Can loving be painful?

I wouldn't prefer any of them. This is because in life, you need to get that special happiness or appreciation but if you found yourself in any of the above relationship, they would be no happiness. If you don't love someone or that someone don't love you, you would care less how he feel and most of the time, end up hurting each other.

I do not agree with this.There is no pain if you really and truly love to your partner,How it could happen that someone love you madly,but you dont love him/her.Actully I dont think the second one would happen to me.

Yes,this is really sad and so painful when you love someone who doesn't love you back. Love needs acceptance..to be acknowledge..but we cannot force someone to love us back.

The worst thing in the world is that you loving someone so much and knowing he or she won't feel the same way.

Of course, loving someone who doesn't love you is more painful. Isn't that unfair? But, although you don't get love in return at least you give love. As the saying goes, it is better to give than to receive.

You're exactly right! Loving someone is painful and if they don't reciprocate that love then you allow them to walk all over you and use you in hopes of one day gaining the same feelings in return. It just breaks you down at the fact that the person doesn't feel the same and it saddens and depresses you! You question yourself when you may be in great shape, and then you become down for days or weeks! Then you find someone else. (Well, that's the story of my life)

Of course the love can be painful. When you love someone deeply, it is easy to feel hurtful once this one does something wrong to you or he/she doesn't love you any more. Even if a little argument will make you feel upset for a whole day. If your relationship ends, it is just like the end of the world. And it does take a long time to feel better after the breakup. I love China

I think that one way love will finally give in to two way love, so if you live with a person who loves you and lives with you, you will eventually like that person, get accustomed to living together and find it blissful. it is better being loved than not getting it at all. A hug or physical touch or a loving gesture should be taken with warmth and not hate in return. If you are referring to people having affairs after marriage, well it will be the married person who has all the losses. loss of family, house, children, bank accounts etc; The love present in the beginning of the marriage can be revived through various ways. There is no thing as complete hate.

Everything can be painful also love. What love makes painful is that we have othnjmki8er ideas about how love should be as the one we are dealing with. So if we discover this we feel hurt and it takes time to get over it and/or change our opinion about how love should be. I could not live with someone I did not truly love. No matter how much he is loving me. It would not make me happy, nor it will make him happy. If I would stay I would take away mine but also his chance to find someone better and live a happy life. I think this is the worst thing you can do. Being in the way to your own but also someone elses happines. So I think both is same worse.

Both are painful dear. It's really hard to live with someone you don't love. Although we get to be truly love, we don't feel genuine happiness when with him. Same pain when living with someone who don't love us. Who knows what this person can do to us if we can't even show them or make them feel loved. Love should not be one sided otherwise we'll just live in sorrow.

I'm going to choose the one who loves me more than the one who doesn't love me at all. Loving can be taught and learned, I think in time I can also feel the same way about him, especially if he's really sincere with his thoughts and actions. Loving can be painful its part of the process. If you don't want to get hurt you're not ready to love and take chances.

the second one..living alone loving someone who don't give a damn.. love can be learned..love can be taught..love can give chance..love can gamble.. love is fearless..love is a trial and error..love is exciting..so many things can describe love..love is painful..so what is there to fear??? if you live alone loving someone who don't love you would only create self pity, anger, anxiety, worthless, lower self esteem, etc etc etc.... loving is painful..it is painful ... because sometimes we need to feel the pain so that we can see the beauty of loving...two choices are both painful..you just have to select the lesser one..and for me the most painful is the SECOND CHOICE..

I think there are afew more options than you describe.Neither option you describe sounds like love to me.Sounds like misery.If you dont feel that your love is reciprocated then its not realy love is it? Love is a two way thing.One way love is infatuation or a practical arrangement of convience or something else which might be all right if you achknowledge that.I think to find real love firstly you have to call a spade a spade be honest.who knows maybe the practical arrangement might even become real love when you start with seeing it as it is.