about those things. Are you feeling empty because your dull job or feel your talent is wasted? I think one big part of happiness comes from realization of one's ambition. Though we are happy about the family and don't need to worry about our life in materials, but if we don't have a job, or have a job which can allow you exert your ability, then we won't be really happy.

Everyone is looking for something. It means..no one is contented with his/her life? Yah,sometimes, even the richest man in the world is still searching for something, maybe because, it only to show us that we cannot find or obtain everything that we want. We always miss a thing, from the biggest to the smallest thing in life.

you're so lucky then my friend cos a lot of people out there are dreaming to have life like yours. I do too. I'm not rich as you. I have a job but t doesn't have good salary. My husband also has a job but we still make little money every month. we live with our parents and all facilities we got belong to my parents. we have a four years old daughter and you know school today is very expensive. but thank God I'm happy cos I feel blessed and enough with all we get today. There are so many people out there are not so lucky like me. maybe I don't have car or good job, but I'm still able to eat good food, buy good clothes though not too often. I think we should be grateful with all of that. you have many fancy goods in your life, but why do you still feel empty? maybe you need to look down to people who are not as lucky as you. if you do, you will be very lucky and you should be grateful of it. if you are still feeling empty, maybe it's time for you to be closer with God. cos only He knows all the answers we need..Good luck..

Yes, if you have all those things and people, what are you still looking for, my friend. I think, God is telling you something. Maybe He wants you to start an advocacy on how to be able to help less fortunate people, my friend.

What you don't have is yourself. You forget about yourself. You thought or people showed you that you only are succesful if you have the same like others have. Now you have it you found out it doesn not make you happy at all. There is nothing to fight for, to dream about. You are like an empty glass a nobody. No dreams no goals. Some dreams should be there just to dream about they keep you fighting, going on and make you happy.

Maybe you need to have some fun, enjoy your life . Maybe you can go out of town, have some rest. Try to relax and enjoy the outside. Have you tried going on a long vacation? Maybe you need to travel somewhere, or maybe you can go to a spa so you can relax.

Try to think. Maybe there's still something missing in you. Maybe there is still something you want to do in your life that you haven't tried before. But I guess that's really the nature of people. We always keep on wanting something. Whenever we get that something, we would want another thing. I don't know. Just be happy and enjoy life.

Part of being happy is the feeling of accomplishment that we feel when we reach a goal we have been working for, it is also important the drive that we feel while working to accomplish it. When we feel we have already gotten everything we want we lose that drive and our zest for life. You need to set a goal for yourself. It does not matter what this goal is try to pick something you have always wanted to do for example I have always wanted to write a full length novel. Once you have picked a goal you will again have something to work towards. I think this will give you a new sense of purpose and accomplishment and help with that empty feeling you have been experiencing. The joy of accomplishing this goal should be even greater since you now have a great family to share the feeling with.

Hello Ifa... Yes, there comes a time in everyone's life, when life seems and feels perfect; and yet there's something not there. That emptiness is due to the lack of that occassional fun, which is required. So pack the lil bags and gather family and have a good picnic... :-)

Hi, ifa: My understand that you have every thing any one have to dream, but i think that yo do not have a time for your self, try to sit down, be relax, and ask your self, Is that all things for any one to just have. Try to thing for others, sharing their interests and feasts and make more visiting to your relations. love people around you, and see the love in their eyes. and first before of all that, pray and be near for God, to gain happiness.

hi ifa we can have what you mentioned and a great family , great kids but still feel empty and lonely as no person man or woman is an island to him or herself.there are times when we need someone to tal to wife, hubby or best friend. I am living here in this tiresome retirement center because we were made homeless. there are 100 some others here but I get lonely to see my son, my only close family.I am looking for being again self sufficient getting out of there into an apt with my son again if we can ever get enough money together to do it.so no my life is far from perfect but here is be tter than being homeless and drifting from one shelter to another.Why don't you grab your spouse or your closest friend when you feel unhappy and just voice all those feelings, troubles shared are indeed halved. hope this helps in any way.

I used to feel that way ifa, its like i have the means and my family yet there is something i am yearning, till i realized i lost that passion i used to have. I used to love the arts, i love painting, and reading and writing.. and i lost all that when i had family.. my time was devoted solely for them and i realized i was loosing myself. So just lately, i do try to get it back bit by bit.. i realized that even though we are married, we must not forget who we are, we must still follow what we want in life.. if you love cooking, still go for it..

It's human nature, always dissatisfied. I also felt the same, like you. We, as humans, are not grateful for what we already have. We should be thankful with what we have. So we can live this life, with great happiness. Follow, and find that we want, there will never be ending.

well ifa...you may have all the material items one think they need in life but if you are not happy,,there is something missing and I don't think its materalitic things...what type of relationship do you have with others..Maybe life is great around you but your heart may not be full filled..Are you happy with you everyday love from your daughter , your son, and your husband or do you fill an emptyiness there...I don't know if there is such a thing as a perfect life....what are you calling a perfect life..it seems as thou you have everthing there is but still is loney...Check your heart...I am sure if you give yourself a real check you will be able to answer your own delemia...good luck.. Remember you must always love yourself...