Love 2 girls and can't even choose one?
By llooll519
@llooll519 (108)
Portugal
November 24, 2011 8:53am CST
Hi!
I have a big problem... I love 2 girls, but i can't even choose one of them. I dated both, but now I have a relationship with one and I think I love the other one too... :(
What should I do? If I could have both, I really tried to "have" them... Please help me!
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9 responses
@llooll519 (108)
• Portugal
24 Nov 11
I know I know... :( Thats my problem! I really like them, and I dont want to hurt anyone or even make them suffer because of me... :(
@llooll519 (108)
• Portugal
24 Nov 11
Yes, they aren't... One of them have my age, the other less 2 years... I spend more time with one of them in the swimming pool, but I really dont know which may I choose... :( They are beautiful and really sweet for me, and I know, from secure source, that they like me and want to hang out with me... And I can realize that too...
Should I move to the next step with one of them, and see what happens? Or wait?
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
You can't have the two of them in your heart. You have to choose which one of them is really your love. Think about it a hundred times. If you have decided which one, please do tell the other one that your breaking up with her. I know it's hard to do but it is the right thing.
@llooll519 (108)
• Portugal
24 Nov 11
I'm affraid to do the wrong choice and ruine everything... :( I saw both everyday, and I think I couldn't live by "running" away from them... :|
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
What are you afraid of? No, it will not be a wrong choice. Yes, it will ruin since your relationship with the girls will change. If you will not tell them, probably you might lost the two of them. Do want to happen that? If I were you, I have to make a choice.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
25 Nov 11
You have to sit down and think about which girl you love more and stay with her. You shouldn't live with one , dreaming about the other. This must be hard. just follow your heart.
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
The truth is you cannot even choose one that is the real score. HOw come you are able to choose 2 girls when you cannot even choose 1? or any among them whom you have greater feelings? because you are in a confused stage of forcing yourself to chooser rather come to a point that either one of them will know the truth that you have 2 of them.
I suggest, that this time in your life is not yet the right time for you to be getting in a relationship. Clear first all your confusions by recalling all those things you have spent with both of them, and find those qualities they have that you also wanted to have in a relationship, IF again, the end is still both? then I guess your last option is to leave both of them, then once you have realized in yourself freely with no pressure who will be among them in your heart who has greater affection for you, then come back again to that girl. AT least you are able to select already in PROPER TIME.
When we want ourselves to be in a relationship, first of all, we must be sure of what we are entering especially in a relationship, we should take consider the feelings of the person whom we spent with life. For it is not only spending the relationship together, it is building the FOUNDATION OF THE RELATIONSHIP TOGETHER, Because, any person cannot be treated just like a playing cards to pick or gamble just like that, WE must take also the full responsibility to be fair, true and honest even in most the way we can so that if a relationship needs a closure, there gonna be not much regrets. When you say ," I think " it is not an assurance, just an assumptions right or the maybe? with no clear or final note right? so, It is good you are able to be aware of what you are up right now and the consequences gonna be, and now you can make actions clearly because you are aware already, regarding "WHO GONNA CHOOSE" it relies on you for you are physically, emotionally attached with them, the only thing we can give are advises from our opinions to give you clear understanding, but the moves? it is all yours..
I hope all our shared opinions will be of great help for you to understand, realized and start fixing this things ahead before gone to late ..
Wish you will able know what your heart really desires, either one of them or none of them, it does not really counts, what count is what will really make you happy and satisfied, choosing 2 at the same time will never give you satisfaction, it will just make your life in big trouble.
Thanks for sharing .. great time and goodlUCK
@umesh9889 (201)
• India
24 Nov 11
hiii....
Your problem is quite genuine... well all is up to you now, its you who have to decide... As per my opinion you have to choose one of them and leave the other one, because you should not cheat them, gals are not there to be cheated and fooled in love.. so ask to ur heart which one is you true love, choose that and leave the other one with respect.. thats the only true solution..
@llooll519 (108)
• Portugal
24 Nov 11
Probably you are right... :( And yes, I dont want to cheat anyone, or even hurt anyone, because we are good friends and I think the is no need to ruine a friendship because of that...
My heart "says" that I want something more with each one, but he can't decides... :|
@mrangelique (232)
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
So next time if you happen to overcome this, don't do this again to avoid hurting people, and on your free time kindly study the Kagebunshin technique. Lol.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
24 Nov 11
You've got to make a decision. Otherwise you will end up really hurting them. You have to decide which one has the qualities that you are looking for in the relationship. It's only far for all of you for you to pick one.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
25 Nov 11
If you don't know what to do, if you can not decide they are both not the one.
So you better break up with that girl you strangled.
If you meet the right one you know and you feel it.