What's the perfect age in getting married?
By dannahjade
@dannahjade (29)
Philippines
November 20, 2011 3:19am CST
I'm 21 years old, fresh graduate & a newly RN... too young right???
But as I look back for the past years in my life I just realized that time is just so fast... Wondering of all the things that happened & that will be happening in the future.... Then suddenly just came into my mind of having my own family,,, but before that time will come I must be married first... so the questions are when????? what's the perfect age I must consider???
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
When I was taking up my masterals degree in Administration. We talk about the time frame to get married. One of my classmates do some researched and make her thesis about the right age to get marriage...
It come out that the right age for women, to get married is 26-30 years old and for men 27-30...
In those age; the result will be your children possibly more intelligent than those lower age as stated in the above paragraph...
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
To get married is not an assurance for a good thing to happen into our life. Being matured enough really good but sometimes the problem is not on your part but the person you want to be in your life...
I wish you found the person that really loves you and give important to you in any case. He will stand before you until the end of this world...loves you forever!Not today or tomorrow...
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Nov 11
I think it is important to wait to get married until you are mature enough to handle it. So many people who marry young end up with multiple marriages because of one mistake being made after another. People go in and out of marriage like they were just relationships. I think if you wait until you are mature enough, you are more likely to stay in a marriage. I wish i had waited. Just because a person is at legal age to get married or have kids, doesn't mean they are mature enough to actually go that route.
I think it is important that both people get as much education as they can and have their careers in place before marriage. I also feel it is best to not have kids before you are ready to. In a perfect world, people would probably make better choices than they do.. myself included.
@LaraTecson (726)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Hello. There has been a discussion about this one day ago so this might get deleted by admin. Just check this discussion for your answer: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2601163.aspx. have a nice day.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
21 Jan 12
There is no perfect age. It depends on the maturity of you, and the person you wish to marry. The sad part is, most people don't realize how immature they are, until they make a mistake.
Marriage is very hard. It's tough. It's work. More difficult than anything you have done thus far in your life.
And unlike things you do today, you can't change it once you take the plunge. Your life will never be the same. It's a one way street. Once you go, there's no coming back.
So unfortunately, I think typically it's better to wait. Wait until you are mentally ready to say good bye to the easy life. To the life where you can do as you please. Where you are ready to accept the fact that you are going to spend your life with another person, and from this day forward everything you do, will be connected to this other person.
Worse, you have to be mature enough to pick a good person, and that's another area people are really horrible at these days. So it's a hard thing.
@Cricket127 (548)
• United States
21 Nov 11
Hi! I think it completely depends on the person of when the right time is but if you are having any doubts whatsoever, give it some time. Why? It's worth having the time for yourself and what YOU want to do rather than marrying just for the sake of it. I'm not saying no to marriage, just do it for the right reasons.
There is another reason why I am saying this--I married for the wrong reasons the first time around; I thought I knew the person only to find out I didn't. Happily I got out of it, found my feet again, and am now in a MUCH better situation with someone I have known for 20 years. During the 'break' I took the time to re-evaluate myself and who was in the best position to help me. Sure enough, he was there.
I do hope that if you do marry, it is to the right person at the right time. It is fun, a lot of work, but if its the right person, it is worth it!
Best wishes!
@Cricket127 (548)
• United States
21 Nov 11
So I'd say perhaps 26-28...if the right person is there. :-)
@fatlumzeka (1)
•
20 Jan 12
I am 19 years old.I think that I am too young to get married and for the best age to get married would be like 25 years . But that does not meen that if you find your love earlier you can not get married . Even thow you find your love tou might not be ready so I think that when it's time to get married you will know that!!!.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
21 Nov 11
This is simple. Whenever you find the perfect person , then it will be time. You are 21, an adult. So from now on , whatever age is fine. My dear friend got married at 21 and now she is happy with a child. Me? I'm old enough to be her mother and if I married tomorrow it would be too soon! The age isn't the answer , it is the desire and the luck to have the partner that is perfect for you. As perfect I am not saying he/she is a Perfect person . I mean you find a person who you mesh with. Their faults you can live with and they can live with yours. And most important they Want the same type of future . So whenever you are ready open your heart and find your ideal partner. Since you Want to marry , your partner will want marriage too. If you meet a guy and he is nice and all but he doesn't want marriage, he is the wrong guy! Move on. So the answer isn't about the number, your age , but where you are in your life. Marry when you are ready. Do Not go by your age.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
There is no definite time when is the right time for marriage.
As long as you are emotionally and financially stable..then go and marry someone you love.
