why can't i say NO

No you are not the only stupid one. Probably you are raised that way. Always being friendly and helpfull and you will be rewarded on day. Or if not rewarded nobody will like you. So that is what you want, to be liked. But the great thing is people don't like you if you will always say: I will do that. If you are always the one who is doing it the first. With that behaviour you will show them that they are not like you, they will look more selfish and lazy. Also they will see you as the idiot who will always be available no matter if you feel sick or tired or are busy. As long as you can't say: NOT now or NO nobody will have respect for you, they will keep treating you as the idiot and never will be really satisfied about what you did (they still keep complaining). So show you have character, show you have a life too, say no or if you can't do that you have to check your schedule at home first and tell them later (next day, in 2 day). Yes I been like that and my life is way better since I am not anymore.

Ok as someone that has been through this I think I can help. Your problems stem from your inability to communicare effectively. The reason that people do not take you seriously is because you do not say things in an authoritative way. I do not know you, but I do know the scenario. I would venture to say that you are the type that does not speak your mind about things that bother you. If you get in the habit of communicating these things, then the confidence that comes from this will enable you to be taken seriously. People that have difficulty saying no (I was one of them) are looking for approval of those they are around. The only person you need to please is you. Once you realize that, saying no will be easy for you as it was for me. No-one will care about you as much as you care about you. If you do not care about yourself, then no-one else will either. Just my take on this, so accept it or deny it, but you really have nothing to lose here.

That's not being stupid. The pressure overcame you each time, and that's normal. A lot of us succumb to pressure. But eventually you really have to put your foot down and say no. If they're your friends, they shouldn't be forcing you to do stuff you don't like or they'd understand if you aren't able to help. If they don't, they're not really your friends and it's best you distance yourself from them.

Don't worry, you are not alone. Saying No for me is being mean. Me? I want everyone to be happy but there are times that we simply cannot please all people. So, my advise is trust your instinct. Think of the the probabilities and the drawbacks. Sometimes it is not being mean but doing what is good for everybody especially for yourself.

I could totally relate to this. Even when I say no it seems like my NO is unheard by others. Even when I'm angry it seems like I'm not. It's a very frustrating feeling. But actually, it has an advantage. The advantage of having less enemies.

i'm also into that situation..it's hard for to say to others..but i just recently realized that when i give my one hand to them, they would actually want to ask my both hands..and it's kinda bad because i'm practicing dependence to them..so i promised to myself to practice say no to them..and now, i did say no to my brother..

Hello! You must be hold to say "no",you doesn't like to the person or thing,be sure to listen to your heart and when said "no",be sure to say. So,is really respect youself and will make you more confident. Wish you good luck!

it's just you being real by saying NO if it it's really a NO. If you don't wanna turn them down at least not yourself too. doing things against your will is also a BIG NO NO in life. so why bother right? Get a head up girl ! Tootles :D

I too have similar experience. Some times I may have to take up the tasks of others even though they are not interesting for me. But, the only advantage I get is that their love and care.

yeah,i always meet with this situation,several days ago ,my friends asked me to lend him a large sum of money for buying a bigger house .however you must know how high the Chinese housing price is.meanwhile considering that i have just resolved problems of food and clothing,i decided to say no to her .but i found it was too diffficult to open my mouth when i decided to tell her my decision.finally i changed my decision,and gave her a hand.