"Life Begins at the end of your comfort zone"

United States
November 23, 2011 8:51am CST
I heard this phrase said and i thought I must have Never lived or worse I should have never been born! If I am not comfortable , I freeze or walk away. So to be deemed alive means I Have to not be comfortable then kill me now! I'm wasting space! Every time I " Go For It" I am comfortable enough to do so. Or I wouldn't do it. How about you?
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
23 Nov 11
Odd saying. I think life is both comfortable and uncomfortable just depending on the day and your mood.
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• United States
23 Nov 11
Being American I love the idea of The Pursuit Of Happiness. And ever since I can remember I have done that. I would and Still say No if someone wanted me to do something I Know I can't do. At least my no these days does not mean No I Can't live , Just no.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
23 Nov 11
Yep pursuite of your happiness no else because not every day is going to be a happy day but you'll make the best of it. Like life is evey perfect?
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• United States
24 Nov 11
I have lived more Perfect days than I can count. Days where you swear you are dreaming. I have lived days that make movies seem made up! So yes life Can be perfect.
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@joni1215 (394)
• United States
23 Nov 11
This expression is not to say that one has not lived up to that point. What it is saying that true living means expanding beyond your comfort zone. Pushing yourself to be more and do more. I think fear is what makes people freeze or walk away. One has to determine what it is they are afraid of. Is it the actual task or what it might bring if successful. One has to also change their belief system and realize that it does not mean one is a failure if they don't complete the task. And one also needs to remove certain words from their vocabulary like "failure", "defeat", "winning" or "losing". All of those words create certain pictures in our minds that effect us. One might think why not keep the "good" words. but, that is not a good idea because if that is not accomplished then the opposite comes into mind and makes us feel bad about ourselves. Life is not about winning or losing, it's about the path along the way.
• United States
24 Nov 11
But this means I'm not living or lving a false life Just because I prefer to Only do what I can do well. It isn't a fear of failure , I always looked upon myself as a failure already. It is a lack of desire to even try. Why should I Have to try these things So I can live? I have always been rteady to die instead. so this failure will soon be no more I suppose. Let's say the mistake will be erased.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Nov 11
the expression actually means, you don't give up, you don't settle for what makes you comfortable, you challenge yourself and take your self to knew heights that you never dreamed comfortable, that is truly living, being the best you can be, doing things you never thought you were able to do but you did it once you got out of your comfort zone and that experience can be truly exhilarating, making you feel proud of yourself and all the things you can do that you never thought you could do before.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 Nov 11
sarah don't talk like that it is just an expression, very few people push themselves like that when you think of the world population. You are no different than anybody else and you are just as important as everybody else
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• United States
24 Nov 11
You think so?
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 Nov 11
of course I do, I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it
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@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
23 Nov 11
Hi Sarah...i never heard anything like this... Whatever it may mean, you certainly have the right to walk away, if you're not comfortable... & I don't see anything wrong with that... Why should we be somewhere where we're not feeling good??? Who said that quote, anyhow???
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• United States
23 Nov 11
An "Expert" on a new show coming in January. It was on a commercial. And it didn't seem correct to me.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
24 Nov 11
Sarah, I confess to like living within my own comfort zone. I will only leave it if I'm convinced it's necessary, and then I don't necessarily like it. It seems the important thing is to know who you are, what your values are, and then learn not to worry about how others view them or you. As long as you obey the law you should be able to do as you see fit within your own values and goals. If you are offered an opportunity to grow in a certain area of life and you don't want to, you might miss something someone else might value, but if you don't value it, just enjoy your life on your own terms as long as it doesn't harm someone else.
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• United States
24 Nov 11
Thanks my Friend. I have been reading how this saying Is true. and all I could say to that is my life is worthless, I am not living and I should stop and soon. Whatever I do won't matter. And then I get to your post and I feel so much better. What is funny , I had more insight about what I will and will not do as a10 year old than now. back then it was music and school work. Whenever I got to something I Couldn't do, I Didn't do it, period. Averaging in a F was the thing to do. But back then I just assumed I was already a failure so I could do what I wanted. I think I will go back to that. Like deeming myself damned so I can practice my religion the way I want without interference from the ultra devout. I'll do the same with the leave your comfort zone Sh!t! Thanks. I'm back to that 10 year old. She was cool!
