Jobless... Lost
By Aja103654
@Aja103654 (5644)
Philippines
November 19, 2011 9:40am CST
It's been two months or so since I quit my job. I quit because i wanted to go on a vacation with my family. Besides my work contract was only for two months. I actually wanted to have the job for three months, but since i was too lazy to check and read the contract thoroughly, well, that happened.
After having my vacation, I promised to find a job again. But as I began to search, the potential workplaces I had in mind are not accepting applicants anymore. So, i had to find others. Not all the jobs available aren't paying that well and they certainly didn't match with my bachelor's degree. At the situation I am in now, I don't have the right to be so picky with jobs.
Three days ago, I went to apply for job and got rejected, much to my disappointment. I was really hoping to get that copy editor job, but I wasn't experienced enough and they didn't even provide me a chance to prove my skills, if any. Besides, their standards were to high...
My friends and my parents have been urging me to get a job, they tell me of places where i can possibly apply for work. The numerous choices they proposed to me had me all confused.
At first I would say, 'great! why not?'
Then after knowing how far the workplace would be and how low the salary they will give, I begin to think twice... reconsider... and then I'm back to where I am again, LOST.
I don't know where to go. I'm also dreading another rejection from work. I know I shouldn't, but i can't help feeling like this. This monday, I'll go apply somewhere again, I'm not too enthusiastic about it though. Still, it's better to have a job than none at all.
Have you ever had any similar experiences like this?
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12 responses
@icciev (81)
• Kuwait
29 Nov 11
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@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
1 May 13
I do like writing but I'm not that into it. It's not easy to earn enough through writing. But I will try it thank you :)
@aimhrea (181)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
key thing about jobs i have observed through working for more than 7 years is, jobs are not easy--hard to get it, difficult to find one worth sticking too, uncomfortable to let go of a not-so-good job but one that you've grown used to, etc.
but unless your family can survive without you having to work or you're ok with not contributing to family finances, unless you have a solid regular outside source of income to get you from day to day like say a trust fund, etc, then what you have to do is put up a front of bravado and courage even if rejection is scary and hurts like no other until you actually believe there's nothing to fear and dread.
i faced (facing? lol) a lot of times when i don't know where to turn next to get that elusive plum job, however, in times when i feel like just giving up and hiding under the blanket i keep a fixed mental image of what i want to get out of my life--something that usually involves cash and to get cash is to work, or find work.
so i get up and face another day of doing jobs until that time i'll be doing my passion and calling :)
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
That's rather a lot to take in, aimhrea. 
I'm thankful for that. Better to do something now than remain stuck on the same ground. Like we gotta move on, keep moving forward until we get to a place where we desire to be. 
I'm thankful for that. Better to do something now than remain stuck on the same ground. Like we gotta move on, keep moving forward until we get to a place where we desire to be. @Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
haha, it's okay aimhrea. It only proves that you made me think more and I had to. We need to be more knowledgeable about things in order to move in this world. yep, you have 7 years experience, and i'm on my first year (just started) so it's safe to assume you are older than me. I certainly need a mother figure like you around
Thanks!! Aja=fighting!
Thanks!! Aja=fighting!@aimhrea (181)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
oops sorry Aja if i seem to have bombarded you with all that. just that the issue of jobs is something that hasn't been that far off my mind for a while. so i guess the discussion struck a chord? hehe. or maybe i'm feeling my age and i assume you're younger and now im in my mothering mode. but, yea, getting stuck is ok as long as you dont remain stuck, those are two different things.and before i go on to nagging i'll just say lotsa luck to your job hunting! fighting! ^^
@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
i consider myself lucky since after graduation, the job was already waiting for me. i stayed with my job and i loved doing it until now. my husband had that same sentiments with yours before especially when he perfectly knew that my salary is 4 times fold to his. i am just thankful that he has his earnings now and is helping me pay our monthly bills.just don't stop exploring and assess yourself what you really want to do and work.try all the options dear. no pain, no gain.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
1 May 13
I envy you hehe.
