I answer correctly, others get the credit
By Aja103654
@Aja103654 (5646)
Philippines
November 23, 2011 3:13am CST
The title may be vague. I'll explain it.
In class, our teachers ask questions. I'm one of those students who listen, answers(often times correctly) but my voice is too low so the teacher can't hear. My seat mate can, and often times, this seat mate repeats my answer, gets the teacher's attention and gives the credit to him.
It happened to me many times. I should work to make my voice louder and clearer. The problem is my voice becomes low because I'm not very sure of my answer. My seat mate seems to have more confidence in my answer than I am, so he repeats it.
"Hey!" i told my seat mate(by the way, he's my boyfriend, he's got this habit of copying my oral answers) to warn him that i was getting pissed of the fact that he got the praise as having the correct answer instead of me.
haha, it's kinda funny, yet annoying.
have you ever experienced this? Maybe not in class, but maybe other people stole your idea and marked it as their own. Then they got credit for it. It happens in the real world, whether we like it or not.
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25 responses
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
Your boyfriend is not encouraging you but he steals something from you which is your character. Instead of uplifting your confidence and teach you how to do it since he knows how as he steals it from you, he makes it a point to keep it up that way as he benefits from your very soft voice. He does not care for you,he is selfish, ooops am I hurting you,sorry friend if it flows that way. Even if he is your boyfriend,you must also think and put it in a way that he is your future partner,married to him probably. He should help you bring out the best in you. He should be first your teacher,your mentor,adviser, etc.
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
It is your bad
, sorry I have viewed him that way. You know, It is just that I do not want sleeping beauties to be always pretending asleep if they have a boyfriend that is taking advantage of other's weaknesses. You know him well than I do and of course I believe you.
, sorry I have viewed him that way. You know, It is just that I do not want sleeping beauties to be always pretending asleep if they have a boyfriend that is taking advantage of other's weaknesses. You know him well than I do and of course I believe you.@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
haha, slow down, macay. No he's not like that, if he was i would have dumped him already. if he becomes somewhat closer to someone who would do such kind of things, i would warn him and spank him.
Hmm, he actually acts as my teacher, mentor and adviser (especially on making money)
i didn't mean to let that matter make him come out as a bad person, it was probably because i didn't write it well.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
yes, it was my bad. 
hehe, i wasn't clear enough in my post, so it would seem that the folks who have read it thought of something inaccurate.
anyway, yes, there are boyfriends who take advantage of their girlfriends.
when i was in highschool there was this delinquent who courted the smartest girl in class, the girl was so in love with him, she would do all his homework for him after a few months, the girl's grade decreased and the guy didn't care. it was horrible, since then, i promised myself i wouldn't be like that girl. so when i had a boyfriend, i would help him a little but still got good grades. when we broke up, my grades were topnotch, haha, i wonder how i did that...
hehe, i wasn't clear enough in my post, so it would seem that the folks who have read it thought of something inaccurate.
anyway, yes, there are boyfriends who take advantage of their girlfriends.
when i was in highschool there was this delinquent who courted the smartest girl in class, the girl was so in love with him, she would do all his homework for him after a few months, the girl's grade decreased and the guy didn't care. it was horrible, since then, i promised myself i wouldn't be like that girl. so when i had a boyfriend, i would help him a little but still got good grades. when we broke up, my grades were topnotch, haha, i wonder how i did that...
@Mashnn (4501)
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23 Nov 11
It happened to me sometimes in my college days. I wrote a case for my presentation and come up with a unique idea. From that time, every one who used to do a case, would just copy and try to edit something to his or her own. It just not right to steal ideas from others.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
that's right, aren't they supposed to be arrested for that? the time that happened to me, i decided to keep my ideas a secret from others and reveal it at a good time where no one could get the chance to gain the credit that was supposed to be mine!
@Mashnn (4501)
•
27 Nov 11
You know those are the same people who are your friends. You just don't want someone to end up in jail and blame you for the rest of his or her life. The reality is even if you copy other ideas or work, when it comes to doing the main exam or answering some trick questions, you will be alone to do it, so it doesn't help in any way. You better try to make the f.......ng brain work early enough.
