Did you ever doubt yourself???

I often felt this back when i was away from home and when i was living alone at our own home. :) Having no one by your side makes you feel alone and lonely. I tried to reach out to my friends for some company but most of them have their own busy lives. I pity myself and ask why no one seems to care. Doubts just overwhelmed me that i end up crying almost every night. Asking God why am I like this why am i in this situation. But i found out also that's there a lot of people living like me too. That woke me up and turned to God. Talking (praying) to HIM somewhat eased my pains and made me realize that I am lucky compared to others. I still have my family intact whom I can spend time any day i like if i wanted to. They are what i only got. Sometimes i'm making ends meet or live within my means. Financial or emotional i know i'm still lacking and not content but I'm trying my best to be happy. I know that day, when i'm much content, happy and apeace, will come. If you are like me who is loner and shy, why not try to expand your network like get involve in volunteers so we can meet other people. Keep in mind that you are not alone. We are worth it?Let's just be positive okay?

Yes I have doubted myself so many times too. But still there were times that I know I shouldn't be. I still feel that there are a lot of good things that may happen along the way. We never when could that be, but this thought somehow gives me the hope. You are still young. Many others are older than you who hasn't accomplished anything in their life at all. But they just enjoy their life and continue trying to reach their goals.

I can relate to those feelings. I can remember feeling like I was always going to be alone, that I would never be the woman that someone else really cared about, I would never be happy. The truth of it was, and still is, I have to/had to learn how to be happy with myself before anything or anyone else in the world will make me happy. I had finally resigned myself to a life of being a single Mom, and had finally become pretty comfortable with myself, and actually began to really enjoy myself and my life with my kids, when my husband literally showed up on my doorstep and turned my world upside down. I still have my moments, when we aren't quite getting along as well as we could, or things aren't going the way we planned for them to, or I feel as if he doesn't care to spend any quality time with me...I feel inadequate and lonely. Then, I have to remind myself that I need to love myself and be happy with myself because if I am not happy with me, how can I expect him to be? Hang in there. When you least expect it, your forever will walk right into your life.

Oh yes many times. I grow up with a very close person putting me down all the time and I still get over it, so I have a thousand reasons to not believe in myself and just one to: I learned how to create selfesteem, but sometimes I hear that voice again and I go down. Maybe I'll struggle for the rest of my life but I hope I will be better.

There are always moments for lonely thoughts, but they are just thoughts, let it remain in there. Don't put yourself in the shoes of minority or majority because in the vast world, we can never be sure which is which. Look at it in a positive way and say, it's equal. Number of loner, deserted and unhappy people are on par with, happy, attached people. Since it's a 50-50 chance, u can always jump to the other side of it, with a slight change of mood. Don't mind what others say about u, or how people look at u. U are u, the one and only U. Turn your gloomy self into a unique selling point, making yourself mysterious to others, allowing them the chance to try to explore u.

Living alone at all times could really be saddening. But then, it is up to you to make your life more colorful. You can opt to be friends with your neighbors or visit your family once in a while. They are the ones that makes life worth living for. Or perhaps you can opt to find someone who can share your life with. Believe me, when you finally find one, your life will always be happy. Though, i must admit it will not be always a bed of roses, but you can choose to make it happy.

I'm your polar opposite. I Never thought I was suppose to be happy. I always thought when I found myself happy , it was a mistake. I Never deserved to be happy.But a few years ago I was told and I Finally believed that I had worth and happiness Was suppose to be mine at times then I got to be really happy. You are worthy and yes you will be happy in time. Just hang in there.

I truly want to give you a push, pull, tug or drag...OUT of your "pit" of emotional depression...and council you to start looking at the good things? Can you see? Can you hear...smell...walk and talk? Please, please look around you...at those sooooo MUCH less fortunate..the man with the cane (white)..the lady with no shoes..the beggar pushing the cart, with all of his worldly belongings....Make today, the day, you make a difference...and stop wallowing in your recent lost love! How about today....be the day that you volounteer...to help those really LESS fortunate...and maybe you can appreciate what you have! I know I sound harsh, but I am thinking you do need that push!

I can certainly understand this feeling. I do sometimes doubt myself. I do have my moments from time to time. I wouldn't say that it happens all the time, but I do have my moments of doubt.

in answer to the question, i think everybody does, and so did I. i believe that each one of us doubts ourselves about some things in life one way or another. when it comes to relationships, it is not far that we will feel this, too. but one cannot go on doubting forever. one should work it out. realizing what triggers the doubt, one must have done something to gain confidence and move on. there is a question, my now 19 yr old son asked me once, "Ma, why do people think that single people, or those without a husband or a wife, or a partner, are not happy? I do not think it is true." contemplating on it, i think my son is right. happiness is a choice. even without a partner, one can be happy. one just have to choose what makes him happy.

