How long did it take to forget your first love?

there are plenty of people who get in relationships with people that are much more in love with them then they are for the other person. they get to move on right away with their heart perfectly in tact and the other person has to suffer, and its all because somebody probably broke their heart so they don't want to get in a relationship with someone they have feelings for again. I'm confused about something you said, you said she was your first and last love, then you said you have a new love.

I think it really depends on the girl, I definitely can't say for sure what your girlfriend did. Some people just are in relationships for money and other's couldn't care less about it in terms of love. I hope you found somebody who will treat you right this time.

Sorry, I did a mistake in typing...I mean: It was my mistake that I made her as my girl friend and thought of making her my first and last love. I just don't understand why she suddenly started talking vulgarly and said bye forever! Does maximum girls do this for money?

Yes I know it is easier said than done. But if you want to let the pain remain, it will always stay. We need to give another love a chance, perhaps not to soon but you just have to let go. Life is what we make it. If we opt to be a happier person then let us not dwell on the past that has long been gone. There is a time to weep but don't forget too that there also should be time to heal and a time to start anew.

I wish it was like that for me lol I know there's too many people they think of extreme pain when they think of their relationship, especially in my case when its unrequited love. The worst thing is that you can't turn it on and off, you just have to suffer through how ever long it takes.

wow that is an incredible story. was he a famous musician thats a household name? how did he die, thats horrible that that happened to you, I'm sorry. It sounds like it's a movie plot or something because it's such an amazing story. a lot of people I know would love to date an actor/singer they have a crush on they saw on TV lol. Even I myself would love that.

he was well known here in my country in the 60's then went into country music, onr of my friends saidit would make a very sad movie...I don't want to put my webpage in adiscussion as I think it is against the rules but if you are interested I think my webpage is on my profile....

that is completely true! for a long time I thought if I saw the person again I'd have feelings for them, now I'm not so sure because it's been about 6 years now. I'd probably have feelings more so them than anyone else lol cause their the only person I've ever been in love with and I don't fall easily like I did before because of all the pain I went through. what you say completely related to me and I put myself entirely in what you've said.

I completely get what your saying. it could take a very long time. I think that eventually, no matter how many years it takes, you can get over your first love. I know it took me so much longer than most people and they were in my life for so much less than most people, plus completely unrequited. I think you'll find in a few more years, who knows maybe even more, that you'll be able to forget that person and find someone else you truly love. I'm not saying you'll completely forget your relationship and the good times and the pain with them, but it will be more of a distant memory and it wont have a hold on you like it does now.

I think it's really good that you want to be single until you find the right person. a lot of people date and sleep around just for the sake of it so their not lonely and so people stop asking questions on why they are not with anybody. I think in that aspect that you are completely right and mature to do that. however I respectfully completely disagree with you about couple's never breaking up if they were honest from the beginning. thats not true at all, people can have a great relationship, get married, have kids. and then fall out of love. even if they had all the love in the world for each other at one point, sometimes people grow apart, lose feelings, that sort of thing.

I agree with you in some cases , but i think it's hard to meet your true-love.have you counted the possibility?

thats really great that things turned out so well. a lot of people have similar situations to you during grade school where they think they are in love but they realize later on that their not. but usually they question it and ask whats being in love feel like but if you have to ask or wonder if it's love then it definitely is not.

that must be hard knowing that she's moved on to that much of a level to being married to someone else. I understand and you can't control feelings and you can want to move on all you want but you just can't control how long it's going to take you. If you feel it's time to meet someone then I say go ahead, but if you just hope you could get over her and move on but your still thinking of her, I'd say take more time. As long as you need, you can always just go out and meet friends to have people to pass the time with. I was told my my dad I was "obsessed" and at one point I was ashamed of how long it took me to forget them. Now I'm not as ashamed and I realize I have no control in the matter.

thats really great! I'm glad to hear it :) I think too many people rush into a relationship or just fool around with people soon after they get their heart broken. I think they need to heal alone by themselves and don't always need to go straight off with someone else. I'm glad that even though it took you a lot of years to forgot him that you moved on and are in a good place and happy with the person your with.

I have basically stalked the person I loved on Facebook lol. Well I mean I just check up regularly to see what they post and what their up to. I can't help but thinking about them every now and then, thankfully I'm not forced to think about them every moment of every day anymore but I find myself checking less and less which is good. If your friends with her on Facebook then it's very easy to communicate with her again, that probably makes you feel good to know you can always message her.

I'm sorry your going through so much pain and I'm sure you will move on someday. Your right that some relationships just aren't meant to be and sometimes you have to go through the pain of a breakup. I would just tell you that you should take all the time you need to get over him. people told me to forget the person I loved already, but you can't control how long it takes you. I would say to not hold on to it when your truly ready to move on, but when you naturally can't stop thinking about them and are not at all over them, don't rush into any relationships or anything like that.