My hubby just disappeared, so what?

I have a relative that is within the same condition as you. But she was already gave birth. The saddest thing is that the lazy-irresponsible man is never seen after the event. No anything from him and that my relative still waiting for him.And don't want to stop waiting for him as she said she's waiting for the sake of the kids.I doubt it is true that he will still come back, he's not worth to be waiting if i am in my relative shoes. As for you if you are thankful to be left, tell him directly if he will come back. That no need for him to stay. Be open and honest to the situation. Let him go so that your life will become worry and stress free life without him.

From your discussion, I can tell you tht you are a strong, harworking woman. Why do you need such a man anyway. Please just kick him off even if he comes back. He is just good for nothing anyway.

Hello cherriefic, I also think it was better for you that he left.But really its very bad for a man to leave his kids and wife when they all need him dearly. May be he was also frustrated and knew that he has been a burden for you and thought it would be beneficial for you if he leaves. I think you must not presume before getting it clarified why he left.

Go girl. You don't need that kind of man in your life. When he comes back just tell him that you don't need him anymore.

God Bless You, friend. I know how hard having a baby and a husband like that (thanks God mine is responsible). But you know what, I'm so proud of you, you have enough courage and fighting spirit to live your own and being independent. A husband like him should be given lesson. Maybe you should move into other house so he won't find you easily and I know you don't really have 100% peace of mind because even how hurt and how mad you are to him, in your heart you still care a little, the fact that he's the father of your children. Just always lean to God and asks God's strength, I know you can make it, girl.

Oh I am regretted that you had such a husband.You can live freely without him.But its also not easy to feed two babies.What will you do in future? Just be optimistic and stronger.Best wishes to you!

Oh, when i read the topic title i thought there is some worry still about what happened to him and what was wrong and why he did not come back. You are a very strong woman/person who obviously know how to handle things. Do not be worried when he comes back, you can always tell him he cannot stay with you anymore, etc. I think though you need to still acknowledge the fact that he is your children's father and even if you can live without him, you cannot deny that he is the father of your children. I wish you well and your kids too. Hope when your husband gets back, he already has changed and is willing to be the head of the family.

Good riddance that he left as there is no point of having a husband who is only a free rider but forget his responsibilities as a provider to his family. It is better to be a single parent and be happy with your roles in parenting than having to feed an extra mouth and setting a bad example to the kids having a jobless father who is good for nothing.

Hi Cherriefic, Welcome to Mylot! Your husband sounds like a typical jerk to be honest. I can understand why you wouldn't want him back in your life. It's hard to be a single parent and even harder when you have an adult that acts as a child himself. I understand your fear of him coming back but from what I'm reading here, you are a very strong woman. Just kick his butt to the curb and even if he comes back with a job. You are entitled to child support and if he is working you should push to make sure you get at least that from him. You should also get some legal papers drawn up regarding custody and child support. These can be done without a lawyer and it is important.

For me it is the life in you before you get married you think the many time if it is the man would be in my life then if you said yes then you fight it in your whole life totally.

Let me apologize first for asking this: Why did you marry him at the first place? Why did he leave? Sorry if this is a stupid question.

I am very sorry to hear that...:-( But I will not feel bad by hearing your news...Because you are a bright woman who have will power to protect your children..I like your character...I think that that men is not need for you...You can earn money and look your children...There will have some problems...But I think that you can handle it smoothly...We have to face some type of problems in life... You can enjoy by seeing your children's sweeeet smile....I don't know that why your partner did so....But I hate such people....If he have no ability to look his wife and children, Then why he decides to marry you ?????Really bad character....But you don't worry...We All are with you to share your feeling,happiness etc....Be happy please.........

LOL, you are funny...I don't see any reason he would want to return after being such a jerk..and I would think that you would be in control of letting him back or not..Now I am not saying h should not see his children, because that would be totally wrong..But as u stated who wants to live with a lazy-irresponsible husband...There are ways and means of supporting yourself and have a little piece of mind. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and good luck to you and the childern.

Your husband must be fed up. I don't know why he left you but I'm hoping for the best for your family. Hope he will come back as a responsible human being. =)