why i am hurt?
By angelgie05
@angelgie05 (118)
Philippines
14 responses
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
19 Nov 11
You probably enjoyed a lot of fun times with him and you know that with another girl or marriage, those moments will lesson. Perhaps that is why you are lonely. Did he not tell you himself that he was engaged? Maybe you wanted him to tell you?
@angelgie05 (118)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
yes, i was also disappointed that he didn't said about it to me.
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
19 Nov 11
Could I ask you, was he your boy friend ? Were you falling in love with him ? If the answer was yes to both question, I assumed you knew exactly what the right answer for your question. You wanted us to explain to you why you were hurt, because you loved him so much and you are not prepared to lose him for the second time of your life. Were you sa
@angelgie05 (118)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
actually he is just a guy friend close to me and he is not my boyfriend... i don't know if i am falling in love with him because i had a boyfriend...
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Maybe you just don't realized that you are inlove with your guy friend. Re assess your feelings with him. Maybe you become jealous because he is now engaged with the someone. And if you are telling that you are not in-love with him, maybe you just feel like your friend might not around you anymore, and you just feel like he will be gone for you. Don't be hurt, just be happy with him that he now found a girl who will love him and take care of him, just pray for him that the future that he choose now will work the way it is..
@angelgie05 (118)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
i really don't know, its so bad if i am really in love with my friend because i had a boyfriend... and i love my boyfriend, it will be selfish of me If i love 2 person. we can't love two people right? so, i think its impossible that I love my friend, maybe just jealous, or i just don't really know...truth is we both like each other before, but we never had the chance to talk about it that much maybe we are too shy to tell it with each other, then we lost our communication because we become both busy...didn't know he was still sending me messages in my friendster account which i hardly use..I didn't open it for more than a year, i was surprise when i opened my friendster and read all his messages...and by that time i read all his messages he just stop sending messages because he's not receiving message from me...i tried to reply one of his message but didn't get a response since then he never talk to me anymore, later on I found out he met someone and now he is engaged...
@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
19 Nov 11
Hi, sometime you may not know that you love someone but only your heart can tell the real feeling when you see the person go. There was a girl who was very close to me, as a friend all we laid everything between us open to each other. Later,I moved to another place as she did the same, parting ways for months and when we met she asked me of my life and I did told her everything including having a relationship with another girl. In answer she complained that I forgot about her when she needed me, she also said she can't imagine me having another girl. Well, it was so hurting that she loved me and pretended to having a guy in her life.
... anyway life is just a maze whose destiny is hidden unless we uncover what we truly want...
@angelgie05 (118)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
yeah, that's life... sad but its true, we only realize their importance to us when their gone...
@angelgie05 (118)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
we both like each other before but we both got busy so didn't had the chance to talk about it... never thought he was still sending me messages in my friendster account, I tried to response but its too late... Then I met my boyfriend, and later on I found out that he met someone and became his girlfriend, now they are engaged... and it hurts when I saw their pictures together... but I also love my boyfriend... I can't love two people...
@gaea23 (252)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
You are indeed in love with him. You can never say you're in love because you are afraid and you two were close. You want to maintain the closeness you've been building with so you never told yourself you are in love with your close friend. The mere fact that he is engaged already then you realize that you are hurt, it is because you love him and you don't want to share him with anybody romantically. Now, you have to face the reality, to make it easy for you, just accept the fact that you were not meant for each other. That good company as merely friends is the only capacity your close friend can give you, so better accept and go in your way. Who knows, along the way there is someone where you can find the most you're heart looking for.
@angelgie05 (118)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
i can't be in love with him because i had a boyfriend. i am confused now.. truth is me and my friend like each other a long time ago but it never happened that we had special relationship, we just remain close friend
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
21 Nov 11
There are three reasons that come to mind.
1. You wanted him for yourself. You fell for him without even knowing it!
2. you wish you got engaged first. You don't have feeling for him but you wanted to have a partner first.
3. He said he will Never marry and now he announces he is engaged. Really?
@umabharti (3972)
• India
19 Nov 11
yes it happens ,because u feel that ur close friend will not be the same as he was before his engagement.The new relation he would be will not allow the same relation of close ness with u.So your feeling hurt because u feel that the close friend is lost and will not be the same old friend after his engagement.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
19 Nov 11
I felt like that when my best friend didn't tell me that she was pregnant and then I realized about that because she was telling it to another person, since that moment I felt like that baby willo make us be separate and no be friends anymore, each time that she asked for permission to go the bathroom in the university I felt angry with her and never felt sad for all his problems for being pregnant and had to continue studing.
At the end I realized that I was just jealous of the baby because I thought like she will never be the same with me.But I was wrong, maybe that is your case.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 11
it means that you love him at all.
and you try to cover it from yourself.
you trying to cover it for a long time and finally you feel hurt when you lost him now.,
i think it really not good feeling for you.
now, you are hurt because of your love, a covered love i think.
trying to be patient.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
I think what you feel is you're jealous of the thought that he's gonna get married already. Not because that you have special romantic feelings for him. But because when he's already married, he will have a different life and you both won't get to spend time with each other.
@chillmaik (67)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
you can be in love with him..or just a bit jealous because he is close to you..but then he is already engaged so i think you have to divert that feelings thru things that will make you busy.and will make you learn to forget that feelings
@dannahjade (29)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
maybe you are afraid of losing him... You never thought that being engage will happen to him and you are afraid that it might affect your closeness to each other... Do you think his attention for you will change???? if that is the case just learn to embrace the fact and changes around you and him because you will never loose your friendship as long as you stick on it & believe on it... learn to trust him and be happy for the new path he had chosen ...
