I am not good at socializing

i dont think you are anti-social. You stay in your confort zone.. That's it. Everyone seeks to talk with people they already know. It is common and NORMAL not to have much to say to a stranger. Here we say:" You're on your." No one expects someone who just met to make a speech. Relax! But would be Good you dont to mention the negatives things about you. You must have more confidence and should not worry so much about what people think... generally people dont think. lolol and if they think... who cares??? As i think we are all equal to God, i take my position of equality and so i dont feel inferior. You should try too.. Kiss

Ya, that's me as well, I guess it's because of my vision and hearing issues, I'm more confortable with people that I know, and understand my disability, and I also have anxiety disorder, which kinda hinders me a lot. I don't think you're really anti-socialised, I just think you're more comfortable with people you know, and that's perfectly okay. I know for me, I get tongue-tied, and feel pressure in my chest when I'm in a public setting.

I know what you mean. Try to be a better friend with yourself. I know how bad it is to self criticize ourselves but with time and patience you'll stop that. Just be aware of everytime you do and begin by saying: "No...I'm not ... something." Everytime, and one day (for me I think it took a year) you will be complimenting and not criticizing your self, as it should be

Well, I can relate to that extremely well myself. I am also not a social person. I find it easier to be social here on MyLot and on the internet as a whole. But, I am useless in crowds because I also seem boring to people. You are not alone in how you feel. Not everyone is cut out for being a people person.

I have the same problem as you are. I am not good with socializing either. I am the mysterious one, that's what they usually say. I don't open up to a lot of people except a few who I am comfortable with. I hate big crowds because I don't like the feeling of being out of place. Maybe I'm just insecure with myself that's why I don't start a conversation too much, I am afraid they would reject me. I am not good in expressing myself or telling my opinions. I think joining mylot will help me overcome this. I am beginning to explore and communicate with others. In time I will be more confident of myself.

That happens to me too. Sometimes I don't like 'getting to know people' because sometimes what they talk about I'm not a big fan of or it just doesn't fit me. Sometimes I think it's just stupid what they talk about (gossip, television shows). I am also very shy to because last time some guy said hi to me in the lunch room and I just waved and walked away quickly. When I do that I feel very stupid and try to hide my face. Also, ssometimes I don't talk to certain groups because of my appearance. I think that some people don't like my taste in clothing and will A. talk behind my back or B. make fun of me. So it basically deals with out self-confidence and how we identify or see ourselves.

I am not good at socializing either. Like for example,there is gathering and I know I do not anyone from there. I will try to initiate the talk with someone close to me in sit, like a sitmate. I try to initiate the talk but mostly they are the ones who come near me and initiate the talk. I can stay in one place without talking to anyone especially with seminars actually, I do not care if I do not have to have a new friends there but it is good if I found a new acquiantant. When I am in a certain gathering, like I am invited in birthday celebration of a friend, before I sit, I check it out if there are table that consists of people I know and I come to the table, greet them and join them. I do not go to a birthday celebration where the only people I know is the celebrant because I know he/she will not take care of me there as he/she might be busy entertain some of his/her guests so I rather give him/her gifts instead when we see each other. It is not that I am not friendly, actually I am friendly but I rather not initiate and most of the time people come to me and they initiate the talk.

I too is in the same condition as you. But because of the nature of my work, I have in some cases attended or perhaps I would say forced to attend some social events. If I am given the chance, I would rather choose to be somewhere else. Perhaps in a beach or mountain area enjoying nature with the ones I love rather than attending social events. But we have to accept that part of life is socializing and of course adjusting to different attitudes of people. So I to have my share of social events. But most often, I do talk with people whom I know more and simply interact with other people if there is a need.

For me yes if you are not good in conversation style like you are friendly like to smile first then it make you more friends.

Well all you need to do is find a couple of people you have some common interests with and then you can capitalize on those interests to build better bonds! Find a couple of your hobbies, favorite TV shows, music, practically whatever, and then find others who enjoy the same things! Then you can have limitless conversation and it'll be amazing to know that others you've been associating with have the same common ideas as you. This makes communicating easier and you can plan events with them, that way you guys cn build relationships and extract memories! Good friends always have a list compiled of good memories!