Is it alright to have doubts about your relationship after 20 yrs

First, if you don't mind, I would like to ask you whether you are married or not. Reason being that if you live with someone for a long time expecting that one day he or she will marry you, just for days to go by without such a proposal, it increases insecurity and doubt whether you are still meant to be. The second thing is incase you are married and still find that you are often doubting whether that person is the right one for you, then mostly there is something happening behind your back or something seems not right. An example maybe that he has another family somwhere. It is good to follow our instinct. In most cases, we tend to be right.

I am not sure about this, but I am guessing you both are not yet married. As I read through your discussion you said that you're expecting your fifth child to this same guy who has been with you for a very long time, and the feeling of insecurities still comes up to you. I guess the only solution to that is get married with him. I am sure you love him because you won't have a 5th child from him if you don't love him anymore.

Hello there... I don't see any firm ground in your post to suspect your guy... It just seems that you're insecure. Probably, he does not have a lot of time for you. But after 20 years of relationship, this thing is quite normal. The relation wouldn't have lasted for this long, in any case, if he had not been faithful with you. You should talk to him. Also try to spice up things. Men get bored with routine life, easily. So try to make some new dish for him. Or try a new n appealing dress when he comes home tonight... You see what I mean... Good Luck!

hi, i think in that long term of relationship you dont need to think about it because your partner already proof his love with you,it because once you feel doubt for your partner it means you still have no trust on him after 20 years.

Sorry but I soon as I began to read the discussion I felt like rare when you called your husband "guy" I just use that word for a strange person. But I think after 20 years of sharing your life with another person we have to know that person all the way,and know if that is the person that you dreamt 20 years ago,I don't want to be pesimist but it happen to a friend of mine, she was always insecure about her feelings for her husband, always saying that he was a great man, a great father,but then always had a "BUT" about her feelings,she didn't allowed anybody talk bad about him,but her doubts made her file for divorce after 25 years of marriage and four beautiful children. I am sorry and hope this is not your reality.

I guess you are in a situation right now that you feel stagnant in your relationship. You doubt because you might not have the same feeling you have to your husband since you started your relationship.Try to evaluate your relationship with your husband.It could be that the problem lies on finances, differences or insecurities. Given that you already know the thing that cause you to doubt, worked it out how to eliminate that doubt and love your husband the way you loved him before. have a happy married life:)

Any relationship can hit the rocks at any time. Relationships sometimes just don't work out and even though a couple have been together for a while doesn't mean that they can suddenly fall out of love.

I just have one question. Why did you fall for this guy in the first place? I think the main reason why will always and must always be their. If not then its mean you loss what is meant to be with that person. Now If the reason is gone. Then theirs five more reason why you need to have a healthy relation and that is your five children.

Friend relationship may break any of the age no matter after how many years are breaking. If doubts are there, no love is there, husband nature is not good after some years and this is not know the wife or vice versa then relationship break. Ohhhh God you have 5th no this is not good because now price is hiking and education is costly very difficult to give better life to all children.

Hi! I think it is normal to have this feeling. Although I haven't experienced yet a 20 years relationship. I learned about this from my mom and my dad. Sometimes especailly for women they have this weird feeling and most of the time the feeling is not just an ordinary feeling, it becomes a reality that something is really wrong with your partner. The best thing to do is to talk about it.

You have been with the guy for 19 or 20 years and yet you still have doubts? It's hard to believe about it. You're married to him for that length of time. There must be a reason why you felt that way.