Help! Families and Lover, how to choose?

China
November 21, 2011 3:53pm CST
Dear friends, I really need your help! I really feel headache and I don't know how to do! I have a boy friend, we have been together for 4 years and we live together for 3 years. But my families don't know that I'm with my boy friend during this 3 years because I was in college and I know if my parents know this,they would stop us. So I decide to hide it. my boy friend is 8 years older than me, now it's time to get married for him, so I told everything to my families. After I told this to them, they got very angry and start to stop us. But I still insist to be with my lover. I try to persuade my parents for 4 months, but still can't change their minds. Later I quarrel with them, and then they seriously tell me "if you insist to be with him, that means you don't want your family! you can choose him, but you will lose your family, because we will never talk to you and you can't turn back to home anymore! If you can give up being with him, at this time, we can accept you. Now I really have no idea and I don't know what should I do! please, please help me and give me some suggestion! Thanks!
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lampar
@lampar (7584)
• United States
22 Nov 11
It is an easy choice, you can only have one family in your whole entire life, but you can have thousand if not million of men to choose from to become your lover. The decision on this is quite obvious as far as i am concerned. You don't really need to be a rocket scientist to figure it out yourself, it is funny how you can be so confused and has no idea what to do???
olivialam55
@olivialam55 (20)
• China
22 Nov 11
Yes,friend. Normally you're right. maybe I have a mental problem. I don't used to live with my family, because when I was young, they put me into a closed school,most of my child life spend in that kind of school, so I don't like live with them. But I get used to live with my lover, so that's the problem causes me don't know how to do.