Maybe it has something to do with having a good network of friends?
@bewitchingmelody (366)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
I got rejected from the first job that I applied. I was actually enthusiastic about it at first and I was pretty sure that I would get it because I know that job caters my forte. When I got rejected because they were already full, I feel like crying and that a huge stone had crushed my ego. I started to question myself, "Was I not good enough?" I started to compose myself and told myself that, "It is not my lost. It is there lost. I could have been an asset to their company. Probably, I deserve something better."
I tried to search for jobs but like you I also get discouraged if it's too far from my place and if the salary is low. I was given a part time job. I honestly enjoyed it since it is in line with my profession but I needed to earn more. I am currently job hunting right now, and I am honestly afraid of getting rejected again. Probably that was the main reason why it took me long enough to find another job.
Lately, I realized that probably I was not meant to be an employee. I want to be an employer. Hahahah! I know I'm so ambitious but I'm free to dream right? Hahahah! This realization hit me hard and made me come to a decision that I will try to upgrade my knowledge and go to med school. ^_^
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Hey, Bmelody! We're on the same boat!
It's terrible to be rejected, especially when we expected so much that we would be accepted because we got the know hows and the skills, probably have more of it than the other applicants.
Having confidence is healthy, but too much pride on yourself is not.
I can't help saying this, but your thoughts were bitter. I'm the same too. We are both being bitter towards those people who rejected us. No one can really blame us for this right? LOL!
You have the choice to be an employer. You need time and experience to be one first so that dream may come true at a later time. I hope it does come true.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Haha, it's only human of us to feel bitter about it. We have to make sure that this bitterness won't prevent us from moving on. Instead, we should use it to make ourselves stronger and more prepared for the next challenges we have to face.
I felt like that as well. I was confident i could do better than those people, it's just that i wasn't able to show them how good I am. LOL, that was really arrogant to say. Food for our battered ego, you might want to call it XD
Could you share that book with me? I need enlightenment, really need it
@bewitchingmelody (366)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Yes I was bitter but I can't help it. It was a defense mechanism! I'm rationalizing things and comforting my hurt ego. I knew I was better than them. I knew that I have the qualities that would make me qualify to get the job. Yes, I was very confident about it and I have pride because I know the quality of work that I can give. I know very well that I give it my all when I would work on something that I like. And that job, I kind of like it. I even had a dream days before the scheduled screening that I will be accepted from that job. But sadly, I was not. It was really hard to be rejected during my 1st attempt to apply for a job.
We shared the same pain. Ouch! Anyway, after reading a book from Bo Sanchez, I am going to try again. The book enlightened me to show up again until I get it. *Fingers crossed*
@J0hnluvs (10)
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20 Nov 11
Hey Aja,
This is John and from my experience everything is going to be okay and the world will still spin when you wake up tomorrow. Having said that I'd like to give you some advice for getting over this small problem in your life and offer you a solution on how to get the next one.
FIRST - You need to have a clear goal of what you want to do in life.
SECOND - Work like your life depends on it!
THIRD - Find Motivation to continue each day.
It's hard but well worth it to work hard and learn new life experiences.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Thank you John. Those things you listed there are what i keep saying to myself everyday. Too bad i have a hard time keeping myself motivated, but i try my best to do something productive each day. Work and giving it my all? Ah, i really need to remember that. Thank you so much. Maybe i ought to write those on my wall to remind myself everyday
@J0hnluvs (10)
•
28 Nov 11
Hey Aja I thought I'd add some advice. I have a friend who painted his goal on a piece of wood that said "Success or bust" meaning he would stop at nothing to achieve his goals. Everytime he walked out his door and entered he would always look at it and repeat his slogan everyday. Other Ideas are to add reminders and postits to your computer as it is a place we go to everday. The constant reminder will eventually be ingrained into your head and never leave you for the rest of your life!
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
19 Nov 11
Hi friend... Being jobless is, indeed, very bad.. Why don't you join a small firm, until you hit the real big opportunity? Even if the salary is low, its better than nothing, right? And trust me, experience in small organizations is very valuable, where you need to manage most of the things, out of your duties... So when you goto a big orgnization, they take you in with more trust...
