what happen to my future?

She clearly wants nothing to do with you. Why should she when you left her to fend for herself for eight years? She doubtless has her own life. If you have any sense of responsibility or guilt, you should at least pay the Child Maintenance that you owe her. The best thing you can do is move on and get your own life.

What to do? Stay out of her life. You made your choice at that time and never asked what she wanted. You never cared about how she felt, how she had to deal with it. You were not a part of her being pregnant, giving birth. So never saw your kid growing up and now you want to play the dad? You really think she is still waiting for you, or your kid is, after you abandoned them and put them in shame? Go on with your life, stop bothering them. The best thing you can do is hope they are happy now. And if so it's not thanks to you. In my eyes you are not a dad, just one of those lousy guys who think they can dump all their responsibilities at the woman and show up years later to play the great dad. I ask you why now? Because you feel lonesome and nobody wants you? Is that a good reason to make others feel more misery? And why do you think she knows you are calling? Eight years is a very long time.

Hello Fazril, BTW why did you leave her when she needed you the most?.And now why you want to talk to her?.Is it a guilt or you want to see how is she?. But my friend she is right and she has every reasons to avoid you if i were in her place i would also have treated you similarly. Its better not to hurt her more may be she is living her life nicely and don't want to get disturbed now by you.

Keep on trying. Your left your girlfriend and your child when they needed you most, it is hard for her to accept you back so easily and will take some times. Just don't give up again on them.

Hi faz. Atleast you are trying, many don't even have the guts to do that. You have done a pretty bad thing and it is very hard for a girl to get over it. Keep trying, and if she sees the determination you have and the love she may finally accept you. Hoping for the best, good luck.

Try to be patient and pursue her more. Time heals every wound and yours is not an exemption. If you think that it's really time to face the mistake that you had committed before, then show her that you are sincere and that you will try everything to make things work. Good luck to you and I hope you can fix your mess.

No. Keep well away fazril, after all this time, because if you did it once you will do it again. All trust will be gone and any new contact will just increase her pain and confuse your son. Much better for you give her money to support your child as it is your responsibility.

welcome to mylot fazril hope you like it here like most of us do. 8 years is far too long. i am sure they are settled already. is conscience bugging you? but i guess there is nothing you can do now. you realize it late already. we can not blame the girl if she does not let you in the life of the child... after all you are the one who left. i guess all you need to do is find your happiness. time will come when your child is old enough she might be the one to look for you. as for now just hope and pray for your chld to have a great life.

My Freind when she needed you. you left her and ran away in her dificulty. that made her angry to you... well this is past if you love her very much just meet her personally and put your side infront of her show your love to her so that she might know your love toward her this is the only way to get her

I know this is hard to hear but the fact is that what you are going through now is a result of your behavior and you need to accept responsibility for the situation you created. If you are really interested in being a father to your child now you will need to show patience and prove that you are capable of being a repsosible parent and are going to be in it for the long term. It will take time but eventually the mother will accept your role and allow you more of an opportunity to be a father. Please do not persue this matter if you are not prepared to see it through because you will only cause more damage to the child and I'm sure that is not what your goal is. I wish you the best of luck with your daughter.