Hi pearl, Doubting oneself is part of being human under any circumstances in life. It is a part of by product of experiences brought about by the situations of your life that affects you, your being..Meaning, these are things left unresolved and by correcting those doubts and apprehensions need more strength to overcome such and be cleared in one's state of mind. All of us are rubbish in this world, and continuously try to make a great part in this world by making our dreams come true that we opted since when we are child. Mostly, we are affected so much by the environment around us that gives us feelings to realize if we are really part of this or not? that is where doubt arises, especially when no one cared to understand the true side of us inspite of our efforts to be with them all this time of our life, not just to live but to survive as well. There is no such perfect place where we can go and say " IM happy in this place" all part in it may partly be compromised, and it is a matter of how to accept, adjust and give limitations to those things that will make you feel unhappy. IT is true that when we are a child, as we grow up there are lot false assumptions that we realized,Why it has to be of this kind now, but you know, these false assumptions may have a good effect in your life like giving you a descent and earning job to improve your life as well, also, on the other hand, some false assumptions may give a negative product at the end, however, I believe you are still lucky because your false assumptions, may have been false in reality but gave you a credit now in life. True people are very hard to find, this is when selection of friends comes along by giving yourself a limitation on how will you accept them and resolve them. Most people like us, when we are alone, having those times when we think of many things that only us can understand, mainly because, this is the time we can think of things over with no boundaries like work. A break time that for others may considered as nothing, but for us, a break time having a coffee is one of the most important moment we are able to really think about ourselves most rather other people. Yes you are really worth to be happy, contented in life, the most is Really worth to be a person. You also play a worth part together with us here at mylot.When nobody ever cares about us in our environment, in this site, you can feel that much more worth is given to you, because, the understanding of the real situation and shared experiences are good sources of helpful reliever. With those people your working now , They may not know you that far being a person, but, as far I know, a deeper and greater credit was given back to you because we are not physically part of your true environment, but we are part of your emotional being..So cheer up now..This is one of the answer as to where to find true people, people that will truly accept you in no conditions, hesitations and even n0 false assumptions ..

hi:) I also feel that way sometimes especially when I'm alone at my room, there are some things that I thought I deserve but can't have it, there are people that I try to please but I don't see the affection back, so when I feel like this I wrote this on my blog and then weigh the good and bad, and always comes out that I still have more things and people to be thankful of, than to feel frustrated in some things. so try this too, and cheer up:)

hi mr_pearl, I don't want to be optimistic but, you'll be happy someday don't worry. you just need something that would trigger that happiness inside of you:) For a happy go lucky guy like me, its very simple trigger my happines, drinking with friends, spending the holidays with the family, i even watch a movie by myself and i actually enjoyed it. Anything out of the blue, but of course all of this happens in my free time :) Look for the brighter things in life Mr_pearl, ligthen up and try to enjoy life. Have a good day

Being alone makes you feel lonely. Loneliness is one of life's most miserable experiences. Everyone feels lonely at times,but is there a message for us in loneliness?is there a way we can turn it into something positive?Sometimes loneliness is a temporary condition that departs in a few hours or a couple days. But when you're burdened with this emotions for weeks,months or even years, its a definitely telling you something. God's answer to loneliness is not the quantity of your relationship ,but the quality. How is your relationship with God? Is it close and intimate ,like that of a loving,caring father,and his child?Or is your relationship with God cold and distant,only superficial? As you reconnect with God and your prayers become more conversational and less formal,you'll actually feel God's presence. His reassurance is not just your imagination. We worship a God who lives among his people through the Holy Spirit. Loneliness is God's way ,first, of drawing us closer to him,then forcing us to reach out to other people. For many of us ,improving our relationship with other and letting them get close to us is a distasteful cure, as dreaded as taking your toothache to a dentist. But satisfying ,meaningful relationships take time and work. We're afraid to open up. were afraid to let another person open up to us. Friendship requires giving,but it also requires taking,and many of us would rather be independent. Yet the persistence of your loneliness should tell you that your past stubbornness hasn't worked either. If you muster the courage to restore your relationship with God, then with others, you'll find your loneliness lifting. This is not a spiritual band- aid, but a real cure that works. Your risks toward others will be rewarded. You'll find someone who understand and cares,and you'll find others who you understand and care about as well. Like a visit to the dentist,this cure turns out to be only final ,but much less painful than you feared ^^.