Good Luck! Please let us know how it goes... Too much of gap between two jobs might make your resume look bad... Take care....
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Thank you, pearl. Start small, I'll have to concede with that then. The terrible thing about this is if the smaller firms reject me too. How can i ever get experience and improve myself if i never got the chance to work for them? that's the big problem.
Okay, I'll keep that in mind. Thank you again!
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
21 Nov 11
My husband lost his job and we were forced to move in with family. Ever since we have moved in with my parents (whom I thought wanted my husband and I here because they missed us) expect us to pay for everything. They have asked us to give them money each week in addition to paying for food. We have had two expenses that have come up which have really drained us and all my mother can say is look for work. my husband needed new glasses and our car needs a lot of repairs because we failed the smog check. My mom tells us there is public transportaion, but my husband is a veteran and has numerous doctors appointments and it takes four buses. The economy is bad and it is worse here in Nevada. Nobody is hiring and my mom tells me to sign up with a temp agency. I have gone down that route twice and had a really bad experience both times. I was told that I do not have much work experience and my typing skill stink. I have a degree from Idaho in teaching, but teaching credentials do not transfer from Idhao to Nevada (although my mother does not believe me). I am getting tired of living here and being treated like a bank. If I had known that the real reason I am here is to pay the bills I never would have moved here. I would have rather been homeless rather than being used.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Yep, Oh my god! This discussion was helpful to let go of my disappointment, a good way to find people who will kick me in the butt and tell me to move on. XD
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
20 Nov 11
Well in my case when I was inneed of a job anf found a place that are soliciting I just apply and get the job,most of the time have been bad decisions because the jobs were too far awya of my house, so I had to spend a lot of money on bus,or the salary was very bad, but because I was in a hurry to get a job I took the job,so I don't advise to take a job just for not being doing nothing, because once you are in ajob and you have sign a contract is difficult to quit if you find the job of your dreams, so you won't be available to break your contract,if you find something with not a lot of compromise and that you can quit whenever you find a better one.
Good luck
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.@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
That's it, Rosa. 
I was worried about the convenience and payment the job offers, that's why i don't rush and apply. I don't want to put myself in a difficult situation where I find the job that i can't handle and that denies too much from me. Especially the transportation problem. I'd be spending my salary on transportation mostly, i want to prevent that kind of problem. Thank you, by the way. ^^ I'll be careful in choosing jobs.
I was worried about the convenience and payment the job offers, that's why i don't rush and apply. I don't want to put myself in a difficult situation where I find the job that i can't handle and that denies too much from me. Especially the transportation problem. I'd be spending my salary on transportation mostly, i want to prevent that kind of problem. Thank you, by the way. ^^ I'll be careful in choosing jobs.
@dellessimon45 (710)
• United States
19 Nov 11
Well, I don't have a job and I've never had a job. I intend to gain significant amount of online earnings capable of supporting me through college! Right now, I'm in the beginning stages of my plan, raising money here so that I an invest on Neobux and it seems to be working thus far even though I haven't made my first payment here. I would just say, keep applying with the motive of more money on your mind, because that's what I keep my mind on when I stay active on here! Better times will you come and soon you will be able to vacation with your family, so good luck with your earnings and getting a fun, easy, well-paying job!
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
I see. That's tough, indeed. I wish you good fortune.
I never thought of investing money online, i get paranoid when i have to pay first before doing anything online. 
I never thought of investing money online, i get paranoid when i have to pay first before doing anything online. 
@inlovewithmyself (59)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
I am very sorry about this,but don't lost hope you can get work I know.I quite my job also a year ago and considered to work online job.Now I am enjoying it,I am the boss of myself and have my time for my family.
Anyway if you are interested just send me message.Godbless!!!
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Thanks! Must be great to be your own boss. I have to learn many things before i get to be like you, i just started this online earning fad this month, so i don't want to rush.
