how to over come dilemma about my love ?

This is a very difficult problem. Which one to choose. I personally can not decide. difficult to wash. have to ancestors, he knows them better than us. to see which one is this heart. success of your friend. nice day!

If I am one of the girls and find out about it. I'm sure you're friend won't have to face such dilemma coz I will surely kick him and throw him out of my life! It's him who created this problem. now he has to weigh things out to know who he loves more. But I think he should at least break up with the two, just to be fair. He won't know who he really loves if she just hurt one of them. What if he chooses the other and later learn he loves the other one more. He should decide to be single for some time.

hi rahul2u. Thanks for sharing about your friend's love dilemma. If I were your friend, I will start to be honest with myself and realize that there will be two hearts I will hurt if I continue to love both of them. To love is to be truthful about your feelings, to be honest with your intentions and to be wise in dealings with your relationship. Help your friend to realize that both of these ladies are special but he can not be loving both at the same time. He has to choose now or it maybe too late, he might loose both of them.

This is indeed a difficult situation for a man. But only him can solve this. He has to weigh things with both girls. He has to see who has the quality of one he can share his life with. Everything should be weighed as to its effect on him. Most of all, he should weigh who he loves more.

Hi is it a dilemma about your love or your friend's. It is definitely a tough decision. It always doesn't have to be losing a friend over love as long as the friend understands the situation. I would feel the childhood friend would be better as she knows more. But in case of the college friend, there is more TO know if you know what I mean. It is for the guy to decide.

First of all, he should decide only one companion to date with, remember that hitting two birds in one stone is not a good idea most especially in relationship. Unless if the couple agreed upon engaging in an open relationship but that is rarely visible in some normal dating relationship. He should think of what really weighs on him in terms of “love match” and mutuality. Probably he is just drawn by the situation resulting that he is in love with the other girl because the other is away from him in terms of location. He should think wisely, although it is really painful to lose someone it’s the best decision he should make.

hello rahul! What a question this was! OMG! God forbid, hope you don't go and put yourself into such a thing. Anyways, coming to your question or confusion, the guy needs to speak about it openly as soon as it is possible! If the guy has decided whom he is loving, then may be he can ask the other friend to help out in proposing so that he lets the other girl know and she'll feel good that he is asking her to help and giving her some importance which will break half of the ice there itself. If he hasn't decided whom he is loving and is an confusion state, then the toss is the perfect thing to do! It not gives you an answer, but certainly when the tossing is happening, your heart will tell a name and hope that person which it wants win the toss. That way, the guy will know whom he really loves so that he can go ahead with speaking to the girl! If the other girl doesn't feel good about it, explain her things, she deserves it more than anything! respect her feelings too. Give her genuine explanations why you want her to remain as your friend. Tell her how much her friendship means to you! Good luck, hope things turn out well to your friend!

This is really a difficult I must say. But if I were your friend, I would chose the one that I can see a future with and the one that makes me happy. This is a really difficult situation indeed. Someone will have their heart broken anyhow

rahul - welcome to mylot. You are from Bangalore. This is an important situation for your friend. He has to decide whether A or B. A -- childhood friend or B -friend one who studied with him in college. He has to decide who will be able to stand with him in difficulties--one who has got more tolerance. He should consult in his parents also and find out their preferences and then decide.

I think he should not choose one of them. If he can't see and feel the difference there is no difference. I also do think it's weird to say: I decide to start love with one now. Sorry but it doesn't work this way. He sounds like a big loser to me nothing to be proud of to have for a boyfriend. I hope both girls will find a great guy who really loves them instead of abusing them. Since this is what he is doing.