I just want to be happy with my mom, but situation pushes me to leave.

Hello, airasheila. I am a mother too and I also believe that it is best for my child to look for something that will make her productive because there will come a time that a child has to live on his/her own and that if we will be able to teach them to earn a living, then parents would be assured that when they leave their children, I mean if they will have to leave permanently, kids will be able to stand on their own without having to depend on somebody else. As in your case, I understand the pressure of being pushed to something that is not to your inclination like the office job. I guess you will have to talk with your mother and make her realize that you believe in what you do and ask for a time where you can find where your luck is. If you think that working online is what makes you happy, then I suggest you look for more ways that could earn you bigger earnings. I understand the happiness that you get from it because like you, I am an online worker too. But at the rate my earnings had been going, it is not enough. Luckily for me, I have a husband whom I depend on. So for now, equip yourself with all the experience you can get from the net. Then work your way up. Goodluck.

Let us accept that parents especially the mother always has the greater bearings to say, advise,comment, decide for us especially in this generation right now, where a lot options awaits for us to earn not just only in the office. I guess, you have to do something to convince your mom that the bad side of working in an office ,is you are paid but the deductions may also be close to your salary or even half. The only thing that differs is that you can or she can say an exact office to tell others when you work for a company.. Let her know you are trying your best to what she desire for you but really this work of you know is much comfortable for you that give you payments in no or much less deduction. Express her the advantages and disadvantages of both so she can understand that you made that smarter decision at the same time she is not worrying much like what happened those in other countries like in US world trade when we cannot predict what will happen next, in just work time, many lives were lost, so which among those she will gonna choose? and which is far more you like. I also agree that most of the pressures arising in a person are most from family oriented one's especially if crossing their likes and choosing your own choice. You are very kind- to understand your MOM, if only she knows the truth that you really miss her so much but it is her goal that is keeping you away from her. Very sad to know, but the advise I can give you is, try to do her suggestions then tell her that you tried and those effects of each so she will able to accept. You are in your right shoes now, but you do not want to suffer that much thinking those things for you are also thinking much greater future for them, it may be not now, but just wait till you able to recover from all of these stress. Do not feel bad about it, your mom reactions are normal in any other lives, sometimes we have to accept that some parents also not aware that they are in their denial stage to accept that their child can already manage their own life and decisions because they are also afraid loosing a child they always consider even already an adult, and thereby at least in her affection with you right now, it only shows that she really loved you so much and also do fear when loosing you and in office work she think? whatever happens to her, you are already secured. You know parents are more traditional than us, so there thinking may not be able to adapt new changes but when slowly explained then they will realize as everything if still fine no matter if work from office or at home. I wish things will be resolved and I pray for that too. Great day here at mylot

aurasgeuka Oh I feel for you a often parents do not understand freelancing but there is another side to this, do you help her with the expenses as this might be the sticking point? Does your mom work and is she actually sort of supporting you as sometimes to start out free lancing does not payt too well. I mean is she depending on your earnings at all? I am not saying do not freelance but am wondering if your money has noney problems and that is why'shy is pushing you to get a well paying job.another question if you are using your mom for room and board and she is not wo rking there is a money problem. I know you love what you are doing but a lot of woriters have had to work part time until they got establishes as a writer and made a good living. if you are using mom and home to pay your rent and board while you make a very modest amount of money you really are not being fair to your mom. sure any of us when young would love to free lance and have room and board free but life does not work like that. if your mom is retired she probably is having money problems, Iwould not be happy either if I had bills of the home staring me in the face and no ghelp from anyone.While you may be happy if waht you make and sghe has to not pay the bills you are g oing to have to wor k parttime and free lance on the side,,if your mom has enough money to payh all the bills I would get a place of my own and freelance to my hearts content.