I am in a realtionship were in most of the time she wins...

What happen to you now is something that is common happen to other relations too. She has good meaning for to change your bad habit into good habit on her point of view. This mean that you are someone meaningful for her so that she wants you to be deserve for her and be good person. But this condition goes to bad thing whenever you don't enjoy it and feel forced to do it, so you feel the real you are. Having relation means that you both are joining two person in one unity. Unity those differences are not easy, it needs much toleration, patient, understanding and good communication. So, I think you have to discuss about your feeling now for being not comfort doing those she want in order to make your changes become big problems the next cos you don't enjoy it.

I hate to say this, but i think you will not be truly happy with this kind of one sided relationship, where her side should always prevail. As the man, you should also try to assert what you like. And she has to understand it also. If she truly loves you, she will not be domineering towards you.

hi deodavid oh my G take it from an old lady this is not right.I knowyou love her but she is trying to make you into somone else. Do you want to be remolded , does that sound good to you?no you are who she is supposed to be in love with but if she came into the relationship wanting to c hange you thats not the kind of love that lasts. unconditional love that you take'her the way she is and she takes you the way you are is the only love that lasts. if you marry with feeling like you dont reconginize your self it wont be long before the two of you are going to be in constant battle. you cannot go into a real relationship with the idea oh I love him or her but not that bossy way, not that way she or he does this or that,you cannot \change a person you love so yo you either love them the way they are or you find the person whom you do love just the way they are.It is not for the better to change yourself for her and I hear that a lot of what she is and does are not too happyifying for you either.,Love does not make people over it accepts them fau lts and all. talk to her tell her what you are telling us as I hate to see you changing who you are just so you can be a carbon copy only male of your su per clean super organized girlfriend.stand u p for you as you are. You are all you have.You sound like a nice person to me so do not remake yourself.

You are totally in-love, given the right choice and time now. Why? you have that open heart to understand well your partner needs. Seldom guys now do ADMIT their mistakes in a relationship, instead they focus on what is lacking in a relationship some have opted to cheat or just get away from that relationship. But, in your case you are turning to be a REAL MAN at all. IM sure she also cares for you that much, she is being transparent to you as much you are to her and in this way, I CAN SAY THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP GROWS MORE because both of you are working things out to adjust . It is because of TRUE_LOVE. When, you are sincere and believe that this love is worth, a person will not think twice instead patch things up for common good at least both of you have tried all your best to fight what love is all about right? I think she really do not mean to change you totally as a person, same as you wanted both of you to be great persons for each other. A good investment to have a GOOD RELATIONSHIP is a give and take relationship with great communication.WHERE things are patched easily and at the end of the day, the more you feel how important both of you for each other. Thanks for sharing that and more wishes and LOVE to come your hearts too.

Relationships are a lot of work. It really does involve commitment and self sacrifice from both partners. I think in a lot of relationships work out well when both individuals try and please one another. I do agree that at times we feel like we are losing part of ourselves or that perhaps our partner is but if we want to have a good relationship we have to be willing to give. So it all depends on what each individual wants out of life and the relationship.

Love is about giving, taking and compromising. To be honest I am surprised that you, as a man, has to give in each time, since mostly women do. Since you don't like it, this will break you. The only option you have is: tell her how you feel, what has to be changed if she wants you two to stay together. Write down what is most annoying, disturbing to you and with what kind of things you can live (give in/compromise). IF she start a fight, yelling or crying or playing the lovely gf ignore it. It's just show to get what she wants. What you want is an answer on your questions, a compromise to have a great life together. It's not great if you are always the underdog, unless you love that. If she can't do that for you she is not the one and NOT loving you at all.

Hi deodavid, Excuse me for saying this but I think you got yourself involved with queen control. I don't think she is being rational. She is dominating, over controlling and thinks she knows best when it comes to everything. There is nothing you can do to change this type of person. If she loves you then she needs to accept you for who you are. I'm sure you have your own unique ideas and there is certainly no such thing as non-sense thinking. You just might be at risk of losing your identity forever. Think twice before you make any commitment.

People tend to try to change one another when in relationship , thats a fact . The problem is how open you are to change and how much they want to change you . If you are open to change and you dont mind it try , if its not working then well sorry thats it . If they want to change you then it goes bad , fights start , and if you dont change it will keep going . Well in that situation if you dont want to change yourself and be someone else and be happy somehow (WTH how is that possible) with that , then go ahead . If you are not that i want to change myself they way you want me even though i dont like it , then go scrw you :D But we do change a little but when its forceful its not ok :) Just an opinion :)

Some girls seem perfectionist on their guy. She must be thankful for your lengthy patience in your relationship. If you are not happy with the treatment, its time for you to put some space and try to make her learn that there must be a give and take process in your relationship. Since you are very in love, then, you must accept her being rational. Eventually in time, she would love your flaws and make a strong foundation together. Stay in love! :)

Hi. Just an advice. Be the best that you can be. Girls always want to have their men, a person that they can be proud of. if you are the kind of guy who is a happy go lucky one, then u might want to slide down a bit. Make and do things that you are proud of to be you. Be responsible on your own way. Show her that you're not that irresponsible one. in a relationship, you really need to make an effort. Understand her and let her understand you. Don't be in that level where you just let her do all. Water your relationship with efforts and it would bloom the right time.

hi deodavid! Im a woman too and to tell you frankly we do have the same attitude..actually i do have that attitude because i wanted our relationship to be perfect but there is no such thing as perfect right? my man is also like you he tends to be what i want to be but he's happy and we are happy bec.we cn find out our relstionship's growin'. It is hard for the first time bec. she's changin you but i knows she really wants the best and for you to grow. When you are lovin you dont know and you cnt find yourself anymore because youre just doin your best to make her stay right? i know that girl is very happy to have a man like you,. All you gotta do is to put yourself in the stage of ACCEPTANCE, and you'll be happy..bec. when you relly love her you shoudn't have a second thought(^_^)