would you leave your spouse if you caught him cheating?????

I would leave him, that's for sure. Once a cheater always a cheater. As for the kids, well, what I can I say, he is always going to be the father, I can't change that. I just hope that my kids will be able to forgive their father and have a relationship with him. We are all human and make mistakes, but we must live with the consequences. If he was a predator, I would never let him near the kids, but if he cheated on me, he would have to explain that to the kids, and at least try to maintain a relationship with the kids.

I think you should talk things through carefully specially if there are children involve. Your chilren will be the ones that would suffer more. If you can go to counselling to save your marriage, much better. Try to be more honest to your partnet and argue if there is something that needs to argued about. That way you can resolve the issue before it gets worse.

I am the type to insist on counseling because if he wanted to cheat one or both of us has a problem. Probably both.

I have alwas felt that a person can make a mistake...once. If my husband were to cheat on me, I would probably do my best to get through it and remain together, but only if he were truly remorseful and was willing to work through it just as much as I was. If it then happened a second time, well, that is no longer a mistake. In that instance, I would leave him and move on with my life. I have been through a divorce, and it was not easy a all, not for me and not for my kids either. However, it would have been much worse for my kids to grow up in an environment where they knew that he was doing something wrong. Or in an environment that was constantly full of tension and mistrust. If there is one thing that I have learned, it is that two people should never try to stay together just because there are kids involved. Kids will grow up much happier knowing that both parents are happy than they would in a household where there is constant unrest. Would I "make him pay"? No. There is no use, in my mind, to hold onto those bitter feelings. To do that is to allow that person to regain control over you, and the truth of the matter is, the more we hold onto bitterness with the thought of getting even or making them pay for their mistakes, the worse we feel and the harder it is for us to move forward in life. I know that I was not and am not willing to allow my ex-husband to have any control over how I feel each day.

As much as it would break my heart if he did this to me I don't think I would leave. I think we would get some help and figure out where things went wrong. It would be very hard to trust again and it would make things really tough but I don't think I could just throw away all of those years of hard work to make a marriage work. Plus of course the children would not understand and it would make things tough on them. I would try my hardest to stay and work it out. Easier said then done of course...

If I found my spouse/husband cheating me I can't forgive him, but...we will no longer be live together it is not easy for me to have a spouse or a husband doing that. I want to live in a peaceful and honest relationship. What can a love do if a spouse cheated you, there is no longer love on it. And if there are children involves, it might give trauma to the children I will do separate her/him immediately for the sake of the children because how can they grow without criticisms what will be their lives ahead of them, it can't be denied because in that kind of situation it is publicly be well known. For me, It is the best way decession. But... if you really love her to the max and you will die if you will lost her better for you not to separate her just chew all your pride. God bless you and have a nice day!!!!

I don't know if you're asking for general opinion, man or women, but I'll share my opinion with you anyways. Me, as a man, hipotetically could also encounter that possibility of my partner cheating on me, what would I do in such case I found out about it? Of course I would leave her, she is not worth it, can't trust her, what could she do next? give me an STD? You mention in the case there are children involved, I would still not want to continue being with her, and if possible would try to legally take the children from her. It sounds verys simple, I guess it would not be on a real life situation, but I'm not the type of person that is dependent from his partner, I wouldn't mind falling and getting up again, I have dignity, respect and as such I expect respect from people specially who is suppose to be the one I trust the most.

hi bjc66bjc If I found out I wo uld file for divorce and child support because once a cheater always a cheater. honesty,respect trust and love are the four pillars of a great marriage when dishonesty hits the one pillar collapses then trust goes so the second pillar falls so its time to say sayonara good bye and dont let the door hit you on the way out. I could no longer trust or respect the person who lied to me and said he loved me. If you love someone you do not cheat on them ever no matter what

It's difficult to say, as I've never been in that situation. But I'd probably insist on some counseling. It's hard to say what I'd do, but it's probably something that I would try to do before doing anything else. But it's just one of those situations to say what you would do unless you've experienced it.

Well being cheated is one of the hardest thing to accept in marriage. However, in marriage we should always do everything to preserve the marriage even in the midst of toughest trial such as this. So I will not just give up my husband just like that. If I found my spouse to be cheating (I'm glad this has not really happened!), then the best that I could do is not to leave him but rather to get rid of the mistress by all means. I am the legal wife so it's the mistress who should be eliminated and I'd do that by all means as I said. Now if my husband will not cooperate then this means he really does not love me anymore so that is the only time I'd go for separation. But no I am not going to leave, he should be the one because he is the unfaithful one so he should leave and not me.

I live by the Golden Rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If I have gone into a committed relationship with someone and set down a household, had children and believed in this person then if he were to cheat on me I would leave. I feel that I, for one, should think of myself as a roll model for my children. I would never want them to think for one minute that this type of behaviour is alright. I have never cheated on anyone and I never will. I expect the same.

If he cheats on you, you should leave him. Soon all later your kids will understand that is better than them growning up seeing a cheating parent that can be confusing. Me being a man if I caught my woman cheating its all over, cheating is a lack of respect for the person you are with.

Hello bjc66bjc, I don't know what will i do if it happens with me in future but more likely i would leave her as its no point to carry the burden of relationship when your partner is not faithfull.I know it would be a tough decision for the kids as they would loose father/mother which are important in life but anyhow the custody of kids in that case is to be given to the partner who is true and the compensation terms to be decided by the court but live under one roof with a partner who cheated is not possible for me under any circumstances.

hi:) maybe I will do the same as yours if I'm in that situation, for two reasons, first for the children and second to make him realize that what he did to me was very wrong and he needs to face the consequences.

This is good topics,well, i will be hurting,pain crying,hpow this happen to me. I hate,and can forgive that kind of man if he do it to me.. But i will be angry,fight.. maybe i stay away,live and make my oown work..

It makes me think a lot bj, I love my husband so much and i am so dependent of his love.If that will happen to us,him cheating on me,I think i cant make it,it will tear me to pieces. Maybe ill give him another chance and be careful next time,He may have reason in doing so,so i need to find out if i have lack something in our relationship.I believe that there is a reason for everything.And he will not do that without any reason..I'll try to do anything to make him love me more than other girls so he wont have a chance to do such again.