when would be the right time to get married?
@jeantot_flores (39)
Philippines
5 responses
@ShaunakVats (41)
• India
19 Nov 11
whenever you get the right person to marry.It doesn't maater whether you are 18 or 80, when you find someone that is the perfect time
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
19 Nov 11
The right time is when you feel ready to it.
So there is no right time, there are no rules.
How many factors there are, depends on you. You can make them up, want to play safe about everything or just decide to do so and go with the flow (and probably find out that if you are creative enough you will always find a way to manage).
@LaraTecson (726)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
In my opinion, these are the things you have to consider before you say "I do":
1. Can you Compromise? When you are single, you can do all kinds of things. You can go out and party all night and no one cares when you are coming home. You can sit all day in front of the computer and you don't care whether your hour is clean or not. But once you get married, all of these things change. You cannot do everything you want. You have be more responsible in your life especially when you already have kids. You have to make a lot of changes in order for you and your spouse to live peacefully under one roof.
2. Do you have the money? And I'm not just talking about your expenses for the ceremony itself. You need to have control of your money because when you are married, you are not living for yourself, you have a family that you have to take care of.
3. Who does the chores? We are no longer in a patriarchal way of society. Women now have equal opportunities finding work. So who will do the household chores? If you want to get married, make sure you are willing to serve your spouse. I believe that both husband and wife should take responsibility of the chores. Whoever has an extra time should at least clean the house or cook for dinner.
4. Is s/he really THE ONE? Of course before entering this sacred tradition, make sure that you know your partner very well. I have an aunt that married a man before, not knowing that this man is already married and has a family in another country. Don't be so much blinded with love. Background check your partner if you have doubts on his/her identity.