How long have you been single?

@Lore2009 (7378)
United States
November 13, 2011 6:31pm CST
I heard that there's data that some people have 0 days as being single in between relationships. Not meaning they were cheating, necessarily, but bam, out with the old, in with the new. Have you done something like this? What was the longest and shortest time frame you had as being single? It's going to be my 3rd year as being single... but I'm not really looking for a relationship either... working on the one with me, me, me. Have you had a relationship with yourself before? Why or why not?
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@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
So far the longest time I can remember being single is 4 years. That was before I meet my last ex. Eventually I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years and now, it's my second year of being single. Sure I miss the feeling of being with someone. A partner as they call it but I'm still not in a hurry to get into another relationship. I'm also learning how to love myself more and meet new people along the way. Hopefully I get to meet "Mr. Right" as time pass by I've never had any flings or jump from one relationship to another. I only had 3 serious, steady relationships in my whole life and never gotten into a casual/fling relationship. Shortest time being single... A year I think? I really can't remember the shortest time
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
15 Nov 11
well separated is not really single until divorce is final but I'd say I've lived on my own for 3 weeks now :) I've never been 0 days single in between to me that's not even possible unless the break up is planned means I cheated even though only emotionally the shortest single period I had was 2 months the longest I think over 4 yrs not counting online casuals in between loving myself first is always my motto and being separated I have more time attending to my own needs and goals I won't go into any relationship until next year, to give me time sorting out major things in my new life plus my stbx and I are still friends so it's not much of a change
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
14 Nov 11
Well, after my marriage broke up, no over four years ago, I was single for about two years before I got involved again. I never went from one to another just like that because there has to be a transition period.
• Indonesia
14 Nov 11
I did not have clear yet close relationship before I am married. So that means I have been single for 10 years (counting from my first time I look for a girl) :D :D :D
@loidee (175)
• Philippines
14 Nov 11
I am on my 2nd year last october as being single. I don;t exactly know why I am single. haha I mean there are guys who showed interest but I am just not interested right now. Maybe because I am planning to work abroad and I really don't want to endure a long distance relationship since it's difficult.
@ckayth (103)
• Philippines
14 Nov 11
this is quite funny! it's just like I am my own boyfriend HAHAH well the longest time frame I've been in a relationship is 3years and he was my first boyfriend. well it was worthy and as well as it's over too. it took a while to move on. i was single for 3yrs and counting. but i don't feel bad about it. I had more time for myself,and only myself. no worries at all. I'm not rushing to be in relationship because after waiting,everything will fall perfectly as God has planned for us.
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
14 Nov 11
hummm, relationships? I was almost engaged once, does that count? I would say I've been single all my life, since I have been!
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
14 Nov 11
The longest I have been single is 18 years. I am sure I will be single for the rest of my life. I need to be me and when I am with someone I usaully am not! Relationships are to hard to work on and I don't care to work on them! I have always expected them to be perfect and all were far form it! I chose to be single. I have waited for someone,tried to find one and even was set up. After years of this I realized I am better off being single. Even if someone would come around I would not get in a relationship! It isn't for me and they only leads to disasters!
@kyrararen (601)
• Indonesia
14 Nov 11
hhm, I have been single 22 years. and I am 22 years old. edit: I am in relationship with freedom. :) I saw my friends romance story and it is not good for heart at all. but yeah, I saw my friends kinda addicted to it, they jump into other relationship not so long after the other one. the most awesome and also kinda silly I saw with my own eyes I saw my friend get into other relationship just three hours after the previous one.
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
14 Nov 11
Being single is not a big thing for me because I have been a single for a long time and I really enjoy it. I enjoy each moment that I spend with all of friends and my family, I enjoy the time that I have no need to think or miss my love, I only think of myself and develop my own life to be better. My longest time being single is about 5 years and my shortest span is about 6 months. This long span for having relation doesn't mean that there are nobody wants me but I think that having relation is an important case and I don't want to play on it since I don't want to be played too. Somebody who has relation with me is someone who will be my closest person in my heart and in my life. So, it is ridiculous if I waste my time only for staying someone who can't make me fun and just ruin myself for feeling uncomfortable with him. In my opinion, our life will be much more enjoyable with someone who love each other.
• United States
14 Nov 11
I've been single for quite some time and quite frankly I'm disappointed but at the time I accept it. I'm just going to prepare myself for abetter relationship because the girls I talk to now are either superficial or just not good enough for my expectations. Maybe I should lower my expectations but I thought I was pretty original. I guess not, but I really am tired of being single. It gets old fast!
@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
14 Nov 11
The longest that I've been single was 2 years I think. In the beginning I think I was feeling lonely but then I got used to being independent and I liked it! The downside of being alone for a long time is that you get used to care only for yourself and then it's difficult to start something new. And I don't know if this has happened to you but for sometime in those 2 years, I was meeting some interesting people but I was always finding something "bad" on them and I wasn't even trying to get to know them better. However, I believe that people should spend some time alone between relationships to figure out what they really want and who they are. My shortest period was 0 days. When I was younger I met 2 boys at the same period of time and I couldn't decide which one I liked more. So I started a relationship with one of them and then I broke up with him to be with the other. This happened only once though and it didn't feel so good.. I also have a friend that came out of a 2-year relationship and on the same day she went back to her older boyfriend. Surprisingly they lasted for 3 years or more.
• Philippines
14 Nov 11
It's been 5 months since we broke up, yet he still mean a lot to me, though I have this courage of forgetting him... so my goal these days is to find someone new... LOLS!!!
@es_cud91 (24)
14 Nov 11
i've been single for a while. my first relationship was when i was in high school, but believe it or not, our relationship just lasted for THREE days.. she said that she was not yet ready and that was pressured by her peers. my next was when i am already in college but we never ended as bf-gf. for me, that was just infatuation but i still thank her for being there as my friend. my third one was just the same as my second. for now, i focus my attention in finding a job. i know that love can wait.