dictator father do exist?
By dannahjade
@dannahjade (29)
Philippines
November 18, 2011 10:17pm CST
since I had open my eyes and glance in this world my father is there telling me what are the things I must do... from what school I must enroll until to the course I must take. I followed him because I believe that parents know everything that will bring goodness to their children. But until when I need to follow him?? can't I just decide for myself now especially I already graduated & got the licence he has been asking from me??... And it would still be right that his gonna decide for the job I want?? I don't wanna be a disobedient daughter but I think I'm already in the right position to follow what I want
3 responses
@bewitchingmelody (366)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
I feel your pain because I too share the same fate with you. But it's not my father who is the dictator. It is actually my mother. I have been following her most of my life because as the famous saying goes, "MOTHER KNOWS BEST."
Thus, I became a registered nurse but don't want to work as one. I am also clueless of what I want in life because I was never given an opportunity to explore nor given choices. And I am a NBSB or No BF Since Birth because she is too strict and that according to her, "I should study and study alone, love life then you quit."
Right now, I am given the choice to continue my studies and become a doctor (my childhood dream) but I must remain NBSB until I finish it (Note: I'd be 29/ 30 by the time I'll be a consultant and have my 1st bf) or if I want to have a bf then I'll work as a nurse which I still can't see myself becoming one even if I'm already a registered nurse. ~sigh~ :(
@shypooh (18)
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20 Nov 11
hello... we also have the same experience as yours. I am a nursing student and Im having my review for discoming PNLE. My father dont like me to have bf but i am just a stubborn child and i dont want to follow them anymore, I feel like they dictate my life once and I dont like to happen it again. We are now 3yrs with my bf but father doesnt know it but im still happy. For me, its not all the time that they are correct because they are just looking for our future,they dont think if we are happy with it or not...
@dannahjade (29)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
hi guys!!!! what a coincident I'm also a registered nurse just passed the July 2011 NLE... I'm having trouble right now coz my dad force me to work in the hospital and fulfill the nursing profession but how can I act as a prudent nurse???? If it was never been my passion ...
Now I asked him permission to work in Dubai not as a nurse but instead as a company employee & he disapprove..
How long will I suffer???
When can I find my true desire in life????
Don't wanna waste more time doing things I never want at all..
@shypooh (18)
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25 Nov 11
helo dannahjade, its really a coincident. I thought i was the only one who experienced it. I wish I can pass the exam this coming december so that i can give the license he want. I cant really imagine my self working in a hospital. I wish my father or our parents will be sensitive to our feelings because its not easy to work the job that you dont want.
@shypooh (18)
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20 Nov 11
hello, I also feel the same. My father decide the course for me, I dont know if it can really help me to be successful in the future because its not easy to work on the job you dont like. I only follow him because i want that he will be proud of me. But eventhough i dont like the course i was able to make it and graduated on time, but i am not happy.
Do they really have the right to dictate us in choosing the course we want to take in college?
@lovetoknow (47)
• India
19 Nov 11
I guess you should talk to your father and let him know that you are grown up now and you can take your decisions yourself. Also you can tell him that if you choose the job that your father wants you to do, then its possible you may not be doing that job at your will and it won't give you any job satisfaction.
I hope your father will understand you and will let you select your own path to success.
