do you think men rule over there wives, wives have to obey?

Imagine 2 drivers trying to gain control of the steering wheel. The other wanting to steer left, the other right. What is most likely to happen to these two? Most probable scenario a car accident. Obviously this is what's happening in most homes. When 2 people in marriage thinks none of them is inferior with the other the marriage comes crumbling down. One has to back down, either the wife or the husband. In most successful marriages I know, one has to compromise. Every now and then, there are domineering type of women, and submissive type of men. So, it has to be that at least one of the two vanquish his/her authority so the family will be in good order.

It is my belief that husbands and wives are equal and a marriage should be a partnership. I never could understand why some men felt they need control over their wives. Its 2011, decisions should be made through conversation on all aspects of the relationship.

Hello Lijoos, I agree it happens in todays men dominated world.People usually don't treat their wives equally and she is supposed to work more than men.But world is changing and people also are changing and the situation of women is improving these days specially in our country and still needs more changes. I don't rule over my wife instead she rules over me as there are lot of works which i expect her to do but she expect me to do that but i have no complaints as its our work and it hardly matters who does it.

You are right Lioos....The wife and husband have same priority in their life.... Both of them should be one in mind....they have to share the all things.... Both of the people have right to express their views....I think that they have equal priority...But some of the people says that women is under men....So I like to get a good job after study...Otherwise,The husband and his family will under estimate me....I fear so................. Thank you.....

In the old times, even 20-30 years ago, women are under the impression that they should always follow their husband's decision, like they have no voice at all. But today, a lot of things have change. there is gender equality now. and I think that both husband and wife should have a say in each decision that they make. And that they should respect each other. and when a situation comes that they don't agree, they can always compromise. :D

First of all, men and women are partners. They work together not in a master-servant relationship but as equals. If you could remember well in the creation story, GOD didn't create woman from man's head to be superior nor his foot to be subordinate. HE created woman from man's rib which is near his heart so that man will love him. This is also the reason why a man must leave his parents to be with his wife so that they would become partners and be one. ^_^

It's true that there are women who can do as much as what men can do but men cannot ever give birth like women. But I still think a man and a women are totally different.. well, each individual is different. There are some women who can't give birth and there are some men who cannot see. So, I think in all each relationship is different as well, like there are wives who obey husbands, and husbands who obey wives, and husbands and wives who don't obey to anyone. Etc. Some people will never even marry. I think in the end, it will depend on each individual.

My husband and i are both working. We share in all expenses, but he gets to share the higher. That's our agreement, because he earns more. But i can buy something for myself without having to ask him and so with him . But when it comes to decisions regarding family matters, we always talk about what will be our decision. We would choose after we have laid down the pros and cons. However, i respect him as the Head of our family.

Hmmmmmmm I like you thought good view yes between man and women should equality. Man should understand how many heavy, danger work is completed by women so they should care of his wife, mother, sister everyone. But no single man is understand this specially in India ahha....but I am lucky my sweet and danger hubby understand this and he helps me and my MIL both and not discriminate between us.

hello, Yeah, your right, I agree. Well, it is nice to hear from you that we are all equal and all of us have to respect each other. No weak and no strong just equal. Especially if you are already married, Honestly, I dont like man dictates what I should do and what I should not and I dont like man dont take responsibility to our family.

well... let me tell you, honestly i believe that girls in general most be under man, why? maybe most of you believe that this have no sense, but if you as man have the smart rules in your house and you have the power knowledge, courage, and of course logical rules and dont forget the financial stability to support your family i think most girls will agree to follow our rules, and i certainly believe that in my house there is only one head to rule in my house becaus im the man, im sure of that.

I totally agree with you. Men and women should be equal, especially in the relationship. I some countries, women are still suffering so much from pregnancy, taking care of their children, cleaning the house, and cooking. Those old doings should stop. Men and women are equal, so guys should also do the chores, help their wives to take care of the children. In today's times, women are also very capable and can do every man's job.

Yes you are, men and women are equally treat in the same manner, gender equality as they call it. Of course men want the women to be strong in order for them to become at ease. They need to know that their lives will become okay knowing that their partners are also strong to carry all the situations.

Some women yes but for those who have realized their rights, not anymore. That is why marriages seems just impossible nowadays. One of the reason been that the women are no longer the easy to command like before.

I honestly don't believe that men rule over their wives, and that their wives should simply obey. Men and women are equal. I don't feel that my husband should rule over me, or anything like that. We're both equal in our relationship, and I believe that this is the way that it should be.

Good to see everyone thinks they should be equal. It`s not true that women can do everything men are doing,try going to the pub and get drunk while you watch football every day .

I think it depends on where you live, which culture and on your own character. There are men who love to be in charge and who have less self esteem so they prefer to be the boss everywhere and overruling and kicking at their wife. This makes them feel better. There are also women who are bossy and men who find that find. It's an easy life is someone is arranging everything for you. I think every human is equal, we all have different talents, qualities and the trick is to find someone that fits you, not fights you. It is not important if others think your relationship is great but if you too feel great with it. Many men say they like to have a great conversation with a smart woman but in reality it's not true. The biggest group of single women (wanted or not) are the women who are (high) educated and smart. Many men seem to feel a loser if they are near them. So in the end they prefer the dumb blond girl (who is frequently not dumb at all but knows how to play the idiot or child to get what she wants) or the so called more willing/ever giving in and forget about themself type of women (what we call the postorder-women in my country although this frequently doesn't turn out the way men think either). My opinion is that each person should do what he can and find someone that fits him/her and accept him/her the way he/she is. If you like to be a slave be a slave, if you like to be a mistress be one. This is a choice you can make. It's your life so you have to decide, just don't let yourself humilate and kicked down in the (so called) name of love.

Wow....that's a nice discussion. I'm not agree that men rule over there wives because it must be equal in everything because what men do, women can. They live as partners so no one can be higher either of the two and they must agree each others decision.

I agree that men and women are created equally, their relationship as husband and wife will not succeed if they don't work as one. On the other side, it is written that women should submit to their husband. Not because women are weak, I think obeying their husband will also save them from conflicts to some extent. What do you think will happen if both parties have different perceptive and they don't want to be ruled by the other? .. I think their relationship will suffer.