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That is true but sometimes not possible, you may be willing to do the best but sometimes life barriers or problems cannot let you move forward or change.

I agree with this statement but only to a certain extent. After 33 years on this planet I can safely say with confidence that you are not always in control of your life, sometimes bad things happen which are not a consequence of your actions but there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. Life can be difficult. However, yes you can make the changes but you might have to go through a lot of suffering to get there.

That is defintely true. That is why going for my second divorce. Whether there are kids involved or not if you are not happy in a relationship there comes a time when some of them need and have to end. My second marriage was not violent as my first but our love went away instead of getting stronger. There were other factors that played a role in this but when we finally called it quits we were both miserable. I have now been seperated for almost a year now and my divorce will be final with in the next couple of weeks. I am happier now than I have been for twenty years. The only happiness I felt in those years was the birth of my son who is very special to me.

Happiness is a feeling. And if you really like to be happy you can be happy with nothing. Read discussions about that. Little things like the sun shining, one "hello" or a short nap can already make us feel happy. So we can control our level of happiness. How? To decide to be happy, to do everything to make ourself happy in every way we can think out. By not getting focused on what is not working, by not looking backwards or always complaining but by living by the moment and enjoy every single moment.

Happiness...is a result of your reaction towards one circumstance. An emotion that you can only drive to for yourself and not to others... Chadzie,i believed and agree with your words that... we have the power to change...change of the results we made as long as nobody is engaged to give the result for what we want in life...We can control the reactions we can for a certain things we have in life..

Yes,I totally agree. No one else is responsible for your happiness (and unhappiness) but you. We shouldn't wait for someone to come and make us happy. It's all about being good and positive and enjoying the little beautiful things that happen to you daily. Life is good :)

you right.but we need other people too for sharing our happiness, bring a happiness to use.