@UmiNoor (4523)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 11
I guess you minded the fact that your boyfriend got the credit for stealing your answers. If you feel strongly about that then you should raise your hand to answer the teacher's question and not say it out loud so that your boyfriend can hear your answer. Perhaps, your boyfriend is taking advantage of your shyness to speak up and thought that you're giving the answer to him to say it to the teacher.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
Oh my god, what have i done? no no, my boyfriend is not like that, he's just like a robot at times who repeats my answer. it wasn't such a big deal, but it was a little annoying. hehe... 
um, he never took advantage of me. in fact, i'm the one who took advantage of him on other matters and he knows it, and he is willing to give me the advantage. i do the same for him on this one. i just wanted him to come up with his own answers so that he will learn too.
um, he never took advantage of me. in fact, i'm the one who took advantage of him on other matters and he knows it, and he is willing to give me the advantage. i do the same for him on this one. i just wanted him to come up with his own answers so that he will learn too.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
hahaha...
i have ever felt something like that also.
i get a good idea for my company and want to say it to my leader. befor i do that i discuss my answer to my partner about my answer, try to get his opinion.
but,after give opinion, he take my answer as his answer.
really annoying thing.
he said it on the meeting with staff in my company and he get a reward.
it really make mad and so angry.
but after he got reward he come to me and give me some.
it can calm me but it is still annoying.
i dont want something like this happened to me again.
i have ever felt something like that also.
i get a good idea for my company and want to say it to my leader. befor i do that i discuss my answer to my partner about my answer, try to get his opinion.
but,after give opinion, he take my answer as his answer.
really annoying thing.
he said it on the meeting with staff in my company and he get a reward.
it really make mad and so angry.
but after he got reward he come to me and give me some.
it can calm me but it is still annoying.
i dont want something like this happened to me again.@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
at least you learned something, be faster though. you still deserve to be given credit for your idea.
as mark zuckerberg said: 'they came up with an idea, i just came up with something better'
@champoy186 (1638)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
I also experienced that during my high school days. I was not confident that time to answer my teacher's question. Somebody heard me saying an answer. Then she repeated it. I was get mad because she has stolen my answer. The credit should be given to me. After that incident, I always say my answer louder.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
haha, until now i still couldn't answer the teacher loud enough. i have this small voice that's impossible to hear sometimes. that's why i'm bad at presentations and class reports, it's unfair, it's not my fault i have this voice, i was born with it. i tried to shout one time, but my voice sounded awkward and shaky.
@champoy186 (1638)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
That's so funny. Lol. I guess you need to improve your voice to make it sound louder. I know you can have better grades if they can hear you clearly. Have a nice day my friend!
@aimhrea (181)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
bleagh. this reminds me of that time i was so pissed with my classmate.
we're in grad school so you'd think people would be more mature and all. we were doing a group project:this guy, my friend, and myself. we had to consult with our prof regarding the project but before doing so we discussed what to do, problems we have to deal with, etc. the guy was just echoing whatever me and my friend were saying, hardly contributing anything to the discussion (actually he was more like adding confusion to the whole lot of it).
off we go to our professor, and this guy does a 180. he began talking animatedly and we're raising all the salient point me and my friend stated when we were doing the pre-consult. worse, he made it out as if it was him who figured all the answers and we were the ones who were confused about what to do. -_-
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
evil me: i could lend you this 'axe' to use on that mean person. Oops! hhee
Anyway, that person is so pretentious. I wonder how he could stand himself for being like that? agh...
Anyway, that person is so pretentious. I wonder how he could stand himself for being like that? agh... @Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
people who are more or less like that guy just happen to appear in our lives, eh? -sigh- i see, it made me remember this old teacher i don't like and the whole class feels the same way. we had to go with whatever he said because he is the one who are writing down our grades.
@aimhrea (181)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
the thing is, he's already my mother's age so its like programmed in me to be as respectful and tolerant to him as much as possible. he was again my classmate in another subject last sem, and he's still like. thankfully, we're not in the same class this term or else i think my patience would run out :P
@derek_a (10874)
•
24 Nov 11
I an understand your frustration and often felt it myself when I was in school, not having a very loud voice and as you, in those days, I wasn't very sure of myself or whether or not I got the right answer. I suddenly began to see that education was not really a competition, even though there are many who would say it is, but in reality, it is not. It is for learning and getting approval for what I had learned came through exams and not competition in the classroom.
As as an adult, and now a Zen practitioner, I can see quite clearly that cometitiveness is a function of the ego that only wants to win. And what if I do win? I may feel smug for a while, but then that would just be more ego stuff. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter. I am what I am and my choice is just to go through life looking within myself in meditation, for that is where all my answers truly lay.. 
