Being Honest

I do lie to friends but only for good. Just sonindont hurt fellings I don't like causing problems so I avoid it as much as possible

This has happened to me so many times that I do not want to be asked for advice any longer. I am very careful of what I say. I no longer offer opinions. Some years ago, a woman came to my house. She was having a problem with her boyfriend. I knew him longer than her. She wanted my honest opinion on whether or not I felt that he would marry her. I did not know. She insisted upon an answer. I said that I did not feel he was the marrying kind. She became very upset and ran out of my house. I ran into her the next day and she told me that I had upset her so much she could not sleep all night. And kept going. She went to her boyfriend and others about "what I had said or done to her". I lost friends. People were mad at me. Something was spread around about me. My reputation was hurt. I never regained some friends. I was really injured by whatever she told people that I had said or done. And she made out like a bandit, as the saying goes. She got all kinds of support from him and others because of what I had done to her. No one would tell me what I had supposedly said or done. No one would listen to my side of the story. I feel that I was set up.

I think that it's really important to be truthful with everything that you do in your life. If you don't want people to think bad of you, then telling the truth is always the best thing to do because the truth will always come out in the end if you tell big lies about your life. I can't think about any lie that I've told at the moment, and I do know that I am incredibly happy in my life because of the fact that I have always been truthful about the things that I have chosen to tell to people during the course of my life so far.

To be honest it was so nice. be able to tell the truth and be honest. I like to say the truth even though sometimes it hurts. I've had friends who were liars and hypocrites very hurt by this. It is therefore very important to be fair to all regardless of friends or not. Many thanks for this discussion. nice day!

At first,I promise that I have been honest with a friend in any situations however they think.I had the experience that they called me a liar, which cause issues in my life .I have explained it to my friends and done things to prove that I were not a liar.I don't lose my friends for many years

Well in your case this sounds like a trust issue with your friend! You are stating that obviously you were right and younwere intending to set things straight but your friend has declared youna liar because the information, or subject, the statement was about may be hurtful to them if it is in actuality, true. I don't necessarily know what I would do in this situation but if you were honest and told the truth, and your friend won't listen to you then they are being just arrogant! The truth will surface eventually anyway so let them discover their own demise. You tried to warm them, they ignored and doubted you, so now they must learn from their own lesson. You're objective is to stand back and observe.

If you truly value your friend, then respect her opinion. She may have expressed her opinion, but it doesn't mean you have to follow it. It's still you who will decide what to do in your life. So, for you not to call her a liar, then stop following her given opinion, but go on with what you think is right.

It's hard to handle a situation like that when you are hurt because you tell the truth but you are still consider as lying. You just have to be patience enough until the situation become calm and after everything is okay then you start clearing yourself.

For me i would rather always honest tan to lied, but some situations you can made lies of some different reasons.