@UmiNoor (4522)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 11
There is no one perfect age that fits everybody and it's different for a woman and for a man. Personally, I think for a woman, the younger she is the better because she needs to get pregnant and a younger woman would have the energy to carry her child to term. And she will also have the strength to take care of a baby.
For a man, I think it's the time when he is mentally and financially ready. It could be as young as 18 or as old as 30 but beyond 30, the man will be too old because, if he gets his first child at the age of 31, he will be 49 years old when the child reaches 18 which means that he has to work until then and if he has a second child at the age of 33, he will be 51 years old when the child turns 18. So, a man needs to be married by 30 otherwise he will be too old to take care of his children.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
i think the perfect age in getting married is about 24-27 for women.
in this age, you have been mature in mentality and in your body.
many couple in my place married in young age, and the effect, they can manage their household well, because they are too young, they dont have needed experience.
they think that marry is an easy think, no, it is more difficult life i think.
we need the best preparation for all of this.
i think you can take more experience for your life.
and it really will be useful in your family then.
cheers.
@littlemissy (200)
• Canada
11 Dec 11
Age has nothing to do with when you get married. It has to do with your maturity and your partner. Are you really ready to take such a big commitment is more the question, not age...
I think you were smart to get your schooling done first and now that you have a career you might be ready to settle down. But don't just jump into getting married for the sake of getting married. Make sure it is the right person for you because you want to be with this person forever and that is a very long time.
And to raise children you might want to make sure the guy you marry can afford for you to take time off of work when you first have your baby as you want to be home for the first year or longer. You don't want to have a baby to have some one else raise it in the beginning because that is the most important part of the babies life, when they are just learning life.
littlemissy here signing off for now,
talk to you soon my friend
@alifive (64)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
Before I die. Haha!
Seriously? I never really thought of a perfect age.. But now that I think about it.. For me it would be between 23-30. I always thought, I don't want to be 50+ and my kid's only 10-15 years old. Cuz I want to still be able to like.. connect with my kid? That I still have that awesomeness in me, haha.
But if were talking about love here. I think It's worth the wait. So, what I said earlier, "Before I die"... I could. I don't mind getting married around 50, as long as I've really found love. :)
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
20 Jan 12
Hi dannahjade :)
Well, in physical and psychological you are ready to have family. But the best age for woman to have family is in their 23, I think. To build a family we need to think it deeply and arrange it far before you start it. Marriage is not only between two person, but also between two families.
So maybe two years later is the perfect time for you to have your own family :)
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
21 Nov 11
My advice is to not push it! You might end up rushing into a marriage you might regret! I don't know what the right age to marry!I have never been married and never will get married! That is my choice. Only marry when you feel it is right! Don't put pressure on yourself or let other people try to do it! Go with your heart! That is your safest bet!
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Nov 11
Hi Dannahjade,
Welcome to Mylot! There is no perfect age to get married. You are now an RN, so you have your future ahead of you. This might be a good time to get married, if you are in love with someone. Things you might consider though, before getting married is what your prospective husband will do for a living. Does he have a good future ahead of him, or will he become a financial drain on you. Other things to consider are credit ratings. Do you both have good credit so you could buy a home of your own. Many people, starting out only rent. To me, that is just throwing money away to someone else. You have nothing to show for it, but buying a home, that money paid out for it is an investment in your future. There are so many things to consider before getting married... It's not enough just to love someone and then hope it all works out. There are too many things that can go wrong. It takes planning.. so if you have your future planned out.. you have a good education... and your mate does too.. then I think that is the right time to get married.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
for me i think the perfect time to get married is when your truly ready..ready to handle all the responsibilities of being a mom, parent, wife, and of course you are financially ready..also you must be with the right and mature person..marriage is a very serious commitment..some people get married at late 20s or early 30s when they are truly ready and financially secure to start their own family..at this point, you're only 21 and a fresh graduate it is best to focus on work first and saving for the future..just enjoy being single because when you already have a kid or kids..it requires a lot of time and responsibilities..it is not easy to enjoy those things u can freely do when your'e single..it is not a joke to enter marriage and to be a mother and parent or wife..so u must think really hard and should be truly ready for that time and decision when it is there..
@Noseclams (149)
• United States
21 Nov 11
I think the best age to get married would be between 30 - 35. You definitely want to wait until you have completely matured as a person. I think its important to make sure that you are going to be making anyevent personality changes that could disrupt the marriage too quickly.
@mirby25 (26)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
I don't think there is a perfect age in getting married. As long as both of you are emotionally, mentally, physically and financially ready then you can start your own family. Marriage is not that easy, so better think many times before you decide.