a couple of friends don't want any marrage but they have a daughter

These days, being married doesn't mean the kids have any kind of solidity in their life - people get married or divorced on a whim. My lady and I are not married and we'll probably have kids before we get married. I don't think it matters. It's just a piece of paper. What IS important is the fact that we'll be together, as parents, for the rest of our lives. Our kids (when we have them) will grow up in a house full of love with two parents in a very, very stable relationship. Even if we're not married for a while. Or ever. That's what matters, IMHO.

Perhaps your friends decided not to be married because of lack in financial preparation. Their decision is just right because their kid would only suffer if they entered into a marriage while they are unprepared.

Lot of couples now a days never want marriage or at least start off not wanting marriage. Some couples look at marriage as too much of a commitment. If they are married and decide to split later on they have to get a divorce. If they aren't married they don't have to deal with that even with a child or children! That isn't easy as some people think! Look at Hallee Barry! She never married her daughter's father and they've been battling over custody! I rather see couples who have kids be or get married! I believe it would be best but the way society is today that is less to happen.

It doesn't mean the kid will not experience love from both parents and have a good family all because her parents are not married. Marriage is not the solution for having a daughter or the daughter being the reason to get married. There is a reason why the couple is not ready to get married..but they can both give love,care and attention to their daughter.

So from what I can read, you think that love is only measured by legal papers, isn't it? In that case I feel really sorry for you, as you don't understand the deepness of love Marriage is a simple legal procedure you do in order to get legal benefits with a long time partner, but it doesn't decide if the kid is more or less loved. Two people decided to have a baby, and give their love and rise him or her. That is what love is, and it won't change a thing whether they're married or not

Marriage isn't completely necessary, and sometimes can make things worse for the child if they parents can't get along during the marriage. There have been plenty of parents that have provided a great life for their child outside of marriage, it just takes more work.

It very much depends what the social customs and feelings are in your part of the world. I don't think that being legally married actually makes a great deal of difference to whether a couple with children are a real 'family' or not. It all depends on their attitude to each other and the way they behave together. In many countries now, "common law" cohabiting is treated legally in much the same way as marriage. In other words, the law protects children of such partnerships and surviving partners in very much the same way as it does when the couple is legally married.

Hi Jdrew, Is your friend still with the father of her daughter? If so then she is doing better than many couples. When I got pregnant with my youngest daughter I did choose not to get married. I don't regret it. I saved myself and her the pains and expense of going through a divorce later on. Yes, a mother and father together and happy is the best option. "Happy being key". If the parents just can't work it out, the next best thing is if they can work together while living apart to provide the child with the best possible upbringing. I would not judge their situation. A child can be loved and have a real family and sometimes a more peaceful one even if both parents are not married.

I think that woman who prefers not to get married are just afraid or have doubts they will get hurt by the man she will marry. WE all heard about those regrets of marrying someone when the guy turns out to be abusive to his wife. Maybe those friends of yours who think that way are just avoiding to be trapped in such kind of marriage. There are some who actually lived together first and had babies before they eventually consider to marry each other.