_Derek
_Derek@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
hmmm, because of competition we forget about the whole learning point. I understand. But competition can be good also, it makes us want to perform better, being smug about it is bad so it's this smugness after winning that we need to remove. I have been practicing this attitude not to get too upset about this and just move on, though it pisses me off if people keep stealing from me. hehe
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
it's alright bing.
He didn't do it on purpose anyway. as i have stated above, it's a habit of his. his voice is bigger so he's lucky.
watch out for those credit grabbers! some do it for their own selfish desire to be acknowledged and for their own benefit, some do it to help the one who answered be heard.
He didn't do it on purpose anyway. as i have stated above, it's a habit of his. his voice is bigger so he's lucky.
watch out for those credit grabbers! some do it for their own selfish desire to be acknowledged and for their own benefit, some do it to help the one who answered be heard. @airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
A pleasant day Aja103654,
Well, that thing was also happened to me only in different situation. That, there is one instance in our office, that I have told an idea to my officemate on how to process our work faster. I want to suggest it to our boss but I am quite afraid to divulge it, because our boss does not accepts any idea at all to his subordinates. However, one day, I was surprised, that, this colleague of mine talk to our boss in private. And I was astonished on what she did. After that, suddenly our boss announced to give our congratulatory remarks to this colleague as she was able to thinked of a way how to facilitate our paper works faster. Indeed, I really feel upset. It was like there is a volcano that will erupt inside my heart during that time. I just prayed for it hard, that, one day she will realized what she did to me was like being a traitor. That she steal me idea.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
that mean girl! well, don't be afraid to share your ideas to your boss next time. there will be other opportunities for you. that girl was thick enough to tell the boss herself. people can be like that, be careful about sharing your ideas to people especially if that idea will be your key to promotion and other good things.
@Abello (68)
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
That is the sadness of being too shy or your voice is too low to say things out loud. Well, it is only recitation, perform very well on written exams, one fine day your hidden talent would be noticed, on that given moment.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
hi there, abello. hmmm, i'm quite good at written exams so teachers at least are aware of how much i know. nowadays, i try to be gutsy even if my answers are wrong, sure it's embarrassing, but at least i'm participating. sometimes i return to this old routine though. -sigh-
@kyrararen (601)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
aww, that sucks. It happened to me ages ago when I was still in senior high school.only the different is, I kinda let my friend do it. so well, unlike you, I have pretty loud voice. so I can never really hmmm... how to put it, questioned myself or feeling any doubt, well, I did have that but my teachers never noticed it since I have quite loud voice and it made them convinced. hahaha. sometimes I came up with unique idea though that I wouldnt let out to my teacher and instead share it to my friends. why I did that? I dunno, maybe because at that time I think it;s not really nice to be on spotlight alone everytime. so I thought, have friend that got lots of credit, would save my quiet comfort zone.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
I get what you mean. though you should step up sometimes. it would be tougher when you are competing.
@gaea23 (252)
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
I'm grinning as I read your discussion. In your case, maybe you should maximize your self-confidence, your voice is enough when you will just raise your hand and the teacher will recognize you then you will say your answer. Though you have low voice, your teacher will still hear it when you are acknowledge. Just try it for yourself, don't think of boyfriend not getting praises this time, anyway he was praised already and got credits previously. It's time for you to get out from the shadow. Whether you have the right or wrong answer, teachers give credits to those who participate in the class.
@gagagaohlala (294)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
I have been in the same situations but later I realized that it feels good sharing something even at the expense of passing the credit to others, which in fact, you knew, they knew, that it should be yours. Before I was so compulsive of it but in the long run, as I grew up more maturely, credits don't really matter. What is more important is that you know deep inside that it was your idea, from your very creative mind and the posers and copy-ers know that too. I also have made some artworks and poetries that are copied online and they claim it as theirs, call it plagiarism, I hate it, I abhor those culprits, but in the end, there is nothing you can do because they have already done it. So just credit yourself for the job well done, and I know and you know that He up above has credited you ten folds.
God bless!
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
it's okay to share, but as much as possible, it would be better that they would point at us and thank us for the idea we have shared, not take them as their own idea. you ought to stop posting your poems online, there are many plagiarist on the internet. it's easy to copy and paste, then announce they own it.
@dellessimon45 (710)
• United States
25 Nov 11
There's this one jackass in my lab class who know he's annoying and no one ever tells him he is because he's the jock-type.
So we had an intense lab that took 5 classes from start to finish to build and test our scientific creations. I did most of the creation but the math was a headache! I stayed up back to back nights perfecting it until it was beautifully laid out and solved!