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• United States
24 Nov 11
Are you sure? She wouldn't speak to you, even if you spoke to her. She would just look away and wait for you to leave.She Knew not to speak because no one would listen.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
24 Nov 11
I think I would have enjoyed meeting that ten-year-old.
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24 Nov 11
It just simply means that life is in constant forward movement, and if you just stay in one place for a long time, then it is you are either stuck or you refuse to grow. Life is maturity, it goes on every day. maturity tells us to do things that we are not comfortable of doing, but you do it anyway, because it benefits you and the people around you ... especially the ones you care about and who care about you. For example, i hate cleaning the house, i hate to cook, do laundry, or any other housework, but i do it anyway ... not because it is my obligation as a wife and mother ... but because i want to create a better environment for myself and for my family. I can sit in front of my pc the entire day and play with my boys ... but hey i need to get rid of dustmites too ... and prepare food to feed my loved one. ... this is life for me.
• United States
24 Nov 11
I will never be mature then And I Should have killed myself when I was 18 as planned. That way me " being Stuck" wouldn't effect the others around me.I said as much but no , my mom wanted me to live Why? I still didn't mature . So I'm correct I am a waste . I Refuse to marry and have kids so there is no one to benefit from this maturity you talk about. I knew this way back then And Still she wanted me to live Why? It makes no sense.
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• United States
25 Nov 11
So as long as I a, loved , my life has worth? Ok! my guy loves me so I'm good.
24 Nov 11
I see there's still someone there who cares for you. i believe that is the reason why you're still alive. the purpose of our existence is to be able to help one another. but if you can't do that ... then at least don't hurt them. that's what i have learned from the dalai lama. it makes sense to me.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
24 Nov 11
Well...I am in a comfort zone now....took a while...but I'm pretty settled. Sometimes I feel that thing..whatever it is...inside that makes me want to do something wild and different but it is no stranger to me. It has been there for a long long time. There are different levels of comfort I think and if I could have lived in one...I don't think I would have chosen it. That nasty drive has given me understanding that I would have never had before. The thing is Sarah is that you didn't need that to know who you are and what you thought about things. You already knew and you were already open and understanding to things that I might have needed the "experience" to really get. You are very much alive and born with a gift that people who are always trying to go out of their comfort zone is looking for. Take care.
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• United States
25 Nov 11
Wow! Thanks. So people are searching and going out of their comfort zone to find something? That is why they have this drive? I guess I wasn't born with it.Or like yu said. I Was born with that piece of mind. That is why I Never fitted in.That is why I don't understand this need. Thanks.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
25 Nov 11
Thanks for the best response! That is why I have always left my comfort zones..I needed to know or there was something I was missing. Maybe I wasn't even in a comfort zone at all and was trying to find one. I can imagine how tough it has been seeing everyone run around like a chicken with their heads cut off and your thinking what the heck are they doing?" "Why do they need to do that?"
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
26 Nov 11
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
1 Dec 11
You know that time when you're put in a place of comfort (for example, just sitting in a shade when it's hot out, or in a beach looking at the waves, etc.), and you say to your self 'Ahhh! This is life!'....? I think this saying contradicts this feeling!
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• United States
1 Dec 11
And if that is what life is suppose to be like , then kill me now! I Want to be comfortable.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
24 Nov 11
Hi behen Not sure what that "comfort zone" means as I find it subjective. Today, when I am ill, I feel more secure and safe when I am in my comfort zone. Maybe I can try to find something within the boundaries of my comfort zone as I believe that everything looks different when viewed from a different perspective and I am open to looking things differently. When things were all okay, I dared to venture beyond that zone and try to find new ways, new knowledge and what not... I think, the above statement is not that wrong but will seem to fit with only a few.
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• United States
24 Nov 11
Hi Bhai. I hope you feel better real soon. I assume the comfort zone she was talking about is the routine many like me strive for. Each day at work I know mostly what will happen and I love that. But to her you Must Want to break that to Really live. To that I say no , kill me now. I'm only wasting space. My life will Never have any worth.
@ohid2u (145)
• Bangladesh
29 Nov 11
Of course its an universal truth,whenever you are in comfort,you dont feel the life,when it ends you will meet the real life
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• United States
29 Nov 11
Then everything I do is meaningless. Everything I want or do is nothing. I should disappear. I will never meet real life.