What kind of friend do you need?
By kkanaka
@kkanaka (886)
Singapore
November 24, 2011 9:02pm CST
I feel like asking this question, because I try to look for a true friend whenever I go to a new place or talk to a new person in my workplace or my neighbor or anywhere else even when I am traveling.
Sometimes we meet people who don't talk to you at the very first time or even when we meet them a few times they don't open up.
Some people ask you personal questions on the very first time, you feel bowled over.
Some people talk too much - their conversation will always tend to insult some other people or saying something bad about others or the system or about work - whatever it is they talk only negative things.
I don't like to gossip about people, I don't like to get too personal in a conversation, I just like to have common simple conversations which will not hurt anyone.
Nowadays it is very hard to find a person who can be pleasant to talk to and don't seem to criticize anyone but still manage to make a good conversation.
How do you feel about all this? Do you also try to search for a true friend in anyone new you meet?
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22 responses
@ferbjohn69 (1127)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
What friend do I want?
That's I nice question.
I want a friend who plays yugioh.If someone plays that game,I am sure we can be friends so easily.:)
I need a friend who wants to talk about science.
I want a sensible friend.
I need a loyal friend.
I need a friend who understands me.
I need a friend who can criticize my deck.:)
@ferbjohn69 (1127)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
Yeah.It is hard to find someone who wants to talk about science a lot,but it is worth the search if you find one.You will never be bored being with them if you also love talking about science.:)
@m4gin00 (120)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
i am always looking for a real fried...that someone who helps you at hard moments of your life and doesn't let you go...someone that is not only there at happy moment but also at bad times...someone that will help you even just in their small and simple way...thats a true friend is...
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
25 Nov 11
Honest friends, ones you can trust. because of a few big disappointments in my past to do with best friends I think honesty and trust is the most important things in a friendship, I don't ask for perfection in other ways just the honesty part.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
28 Nov 11
I need a true friend. A friend who has the friendship unconditionally, without only talking or seeing me when they want something. Friendships aren't one side, they are two sided. I want a friend who is positive and only speak of negative things when they are struggling with something and not intentionally say negative things to hurt someone. I dont actively search for a true friend, its something that kind of just happens.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
i don't know, it's kinda hard to tell.. but one thing for sure, she/he must be patient. i have this attitude that i myself cant even describe it hahaha..
well, i can name characters i dont like. hehehe.. i have so many things i dont like to be honest.
im used to being on my own almost all the time so i dont really mind this kind of stuff. but if asked, patient.
@pebblez8989 (321)
• United States
28 Nov 11
i need me a good friend that would give me some good advice. that is always there for me, and that is funny. but now and days i only have friends that are always talking bad about other people and fighting for stupid little things.
@GemmaR (8517)
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25 Nov 11
The most important thing to take into consideration when you're thinking about the type of friend that you might want is the fact of whether the two of you would be able to get the balance right between giving and taking from the relationship. You have to be there for each other whenever you're needed. It isn't as simple as just that, because sometimes you will need help and at other times your friend will just need you to listen to them instead. The best friends will be able to get this balance right, so it certainly is of great importance to be able to do this.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Nov 11
I don't particularly go looking out for new friends. Acquaintances or new people that I meet often don't match the criteria for a good friend. And number one is that it gets tested with time. I don't like people that pry too much about my personal life. All I need are some people that I could joke around with, and feel relaxed as we talk about sports.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
No of course i don't, because a true friend will only come out from those that we always have to interact with. When you see that you both have similar likes and dislikes, you will try to cultivate more on the friendship, until you become close.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
What I have noticed when I make friends is that. The people who talked a lot to me on the first day of knowing them are those that I have lost contact with or have never been my close friend. But those whom I don't speak with the first few days of meeting them are the one who became my good friends.
Usually when I met a new colleague, the initial conversation is so personal, It's awkward but sometimes it's hard not to answer it. I guess next time we should try to have some privacy about our personal matter =)
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
25 Nov 11
I need a good friend who helps me and who trust me and we must have mutual understanding each. My friend should not be a selfish one. We both should help each other at any time and at any cost. This should be the character of my good friend
@genteelhon (4)
•
26 Nov 11
Great question, I need a friend who has an interest to succeed in whatever field he is. Who can communicate his/her feelings at all times especially when they are angry with me and also do not keep grudges, A friend who feels good about his/her self.
He may not be perfect but he/she should try to be honest as often as possible........
@aggarwalrka (5)
• India
25 Nov 11
It really depends on you what type of friend you want. There are many categories of friends:Dependable,Reliable, Opportunist, Seasonal, occasional,etc. You have to identify a like minded friend with whom you can share everything from top secret to a minor thing. I will suggest you to choose a friend who is from a different profession than you. It will set your compatibility right to some extent since there is hardly a personal interest involved in the friendship. Wish you a Happy friendship.
@julianmac (396)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 11
Hi,
If possible, I would like a trustworthy and an honest person to be my friend. I really don't expect my friend to offer me a helping hand in time of need or stand by me through thick and thin. Like they say," Honesty is the best policy", and that's what I seek in a friendship.
I'm not into negative personalities and the needle noses either. I tend to avoid these kind of people most of the time. How nice it will be to meet someone that rides along in the same boat like we do.
I'd like to find a good friend who is caring at me and we are happy when we get together.A friend in need is a friend indeed.So i think this saying is sensible.lol @aquacan (216)
• China
25 Nov 11
Good day. I think the most important quality I look for from a friend is understanding. I think nowadays it's getting harder and harder for us to find someone who can really understand us and always give us support and comfort. That's why we feel stressed and lonely from time to time.
Also, there are times that I feel betrayed by someone. I opened my heart to them and told them about my secrets. But later I found myself a foolish because their leaking my secrets to others. But true friends would always keep your secret.
And thirdly, I need friends who can point out my shortcomings. Everyone has his own shortcomings. True friends can always tell us when we are making mistakes. They would do so even if that would cause unhappiness. Because they know it can do good to us.
@girl_thinking (1959)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
Hello kkanaka,
I'm a type of girl who doesn't make friends easily. Not that it's my choice, it is rather a personality thing. In person, I am really quiet that I barely make acquaintances. I think all my friends are from high shcool. Since then, I have not found a real friend whom I hang out with.
You are right, nowadays it is just so hard to find someone who is pleasant to talk with. I am scared of people who always say something bad about someone or something. It only means that that person is not very trustworthy.
Finding a good person who eventually become a friend is not an easy task though I believe that there is goodness in everyone. Life is just so complicated nowadays, people have changed so much.
What kind of friend do I need? Well, any kind of a good friend will do :)
@mirby25 (26)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
I need a friend who I can share my thoughts without hesitation. Someone who is willing to listen and stay by my side whenever I need a friend. An honest person, does not tell lies in order for me to be happy.
@julilene (21)
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25 Nov 11
finding a true friend indeed is a hard thing to do,especially in all the new places and all the strangers around us. as an individual i have always been on the go,from one country to the other,from one city to the other,from one town to the other.im in one place making friends,the next thing i know were about to move to another.so for me it has never been easy to really find a true friend and because of my condition i have come to learn to only trust my self as a true friend bec i know im the only person whom im not going to abandon.
