Dear Abby:

You are not going to heaven to reunite with your family you will go there to be together with your God since He is the most important person in your life .

well well barehugs....please excuse what I am about to say. But thats just a terrible statement to make about your family. Now I know you are gonna say "I don't know how they are or what they have done" and you are absolutely correct,,,But you stated you are a baptist faith and thay mean you are a christian, Now I am not trying to preach to you really I am not,,,but as a christian I would think that you would believe that everything would be so much better in heaven..you sound a little pessimistial, good luck and between now and the day you pass hopeful you come to some cordial reasoning with your parents and family...and it they are that bad...you need to pray for them....good luck

Oh dear, that is so sad, the only thing I can say is maybe when you go to heaven your whole way of thinking about things will change, maybe, with forgiveness, compassion and again innosence of mind, I think maybe our way of thinking and feeling will be completely different, maybe something we would not understand as we are today.

Hi barehugs, I think that this is priceless but I'm sure that it's like that for many people if they were truthful. Imagine that your in-laws are going to be there too! Well so much for peace and quiet. Someone once remarked of a Pastor's wife, who also taught Sunday school: "Mark my word,if that woman gets to heaven, the good lord will have to change his ways or move out". Since you don't want to go to hell either, why not ask for subsidized housing somewhere else, maybe on the moon-but than in another couple of generations your descendants may will be living there. What to do? What to do? Blessings.

You mean that there will be hell in heaven??? You are going to shake all the religions up with that one. Seriously, you have nothing to worry about. We will all know God's Unconditional Love that heals all hurt. You will need nothing more. You will be conplete. You will see where you are and where you need to be. Being with God, you will reach a point when your heart is so filled with unconditional love that nothing else matters. In time, it will be time to go back to school. You will realize you have much more to learn. After all,the things and people who make you unhappy, you choose that they make you unhappy. There is much more to learn and Understand. It doesn't matter what everyone else does. It's what you do that counts. Why do you allow others to determine your happiness when it should be You that chooses this? In the meantime, relax, be who you must, and trust me it will all work out.

Well thanks for that! I now know what was fundamentally missing in my concept of religion. Both options would actually be hell in one way or another. I think a lot of people now need a complete re-think!

First, many people who claim they are going to heaven or not. Jesus said "Why do you call me, 'Lord, Lord,' and do not do what I say?", indicating that many say they are followers, but really are not. Are you and your family really followers? Do you know Him personally? As you know, every relationship in this life is marred by sin. We're all sinful evil creatures. But Heaven won't be like that. Sin will be defeated and eliminated. People won't have the selfishness, and pride that ruins our connections to family, friends, neighbors, brother and sister. We will all be free of this. There are Christians I know, that I know they are Christians, but I can't stand being around them. We're different. We just don't get along, and there's no real explanation. But I don't fear spending eternity with them, because there will be no sin in Heaven. Me and them, both will not have this curse of sin hounding us. I'll be more able to deal with them, and they will be more able to deal with me, and both of us won't be captive to our pride, and ego, and self importance. It will be wonderful in Heaven. I personally can't want. If Jesus isn't who he said he is, and Heaven is what he claims it will be... then what good is this life?

That would be a frightening thought too if it were my case. But I think that Heaven is whatever we make of it. And I'm thinking that it could be all that, but edit the bad times with family members. Then it could only be all good memories that we can relive over and over again.

Why don't you like to be reunited with your family in Heaven? Do you think people go to Heaven if there is hatred inside there hearts? Well, I don't know what the problem is but I can sense that you hate them. I hope before things become late, you will resolve everything with your family and have peace among yourselves. God bless and nice weekend to you!

I am sorry not to seem out of order I think this funny and laughing at the thought of it. In seriousness though I think there is side to this that is as uplifting as it is I am sure you are already aware. When we can truly forgive and to be in the presence of something greater than ourselves, we will surely laugh, sigh and see all these problems as a past forgotten. Though for the sake of jolly I can see heavens having a humour side too. I may put that in the suggestion box for you...barehugs would like...