I feel badly
By mrsbentley27
@mrsbentley27 (662)
United States
November 14, 2011 10:02pm CST
My little brother has been in prison for about 2 years now. I feel horrible that I havent wrote him or went to visit him. I havent wrote because I dont really know what to say and I havent visited because its too far away and prisons freak me out.
He is getting out in Feb. 2012 if he passes his GED or April 2012 if he doesnt and Im afraid he wont want anything to do with me because of it.
Every time I write a letter to him I end up throwing it away. For some reason I feel like those werent the right things to say.
I really hope he doesnt end up hating me for it.
He got sent to prison for violation of probation for driving on revoked license and they have kept him in prison for 2 years which I understand that what he did was wrong but 2 years?
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7 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
15 Nov 11
Your brother, no matter if he is little or not, did something bad and get punished for it.
Live goes on, for you, your family and for him.
I don't understand why you should feel bad. What he did was very wrong and it's him who should be punished not you since it was his behaviour.
For some reason you give me the feeling that you feel bad because he is comming out of prsion. Because he was in there for violation etc.
Ask yourself what you really feel for him. Are you afraid of him?
Is he a provoking person? Does he loves to make you feel bad even he is the one who is wrong?
You don't owe him anything. He has to prove he is worth your love, attention and trust again.
@mrsbentley27 (662)
• United States
15 Nov 11
I dont feel bad that he is in there.
He did something he shouldnt have done and now he must pay the price for doing it.
I dont understand why he got a long sentence for such a small crime but thats the justice system for you.
I know someone that killed a man and spent 4 years in prison while others spend life in prison for the same crime. It sucks but nothing you can do about it.
I have felt bad about not writing him for a long time. It doesnt have to do with the fact that he will be getting out soon. Am I scared of him? No. Never have been.
I worry about him. He has a attitude from hell and he is in prison with people that have done way worse than what he has done.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
15 Nov 11
Sounds to me like your brother is a "bad actor" and you have done the right thing by letting him fry in his own juice! If relatives and friends made too big a thing of it he would begin to think he was wrongly accused. Keep on throwing those letters away. He has a lesson to learn and its something he has to do by himself.
@mrsbentley27 (662)
• United States
15 Nov 11
I think he will learn his lesson. I dont think he will want to go back once he gets out.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
You should have at least written him a letter, if going to the prison freaks you out. You totally isolated yourself from him. Those were the times that he needs comfort and assurance that he is still loved.
You could have just written him how everyone is doing. Just for him to have an imagination of how everybody is doing. That would have kept the love alive between you and your brother.
Pray that he will not hate you for not even writing.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
if you can't get yourself to writing a letter, just send him a card at least with some words that express your endearment to him. It might be the only thing he wanted to have this time. a little news from his outside world. It is really hard to start, but you did, everything will flow out spontaneously.
@mrsbentley27 (662)
• United States
15 Nov 11
I will probably send him pictures with a card for christmas because I know he is limited on what he can have in there. Just gotta wait for the pictures to get done!
@mariahhh (1328)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Nov 11
It is still not too late to send him a letter. You have to send him a letter, and tell him everything that you feel. It's going to be awkward if he comes back and you did not communicate with him for the last two years. He might feel sad about that.
Two years just because of that? That is too much. 
@mrsbentley27 (662)
• United States
15 Nov 11
I shouldve sent him something a along time ago :(
Yes he got 2 years for it. Well he actually got longer than 2 years but he has been working and things to get good time so it cuts his time down. When he first turned his self in we never imagined he would be in there this long. I can say some good things have came from it though.
I guess you could say we dont like his wife, lol.
He is getting a divorce (if she will sign the papers) she is already seeing someone else but as of right now she wont sign. She hasnt spoke to my brother at all since he was arrested.
@mathildachelsea (37)
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16 Nov 11
He deserves to be in prison because of his violation to rules but he doesn't deserve to be neglected by you. Though your not abandoning him but without communicating him for a long time would give him a presumption that he has been.Try to communicate with him because that is what a family is all about. Your brother needs you more at this time and trying to reach him through letters would already mean a lot to him.