Since he had done none of the other work, and he was quite popular amongst the class, the other two lab partners randomly decided that he could get credit for the math! I mean what the heck!
The math got the highest points in the rubric and since he was considered on the math team, he got extra credit points! That's ridiculous and it angered me!
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
eh? how could that be? he never did any work why did he get the credit?
hand him a difficult math problem and see if he could solve it, that p****, why do jocks have to be popular and glorified all the time? i don't get it. sure, they are good at playing but why give them credit for something they have not worked on? those other two lab partners have the IQ of a -insert any brainless thing- to have come up with such an idea.
sorry, that story also made me angry. hehe.
@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Hi!
This is something we have in common. I've experienced this already so many times when I was still in college. I'm sure but not confident with my answers and when somebody voiced out my answer, they get the credit. And yes, even at work, when I share my ideas about something like this or that, somebody who loves attention and praise would then stole my idea and mark it as her own. People would congratulate her, cheers for her while she blushes and accepts the applause, hehehe. Funny, but I do love sharing my brain or ideas with those who really need them, not to the arrogant ones.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
It's fine to share ideas to benefit the group. it's not good when others say it's their idea. I would like to see them try and prove it, see if they can come up with something better.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
27 Nov 11
heh this is fun :D
Well i mean i just think that girls are that way :P I mean use lower voice normaly and when not sure you cant almost hear them , well boys are a bit different we use loud voice almost all the time and well about the unswering - You might care if its Right or Wrong , but we dont . We most of the time dont know it and if someone throws us something even if its wrong we say it :)
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
29 Nov 11
It happened to me in one of my jobs, there was a partner that used to go to my area to ask me questions about what I am program for a specific date where we had to present our ideas to the boss, so I used to tell her my ideas and by the time that I have to presnt my ideas I notice that she already presented my deas like her ideas,so she tooks all the credit of my job.
After that I learnt and always told her that I didn't have anything in mind.
,so she tooks all the credit of my job.
After that I learnt and always told her that I didn't have anything in mind.
@LaraTecson (726)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Why don't you just raise your hand before answering? Don't mind if your answer is correct or not, at least your teacher would know that you are exerting effort in her class and with that, she could give you a high grade.
I used to be like you when I was in high school and I hate the feeling of my classmates reciting my answer as if they thought of it and they get higher recitation points. They don't even thank me for the ideas I unintentionally give them! So now in college, I don't just whisper answers in my seat, instead I voice it out, tell everyone of my opinion. It feels amazing when you are able to share the class part of your knowledge especially when your professor agrees with you.
I used to be like you when I was in high school and I hate the feeling of my classmates reciting my answer as if they thought of it and they get higher recitation points. They don't even thank me for the ideas I unintentionally give them! So now in college, I don't just whisper answers in my seat, instead I voice it out, tell everyone of my opinion. It feels amazing when you are able to share the class part of your knowledge especially when your professor agrees with you. @Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
yep, but at times i forget to raise my hand. LOL. the answer is quicker to think and say, i usually mumble my answer before i could even think to raise my hand. hahahah...
that's amazing, Lara. show your classmates that you deserve all that credit!!! 
@bewitchingmelody (366)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
I feel your pain. I was also a shy type so I usually answer in my seat them some classmate would repeat it and he or she gets the recognition. In group works also, I could say that I was one of those who put a lot of effort but since I don't like to become the leader of the group, the leader gets all the credit even if she doesn't do much of the group work. I actually feel robbed every time someone gets credit for my work. I wish I could sue them from robbery or plagiarism especially when it comes to written group works. Hehehehh.. ;)
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
That leader is annoying eh? getting all the credit when she isn't even intellectually capable of that written stuff you wrote for the group. don't worry about it, Bmelody. Wherever you are people will know what you are capable of and admire you for it. those who steal your ideas wouldn't last long alone. hehe
@jane1974 (23)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Hi Aja..I absolutely experienced it before in my work place.. I shared ideas with my colleagues especially during the making of the weekly report which to be presented to the owner of the company where I was connected with..What happened during the meeting was that she included some of my ideas into her report and got the credit and praise...what was left of me... was nothing to be proud of and of course in the eyes of the owner..I was useless and wasn't able to contribute for the betterment of the company. It hurt so much....
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
it's a competitive world we live in, those who are quick(even those who steal) can succeed at times. I think you are worthy, because in the future, you would be able to come with ideas still. That person should have given you the credit, often times they don't. Maybe you ought to keep it secret? it's a group work so it's expected that the ideas are from the other people in the group mixed together.
