Changing Girlfriend's
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
November 18, 2011 11:45pm CST
My friend T has a brother D
D is 50 years old, he was married for more than 20 years and then his wife left him and left him with the kids.
D was alone for awhile and the started dating T's friend I will call her Penny
Now D did tell Penny that he didn't want anything serious as he was just coming out a marriage and Penny was just getting divorced herself. They made a great couple and T was hoping it would work out. They were great together.
Then D started working for another friend of T's lets call her Debbie
He immediately dumped Penny for Debbie. I feel so bad for Penny.
I met Debbie for the first time on thursday night, she is a nice lady and made major changes in her life to be with D
He gave her the same story as he did Penny, and I can see that she is already to in to him. She is also buying him lots of stuff.
D is an over all nice guy but who he treats women is just wrong in my view point.
I told Debbie to be careful, but of course she will do her own thing and probably get her heart broken.
T is friends with both women it is harder for him but he said well D told them from the beginning. Sure he did, but emotions just don't work that way especially for women,
what do you guys think?
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10 responses
@celticeagle (166706)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Nov 11
I think it is sad that it worked out that way but he did tell them ahead of time. Sounds like Debbie has more material things to offer. Sad that some people are so into that. I think it is wrong how he treats women too. He needs to meet up with one that treat him the same way back so he learns how it feels.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 Nov 11
he had one that treated him bad, his wife, who left him and abandoned her kids, just left them with him.
I think subconsciously he is now afraid of commitment but of course he has his physical needs.
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@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
20 Nov 11
I Think All of them are mature and Knows about their good and bad.Moreover there is Mutual understanding between all of them.The good think about T is he told both woman before hand that he does not want serious relationship and I think he didn't cheat them.So I think its just another story of Discreet relationships ,Nothing More.
Have a Nice day
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 Nov 11
well you don't know that they are all mature because you don't know them, but all your other points are well taken. Thank you
@AmbiePam (92406)
• United States
19 Nov 11
I think you did the thing women owe each other. You gave her a warning, and that's all you can do. You're right she probably won't listen to it. We always like to think we know what we are getting into. And maybe she will catch on to him if he starts being how he was with Penny. But you tried. How is Penny now by the way? I feel badly for her.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 Nov 11
Penny is taking it in stride says she is okay she knew the score, but really she is hurting, I don;t know if Debbie knows about Penny but D is a very open person so he may have told her.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 Nov 11
I think sub consciously he is getting back at his wife who did him wrong and he is afraid of commitment now.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
19 Nov 11
I feel that each woman has to think with her head and NOT her heart. Yes women do think differently than men. But this dumped girlfriend was given the parameters of the relationship from the beginning. "Nothing serious" to me means that he just wants to spend time when he wants to, jump my bones when he wants to and then throwe away when he wants to. It's a disposable relationship. So being the person ths I am, I would not get involved with him in the first place.
He will most likely dump Debbie as quickly as he dumped Penny.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 Nov 11
I agree with you. But these women are both very naive, and they will let their heart get in the way. Even though they say they will not. D has been hurt badly by his ex wife and I think he is afraid of commitment now.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
20 Nov 11
winter I don't think "D" is a very nice person..When you be
honest with someone in the beginning and tell them you are a
person who is a player and can not committe to anyone person,
I can't see anyone going on ahead and beng interested in thst
person. unless they are a player themselves...
Mr, "D" is bouncing from pillow to post.. Hope he is very
careful with his lifestyle...But who wants to get hooked up
in that kind of mess..I feel bad for "T" who knows both of
the women...hope she stay out of those issues..it sounds like
Debbie is setting herself up for huge letdown...ecpecially
since she is spending money on the player player....
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 Nov 11
yes but the ladies also were told ahead of time, his situation, just coming out of a bad relationship with his x wife and he doesn't want a committment. These ladies are not players, but they are very naive and debbie will get hurt just like Penny. Unless maybe this time D will fall in love, who knows.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
19 Nov 11
I don't know these people obviously but it sounds like a bit of a soap opera to me. It is awful we just can't trust our partners the way it used to be. Long term marriages are simply a thing of the past it's sad real sad isn't it ?
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
19 Nov 11
yep it is sad long term marriages are a thing of the past. Even my own marriage was short but the divorce had to happen.
I am with someone now for 12 years and that is longer than the 4 year marriage I had.
@bewitchingmelody (366)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
I think you should not get involved with this. It's best that they go about their lives on their own. If they are not for each other, then better have a break up. Likewise, if they are meant to be, then they really are. I wish all the best for you and your friends ^_^
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
19 Nov 11
I am not involved this is a discussion for mylot on what people think
@jnh518866 (22)
• China
19 Nov 11
Life is short,can get along nature is best .If the relationship is better than bad break up,so to be all good ,long pain rather short pain.
