Adding friends on facebook....do you accept all suggestions and requests ?

@kiran8 (15348)
Mangalore, India
November 20, 2011 8:12am CST
It is a different matter here on mylot where I accept all friend requests, but I don't do the same on Facebook.I accept only those well known to me or at least with whom I have interacted for a considerable length of time . But, I see many members having hundreds of friends and most of them are unknown to them.Is it just because people want to show they are popular by being able to show hundreds of friends on their profile(only) ...when one of my facebook friends makes a suggestion I make it a point to ask them if they know the person and , I am surprised at times when they say no... Friends Please add your own views here...
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15 responses
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
If your an internet marketers. You can't refuse to accept all people who request you to be their friends. But if your only a regular users of facebook. I think you need to be choosy on how you manage your profile in facebook... For me I accept all request and suggestion because my purpose in facebook is to have more friends as I used facebook is my promotional site...to all of my online programs
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
23 Nov 11
They have to cater to all tastes and some people like it, the more changes the better for them...LOL,so one cannot really complain.I use it in a very limited manner so I don't get too involved in its activities
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
21 Nov 11
That makes sense ! You need to have more contacts when you are promoting stuff on the internet.In my case, I use it mainly for article promotion and also for socialising to a certain extent , so I am happier with fewer friends - thanks a lot aerous for sharing your views and all the best
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
It's my pleasure to share with you. But facebook seems to get worse. Profile wall and features changes and really not good to my opinion...
• Canada
21 Nov 11
I personally don't accept unknown request here but I those that have some interest. On FB, as you said, I only accept those that are closes to me!
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
23 Nov 11
Hi em,Thanks a lot for your response.From my on experience here, there is no need to worry while accepting friends unlike facebook where you share certain personal things on your profile...all the best and happy mylotting
@derek_a (10873)
21 Nov 11
Yes, I always accept friends who ask on Facebook or on here. I don't have a problem with it. If they turn out to be awkward or mischievous, I can also delete them as friends. But I feel that it is good to get to know new people. _Derek
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
21 Nov 11
Hi derek, what you say is right ! It is good to know new people and if there is an opportunity, interact with them....On Facebook I had some problem with a couple of people who I accepted ,they started posting all sorts of fanatic religious messages on my wall, of course I did delete them, but the damage was done, after which I am careful about accepting friends - thanks a lot for your response and happy mylotting
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
i learned my lessons very well. now i am screening every request.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
21 Nov 11
Like I did after some unpleasant experience after which I too have become very careful - thanks a lot bingskee and all the best
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
21 Nov 11
No, I am often warned by some unknown user, but I do not always approve of the friendship Unless this person has some friends in common with me.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
21 Nov 11
Yes that would be the wisest thing to do while accepting friends.We need to connect somewhere, either through friends or other members - all the best alberello and thanks a lot for the response
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
My basic rule in adding & accepting friends in Facebook is ACCEPT & ADD THOSE WHO I ONLY KNOW..... Because it will be so hassle in my part reading & seeing those post coming from an unfamiliar/unknown FB friend..... Aside from that my FB account is not for popularity purpose, it's my one way of knowing the latest updates & happenings of my close friends
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
21 Nov 11
Hi dannah, thanks a lot for sharing your views I too do the same now after I had some unpleasant experience...Have related it on the post above this !I too hardly use FB for socialising, do chat with my children and occasionally leave a message on my profile - all the best and happy mylotting
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
20 Nov 11
Hi kiran, I'm also choosy for accepting new friends request. I see their profiles. If some of them appear to me as acceptable then I give them positive response. I also entertain new faces of muLot to encourage them. In facebook I do the same as you.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
21 Nov 11
Hi bhanu,mylot and facebook are different and I personally feel that we have to deal with them differently...I too am now very choosy about accepting new friends esp those who are strangers to me .thanks a lot for your response and all the best
@anil02 (24688)
• India
20 Nov 11
Hello Kiran ji, indeed, some person join FB only to say hi or hello. They like to make friends in large number. I think these people will not interact with their friends for months. I have only 42 friends on FB.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
21 Nov 11
Hi anil,I too don't have too many friends and I know all of them.I too use FB mainly for promoting my articles and also occasionally interact with my friends and family - thanks a lot anil for adding your views and all the best
@Woody7189 (247)
• United States
21 Nov 11
I only accept friend requests from people that I know. I don't really see the point of trying to have hundreds of friends that I never interact with. I guess everybody is different, but that is my opinion.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
23 Nov 11
Hi Woody, thanks a lot for your response I feel the same, that there is no point in having so many people on my friend list, most of whom are unknown to me..all the best and happy mylotting
• Portugal
20 Nov 11
I Hate those persons that have like 2000-4000 friends on facebook, they don't even now half of them! Once I asked a friend of mine that had 1500+ friends why he was adding a girl that lived 1000 miles from where I live, he said: "because she's hot!", and I said: Why would she want to add an little kid like you?". He said that she was very cool and friendly and not a jerk like me because she added every one... Oh and by the way he was 16, so probably the age is problem..let's hope so.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
23 Nov 11
Hi peter, thanks a lot for your responseExactly my feelings !LOL, the example you quoted says it all, most youngsters dont really bother beyond what is cool and hot !! so , more the merrier as far as they are concerned...all the best and happy mylotting
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
hi there kiran! as for me when i started in Facebook i just accept any fiend requests. it's because i want so many friends in my friend list. but i started to get sick of it especially when these unknown people chat and ask your number! it surprise me because i barely know them. now, i have deleted those friends and i keep a number of known or common people i know. with that my Facebook could be peaceful!
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
In adding friends on facebook, i do not accept all of suggestinos and requests, i will try to look the profile of person that suggested to me. if i think that he/she is a kind person from the first look, i will try accept. but the most important thing,he/she should have more than 100 mutuals friends with me. it can bea proof that he/she know about me or my friends. what you have said is rigth, many people just accept friend requests. they dont think that it will give a bad impact to their facebook,. if you have too much friends in your facebook, you probably can be banned like my friends.
@champoy186 (1638)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
I only accept those requests who I knew or at least I've met before. I want to see only the people who I know in my list of friends. Facebook is not about collecting people as many as you can. I think the purpose of Facebook is to make it easy to communicate to your friends and family. This is just my opinion. Happy mylotting!
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
23 Nov 11
Hi champboy, thanks a lot for your responseI too agree that facebook has a different purpose while compared to here, and we cannot treat them alike.It is better to be choosy and accept only those known to us...all the best
• India
20 Nov 11
Facebook is going on increasing with number of fake id's. A guy makes a female id and have some fun by talking to the other guy or a girl makes id by male. I have seen this many times and I recognize them by the style of chatting. I get many friend requests but I add people who I know or who is a mutual friend. Once I added unknown person, he/she messaged me many times but I didn't reply(I was out for a vocation). The next I got to know that my Id was hacked! He/She posted really bad comments and posts, I felt very disappointing for the mistake I did my adding an unknown person. Be careful, never add the one whom you don't know!
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
25 Nov 11
Hi Hunter,tanks a lot for your response I agree that it is much safer to add only those who you know or have been recommended or suggested by people known to you.There have been many complaints from members who have had problems on Facebook - all the best and happy mylotting
• India
20 Nov 11
Also never try to upload real photo or share personal matters, phone numbers in Facebook if you have strangers in your ID, your life may be ruined. It happened many times in India, I don't know about foreign countries it does happen or not. Be careful!